Browsing posts tagged with kink
Mar
15

Pleasure, Power, and Pain: An Introduction to BDSM

Thursday, May 21st — 7:30 p.m. — $20

BDSM — whips, chains, and lots of black leather, right? Well… sometimes! But the world of kink and BDSM covers so much more, from a little rough sex to the opportunity to explore your personal boundaries, both emotional and physical.

If you’ve been curious about something you’ve read, or turned on by a scene in a movie that’s a little rougher than the usual fare, this class is for you! You’ll learn how to use those amazing toys and have the chance to see what they feel like. We’ll also be discussing role play, power dynamics, and resources for finding the local BDSM community.

Bring your fantasies, your questions, and your curiosity and get ready for a hot evening!

Annamarie is a passionate sex educator with a knowledge fetish. Sexuality has been a life-long interest, with a focus on embracing our entire sexual selves, growing as erotic beings, and creating community. She has been presenting and teaching workshops on sexuality, polyamory, and BDSM in the Portland area and around the west coast since 2006. You can learn more at her website.

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Jan
25

Let’s Play with Rope Tonight!: A Friendly Introduction to Bondage

Sunday, March 1st — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Are you intrigued by the idea of tying someone up and having your way with them, or perhaps being restrained while someone does delightfully kinky things to you? Well, this class is designed to be a friendly first step towards that goal!

This class will cover the many hot ways bondage can be used (it’s not just about dominance, folks!), address safety concerns, and teach three simple and functional ties. We will then experiment with creative ways of applying these basic techniques to put people in a variety of compromising positions. Handouts and online video links will be distributed to help remind you of key skills when you get home.

Please come wearing comfortable clothes that you can move around in. You may want to come with a practice partner, but it isn’t necessary (please note that the $20 registration is per person). People of all genders and orientations are very welcome.

Chris is a happy, sex-positive perv who has been grinning his way through the kink scene for about eight years. He helps organize CockCircus, Seattle’s only public BDSM party for men, and enjoys evangelizing about the many virtues of bondage.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

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Dec
18

Even More Pleasure, Power, and Pain: Expanding Your BDSM Experiences

AnnamarieThursday, February 19th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Do you have a basic understanding of BDSM play? Perhaps you’ve read some of the how-to manuals, own some kinky toys, took a class or two, or have explored some sexy role play in the bedroom. Where do you go from here?

In this class, you’ll learn skills to help you build hot, intense scenes no matter what you’re into. We’ll cover how to take some of the BDSM basics a bit farther, plus learn some edgier types of play such as CBT, nipple/breast torment, and orgasm control. There will also be a discussion of public play — how to get invited to a party, what to expect, good etiquette, and more!

Be ready to try things out (optional, but so much fun!), ask questions, and share your experiences!

Annamarie is a passionate sex educator with a knowledge fetish. Sexuality has been a life-long interest, with a focus on embracing our entire sexual selves, growing as erotic beings, and creating community. She has been presenting and teaching workshops on sexuality, polyamory, and BDSM in the Portland area and around the west coast since 2006. You can learn more at her websites, Fierce Grace and PDX Kink Events.

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Dec
18

Pleasure, Power, and Pain: An Introduction to BDSM

Wednesday, January 28th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

BDSM — whips, chains, and lots of black leather, right? Well… sometimes! But the world of kink and BDSM covers so much more, from a little rough sex to the opportunity to explore your personal boundaries, both emotional and physical.

If you’ve been curious about something you’ve read, or turned on by a scene in a movie that’s a little rougher than the usual fare, this class is for you! You’ll learn how to use those amazing toys and have the chance to see what they feel like. We’ll also be discussing role play, power dynamics, and resources for finding the local BDSM community.

Bring your fantasies, your questions, and your curiosity and get ready for a hot evening!

Annamarie is a passionate sex educator with a knowledge fetish. Sexuality has been a life-long interest, with a focus on embracing our entire sexual selves, growing as erotic beings, and creating community. She has been presenting and teaching workshops on sexuality, polyamory, and BDSM in the Portland area and around the west coast since 2006. You can learn more at her website.

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May
27

Let’s Play with Rope Tonight!: A Friendly Introduction to Bondage

Sunday, July 27th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Are you intrigued by the idea of tying someone up and having your way with them, or perhaps being restrained while someone does delightfully kinky things to you? Well, this class is designed to be a friendly first step towards that goal!

This class will cover the many hot ways bondage can be used (it’s not just about dominance, folks!), address safety concerns, and teach three simple and functional ties. We will then experiment with creative ways of applying these basic techniques to put people in a variety of compromising positions. Handouts and online video links will be distributed to help remind you of key skills when you get home.

Please come wearing comfortable clothes that you can move around in. If you have rope or a soft mat, please bring them (otherwise we will have some extras that can be shared). You may want to come with a practice partner, but it isn’t necessary (please note that the $20 registration is per person). People of all genders and orientations are very welcome.

Chris is a happy, sex-positive perv who has been grinning his way through the kink scene for about eight years. He helps organize CockCircus, Seattle’s only public BDSM party for men, and enjoys evangelizing about the many virtues of bondage.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

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Apr
18

A little kink, a lot of confidence

kink-sex-cerebral-palsy“Sex with a disability is a tough sell,” writes a queer woman named Carrie, “but not (just) for the reasons people assume. In my experience, the hardest part isn’t convincing someone else you’re desirable — it’s convincing yourself that your body is worth pleasing.”

For her, one small act of kink gave her more permission for pleasure than she’d ever given herself.

Carrie has cerebral palsy, which manifests itself in a walk that resembles the cover of Cat Power’s Jukebox, foot braces adorned with rainbow straps, and various bodily aches and pains.

More broadly, her CP makes others treat her like an object of pity, like a child unable to make her own decisions and take her own risks. On top of this, she rarely sees bodies like hers — especially bodies like hers depicted as beautiful.

After college, Carrie met a woman named Alex online, and they began having sex. After a month or two, Alex proposed delving into some bondage. Carrie was intrigued; it was unusual for someone to ask her to take a physical risk. But, there was a problem. Alex admitted, “I’m afraid I’m going to hurt you.”

Carrie was upset.

What that said to me was, “this woman still thinks I’m a little girl.”

Up to that point, I thought I’d done everything “right”: cultivated a functional relationship, finally let someone see me with my clothes off, said yes to sex, talked about my body, listened about hers, been willing to try new things, behaved like an adult. But it turns out it hadn’t worked . . . she still saw me as vulnerable. Not in the way that brings people closer, mind you, but in the way that makes them afraid to touch you. Makes them think you’re breakable.

Instead of screaming in her face, which is what I really wanted, I turned her question back on her and asked: “Who’s better at pain than I am?”

It was a choice that paid off.

The next time they had sex, Alex blindfolded Carrie, then handcuffed her hands above her head. She pinched Carrie’s skin until her chest was covered in clothespins. Sitting back, Alex admired her partner and mused, “I’ve never been able to do that before. Nobody has been able to take that many.”

That was Carrie’s breakthrough.

It’s not often (i.e., almost never) that I get told I’m good at a physical activity. But now my body, which had spent so many years letting me down and making decisions without my consent, had gone and done something absolutely right — and done it better. It had done something other people’s bodies, “healthy” bodies, hadn’t been able to . . . that night, I realized that my pain tolerance and the things my body did well were assets rather than things to be run from or ashamed of. To know that what had been perceived (especially by me) as defective about my body was actually what made me desirable, powerful and sexy for the first time ever — that moment was beautiful.

Carrie’s experience of kink with her partner had a strong impact on how she viewed herself and her body. For once, her cerebral palsy was not overlooked. It was, instead, acknowledged and honored as an integral and unique part of her. Pleasure mixed with pain — and best of all, it was a pain that could be controlled. A pain that was purposeful. And a pain that felt good.

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Mar
29

Altered consciousness for sadomasochists?

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It may come as little surprise for those who regularly engage in BDSM, but researchers are proving why sadomasochism is so alluring: it may actually lead to a different level of consciousness.

James Ambler, a graduate student in psychology at Northern Illinois University, set out to understand why some people engage in sexual behaviors that others consider painful. He enlisted 14 “switches” (people who enjoy both giving and receiving pain), who were each randomly assigned a role for an ensuing sexual experience.

Afterward, participants took a cognitive test called the Stroop task and also reported on their “flow,” a state of focus and enjoyment that people enter when engrossed in an activity.

Both givers and receivers described similar levels of “flow” during the sexual experience, but pain-receivers produced lower Stroop task scores. Low Stroop scores are associated with short-term dips in function in the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, a part of the brain that manages memory and control.

What does this mean? It means that during sadomasochistic activities, the brain is forcing blood flow away from the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex — facilitating an altered state of consciousness.

This conclusion is bolstered by another couple of researchers at the same university. They studied “energy pulls,” during which folks get temporary skin piercings through which hooks and ropes are looped, then pulled taut. Saliva samples from the 22 participants showed a spike in cortisol, a stress hormone, during the ritual — but participants reported feeling both less stressed and more connected to others.

Researchers believe this disparity is due to an altered state of consciousness, as well as a reduction in function in that same dorsolateral prefrontal cortex. Among other things, that part of the brain is responsible for distinguishing the self from others, so less blood flow to the area can cause a sensation of oneness.

These results may be fairly general, but they lay the groundwork for future studies. Down the line, researchers hope to enact real-time monitoring of participants to examine the physiological and psychological components of BDSM and how they mingle during a sexual experience. Now that would be really interesting.

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Mar
18

Pleasure, Power, and Pain: An Introduction to BDSM

Wednesday, May 7th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

BDSM — whips, chains, and lots of black leather, right? Well… sometimes! But the world of kink and BDSM covers so much more, from a little rough sex to the opportunity to explore your personal boundaries, both emotional and physical.

If you’ve been curious about something you’ve read, or turned on by a scene in a movie that’s a little rougher than the usual fare, this class is for you! You’ll learn how to use those amazing toys and have the chance to see what they feel like. We’ll also be discussing role play, power dynamics, and resources for finding the local BDSM community.

Bring your fantasies, your questions, and your curiosity and get ready for a hot evening!

Annamarie is a passionate sex educator with a knowledge fetish. Sexuality has been a life-long interest, with a focus on embracing our entire sexual selves, growing as erotic beings, and creating community. She has been presenting and teaching workshops on sexuality, polyamory, and BDSM in the Portland area and around the west coast since 2006. You can learn more at her website.

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Jan
17

Let’s Play with Rope Tonight!: A Friendly Introduction to Bondage

Sunday, March 23rd — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Are you intrigued by the idea of tying someone up and having your way with them, or perhaps being restrained while someone does delightfully kinky things to you? Well, this class is designed to be a friendly first step towards that goal!

This class will cover the many hot ways bondage can be used (it’s not just about dominance, folks!), address safety concerns, and teach three simple and functional ties. We will then experiment with creative ways of applying these basic techniques to put people in a variety of compromising positions. Handouts and online video links will be distributed to help remind you of key skills when you get home.

Please come wearing comfortable clothes that you can move around in. If you have rope or a soft mat, please bring them (otherwise we will have some extras that can be shared). You may want to come with a practice partner, but it isn’t necessary (please note that the $20 registration is per person). People of all genders and orientations are very welcome.

Chris is a happy, sex-positive perv who has been grinning his way through the kink scene for about eight years. He helps organize CockCircus, Seattle’s only public BDSM party for men, and enjoys evangelizing about the many virtues of bondage.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

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Sep
16

Pleasure, Power, and Pain: An Introduction to BDSM

Sunday, November 10th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

BDSM — whips, chains, and lots of black leather, right? Well… sometimes! But the world of kink and BDSM covers so much more, from a little rough sex to the opportunity to explore your personal boundaries, both emotional and physical.

If you’ve been curious about something you’ve read, or turned on by a scene in a movie that’s a little rougher than the usual fare, this class is for you! You’ll learn how to use those amazing toys and have the chance to see what they feel like. We’ll also be discussing role play, power dynamics, and resources for finding the local BDSM community.

Bring your fantasies, your questions, and your curiosity and get ready for a hot evening!

Annamarie is a passionate sex educator with a knowledge fetish. Sexuality has been a life-long interest, with a focus on embracing our entire sexual selves, growing as erotic beings, and creating community. She has been presenting and teaching workshops on sexuality, polyamory, and BDSM in the Portland area and around the west coast since 2006. You can learn more at her website.

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