Aug
25

Fellatio 2.0: An Oral Sex Upgrade!

Thursday, July 11th — 7:30 p.m. — $25

Gretchen Leigh

You know the basics: your hand-mouth coordination is on point, you’ve timed your breathing to a T, and you have an A+ in anatomy. Now’s your chance to take things up a notch!

Join She Bop educator Gretchen Leigh as she takes you through the ins and outs and ups and downs of advanced fellatio. We’ll dive deep into deep throating, play with power dynamics (bondage, dirty talk, and CBT, anyone?), explore hot blow job techniques for non-traditional recipients including strap-ons, soft cocks, and enlarged clits, brush up on butt stuff, build ball-handling know-how, get creative with oral sex positions, and more!

Come one come all, fellatio aficionados and enthusiasts — this class is open to blow job givers and receivers of all genders and orientations. This class will include a live demo on a dildo; please feel free to bring a pen and paper if you’d like to take notes, or a toy from home if you’d like to practice as you learn!

Limited space available — sign up online!

We’re offering 2 free class spots to folks with financial need; please fill out this form if you are interested. Two people will be chosen randomly and contacted at least 2 weeks prior to class to confirm.

Aug
25

Communication in the Bedroom: Asking For What You Want

Wednesday, November 13th — 7:30 p.m. — $25

Stella Harris

Knowing what you want isn’t as easy as it sounds, and asking for it can be even trickier. Honesty puts us in a vulnerable place, opening us up to rejection or shame. People of all genders and sexualities have a lot of cultural baggage to work through, from messages implying that wanting sex or pleasure is slutty (and that that’s a bad thing) to ubiquitous sex tips that make it sound like we’re supposed to read our partners’ minds.

All of this sets us up for failure, and many people never take the chance to open a dialogue with their partner(s). But being able to talk about your wants and needs is the only way to get them met.

In this class we’ll talk about styles of communication, ways to put yourself and your partner at ease, and specific examples of tools and phrases to try. We’ll discuss how to start the conversation and how to incorporate communication into dirty talk. Not sure what to ask for? We’ll talk about some common fantasies you might want to try.

As always, there will be time for Q&A, and all genders and orientations are welcome.

Stella Harris is an author, educator, and coach who focuses on intimacy and connection. As a certified Intimacy Educator, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. She has presented classes for a variety of organizations including the Portland Leather Alliance, the Portland Academy of Sex Ed, Sex Positive Portland, and more, and has spoken at Portland State University, Reed College, and Pacific University. Stella is widely published in print and online, from erotic fiction to educational and lifestyle pieces on sex and kink.

Stella hopes to build a world where everyone has the tools and confidence to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame.

Limited space available — sign up online!

We’re offering 2 free class spots to folks with financial need; please fill out this form if you are interested. Two people will be chosen randomly and contacted at least 2 weeks prior to class to confirm.

Aug
25

A Whore’s Manifesto Book Reading + Q&A

Sunday, November 10th — 7:30 pm — FREE (with option to pre-order A Whore’s Manifesto at 10% off)

Kay Kassirer

Sex work was once thought to be anathema to women’s liberation. Now, to some, we represent the tenacity of women’s struggles under patriarchy and capitalism — that is, at least the white, straight, cis, able-bodied sex workers who don’t engage in actual sex with clients do. These are the workers who get the glossy media profiles and are touted as feminist icons. But the red umbrella is wide and covers many: escorts, sugar babies, strippers, session wrestlers, cam performers, fetish models, DIY queer porn stars, and the full range of gender, race and ability. Our work and our identities are as vast and variable as the spectrum of sexuality itself.

A Whore’s Manifesto isn’t a collection of sob stories of heartbroken whores. This is a testament of life at ground zero of sexual discourse, the songs of canaries in the coal mines of sex, gender, class, race, and disability. Join contributors Kay Kassirer, Julia Laxer, and Ana Suarez for a reading from the collection.

Choose from two RSVP options:

  • RSVP only (free)
  • RSVP and purchase A Whore’s Manifesto at a 10% discount ($11.70), to be picked up in-store the night of the event*

Books will also be available at a special discounted price the night of the event.

Kay Kassirer (they/them) is a poet, activist, youth advocate, and community organizer. They have been a full-time sex worker since 2015, after being relieved from their previous job for having “too many panic attacks.” They have toured internationally with the chapbooks Confessions of a Queer and Unbandage the Wounds, and have earned their place on several competitive final stages — notably the Capturing Fire International Queer Slam (2016), the Canadian Individual Poetry Slam (2016, 2017, 2019), and the Canadian Festival of Spoken Word, where they placed third nationally (2018). 

Julia Laxer lives for the stories and writes in the afternoons from a messy desk in a rose-lit room in Portland, Oregon. She uses performance art and spiritual practice to explore archetype and ritual in poetry, essays, erotica, and memoir. 

Anna Suarez explores themes of identity, embodiment, and interpersonal relationships through an erotic lens and in the forms of poetry, fiction, and memoir. She holds a bachelor’s degree in philosophy and French from Portland State University. Her poetry collection, Papi Doesn’t Love Me No More, published with CLASH Books, will be released in 2019.

* If you purchase the book option but do not attend the event, you will be responsible for picking up your book at our Mississippi location.

Limited space available — sign up online!

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Aug
25

Polyam Dating 201

Thursday, November 7th — 7:30 pm — $25

Dr. Liz

Do you find yourself anxious and scared when your sweetie is on a date with someone else? Have you hurt a sweetie’s feelings with how you came back to them after a date you were on with someone else? Time to take your multiamorous dating skills to the next level!

So many people in non-monogamous relationships feel like dating can be rough. When a partner is off with someone else, they feel fear, anxiety, jealousy, and insecurity. They try everything they can think of to get past it, but are still struggling. On the other side, some folks come back from a date, high and happy, to find their energy is hard for their sweetie to receive. They inadvertently step on toes and create conflict when they just wanted to share their excitement or disappointment.

In Polyam Dating 201, we’ll cover the skills needed to move more smoothly through your dating life. We’ll look at how to take care of yourself while your partner is on a date with someone else and we’ll examine how you can decompress after a date to return to your sweetie in a way that brings you closer.

Don’t keep beating yourself up for struggling with plural dating, build the skills to help both you and your partners make dating easier on everyone involved!

Dr. Liz believes that great sex can change the world. She’s a sex educator, coach and licensed psychologist (CA 27871) specializing in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Liz has helped couples and singles become more confident in who they are and communicate more effectively with their partners. You can learn more about Dr. Liz and her work on her website.

Limited space available — sign up online!

She Bop and #open recognize that polyamory-related events are sometimes inaccessible to underrepresented communities. That’s why our friends at #open, an inclusive and sex-positive community and dating app, are generously offering to cover the cost of attendance for up to 10 people with financial need! To apply for these scholarship spots, please email us at events@sheboptheshop.com with the class title in the subject line and your full name. We will email you back within 4 days to let you know if you have received a scholarship spot. Please only apply for a spot if you are certain you will be able to attend.

Aug
4

Retail General Manager Opportunity

She Bop is a women-owned sex toy boutique specializing in body safe products and education. Our mission is to promote healthy and safe sexuality by offering quality products and educational workshops in a fun and comfortable environment. We are currently seeking a General Manager to fill one of the most exciting retail jobs Portland, Oregon has to offer! You will manage all aspects of the daily operations of the retail sales floor and support our team at our Mississippi location. This position ranges from 35-40 hours per week with weekend and evening availability a must. Applicant must have reliable transportation to meet the needs of either location. Visit our website for more information: www.sheboptheshop.com.

She Bop welcomes all applicants and is committed to creating a diverse environment.

Please apply if you: 

  • have 2+ years previous retail management job experience. 
  • are a proven strategic leader that leads by example, builds by consensus, and embraces change in a positive, fast paced team environment.
  • enjoy leading teams to success through clear direction and support. 
  • have the ability to self motivate and able to manage change effectively.
  • have an interest in promoting sex positivity and are comfortable with talking about sexuality.

Position Overview:

  • Oversee all aspects of managing the retail environment.
  • Positively support team members and empower them to be successful both individually and within the team.
  • Hold staff accountable for meeting the expectations of their positions.
  • Hire, train, review, and hold sales staff accountable. 
  • Resolve staff issues and concerns and seek assistance from the management team as needed
  • Create and manage employee schedule according to payroll budget to ensure optimal coverage at proper times and to minimize overstaffing.
  • Prepare payroll and monitor staff timesheets
  • Handle cash deposits
  • Meet weekly with the CEO and CFO to set weekly goals, review progress and receive additional training as needed

Physical Demands and Work Environment:

This position requires standing and walking for up to 10 hours per day.  It also requires lifting a minimum of 25 lbs, bending, and climbing a step ladder during the shifts to complete the required tasks.

If you would like to join our team please email a cover letter and resume by 8/15/19 to: resumes@sheboptheshop(dot)com with your name first in the subject line.

You must be 18 years or older to apply for this position. Compensation starts between $50,000 and $60,000 D.O.E. Benefits include: 50% of medical, dental and vision insurance covered by the company with a minimum of 30 hours per week, Simple IRA with a 3% match, employee discount, Paid Time off, and educational opportunities.

She Bop is an equal opportunity employer and all qualified applicants will receive consideration for employment without regard to race, color, religion, gender, gender identity or expression, sexual orientation, national origin, genetics, disability, age, or veteran status.

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Aug
4

Assistant Buyer Job Opportunity

She Bop is a women-owned sex toy boutique specializing in body safe products and education. Our mission is to promote healthy and safe sexuality by offering quality products and educational workshops in a fun and comfortable environment. We are currently seeking an Assistant Buyer to support the Owner/Buyer on purchasing, inventory and merchandising. This exciting position requires about 20 hours per week with weekend availability a must. Applicant must have a reliable vehicle for transportation. Visit our website for more information: www.sheboptheshop.com.

She Bop welcomes all applicants and is committed to creating a diverse environment.

Please apply if you have: 

  • 2+ years previous retail experience,
  • strong organizational skills and a desire to promote sex positivity,
  • some experience transferable to being a retail buyer,
  • and previous customer service experience.

Assistant Buyer Job Overview:

  • Work with Buyer to order merchandise within allotted budget
  • Resolve purchase order issues with vendors
  • Responsible for invoicing vendor POs, checking payment and posting in Lightspeed as applicable
  • Research new products and vendors to expand the She Bop offerings 
  • Continuously work to improve product knowledge through product training and research
  • Attend trade shows and buying events as directed by Buyer
  • Work with GM and AGM to oversee stock levels and limit shrinkage
  • Responsible for monthly inventory reporting to Executive Team
  • Analyze product sales figures, strategize product mix and seasonal inventory with CEO
  • Maintain adequate stock of shipping supplies
  • Deal with all aspects of preparing and shipping web orders
  • Handle customer special order requests
  • Transfer product from one shop to another and pick up product from local vendors

Physical Demands and Work Environment:

This position requires standing and walking for up to 10 hours per day.  It also requires lifting a minimum of 25 lbs, bending, and climbing a step ladder during the shifts to complete the required tasks.

If you would like to join our team please email a cover letter and resume by 8/15/19 to: resumes@sheboptheshop(dot)com with your name first in the subject line.

You must be 18 years or older to apply for this position. Compensation starts between $17-22 per hour. D.O.E. Benefits include: 50% of medical, dental and vision insurance covered by the company with a minimum of 30 hours per week, Simple IRA with a 3% match, employee discount, Paid Time off, and educational opportunities. This position can be combined with other positions within the company such as Sales Associate, Lead Associate, Social Media Content Producer.

She Bop is an equal opportunity employer and all qualified applicants will receive consideration for employment without regard to race, color, religion, gender, gender identity or expression, sexual orientation, national origin, genetics, disability, age, or veteran status.

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Jul
28

Eating Out: Your Recipe for Outstanding Oral Sex

Thursday, October 24th — 7:30 p.m. — $25

Gretchen Leigh

Cunnilingus-curious? Vulva vocationalist? Muff-diving master? Whether you’re well-versed in the art of going down or a newbie in need of a 101, we could all use a little brush-up every once in awhile. In this class, Gretchen Leigh will cover vulva anatomy, tongue techniques, safer sex tools, getting your hands (and toys!) into the action, creative positioning for various body types, and most importantly — how to request, give, and receive constructive feedback on your technique! Come get your clit questions answered and your cunt concerns addressed in this comfortable, gender-affirming, body-positive class.

Gretchen Leigh is an educator, personal trainer, athlete, model, advocate, and performer, dedicated to helping people find the confluence of physical, mental, and sexual health. Though she has made a name for herself in the sex ed world with classes such as “Strap it to me: Strap-on sex for Everybody” and “Fellatio 2.0: An Oral Sex Upgrade,” she maintains a passion for health education, and is currently the go-to resource for many on sex after cancer, pelvic floor health, and more. You can regularly find Gretchen slinging sex toys at She Bop, lifting heavy things in a singlet, or talking about feminism to strangers (with permission, of course).

Limited space available — sign up online!

We’re offering 2 free class spots to folks with financial need; please fill out this form if you are interested. One person will be chosen randomly and contacted at least 2 weeks prior to class to confirm.

Jul
28

Flip the Script: Intro to Femdom

Thursday, October 17th — 7:30 pm — $25

Natasha Strange and Viola Parker

Natasha Strange & Viola Parker join forces to share their combined insight as experienced professional dominants. This class is for those at the early stages of exploring, looking to shed the standard expectations of gender, summon your inner dominance, and further explore your feminine power. In addition to establishing strategies for stepping into your dominant mindset, this workshop will explore scene ideas and dirty tricks for topping. Both Natasha and Viola are playful and approachable instructors, covering the basics while giving you insight and anecdotes from behind the scenes.

For individuals or couples at any stage of exploration, this workshop is geared to all shades of femme-identified tops and their partners. Submissives of any gender and presentation are welcome to join with or without a partner. Ticket price is per person.

Mistress Viola is a kinky queer BDSM obsessive with 10 years of professional domination under her garters. Beginning as an apprentice at a house of domination in San Francisco, Mistress Viola has relocated to Portland, OR and over the last five years she has branched from one on one sessions into couples coaching, teaching beginner BDSM workshops, and creating epic local FemDom events and play parties – running two popular monthly play parties 50 Shades of STFU and QUINK! at Sanctuary. She is fiercely devoted to fostering kink community and creating space for kinksters to learn, play, and express who they are without judgement or shame. 

Natasha Strange has been playing professionally for 25 years and has a deep understanding of what draws people to kink. She specializes in creative sadistic escapism and offers sessions in a wide variety of disciplines as well as BDSM coaching for women and couples who are interested in bringing kinky play into their lives. She is the author of a BDSM primer for adults who are curious about kink called Kinky Sex Tips for Curious Girls: A BDSM Activity Book for Beginners. It’s full of color pages, fun activities, puzzles and solid information about kink, consent and communication.

Limited space available — sign up online!

We’re offering 2 free class spots to folks with financial need; please fill out this form if you are interested. One person will be chosen randomly and contacted at least 2 weeks prior to class to confirm.

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Jul
28

Relationships on Purpose

Sunday, October 13th — 7:30 pm — $25

Dr. Liz Powell

Are you tired of falling into relationships that don’t fit for you? Do you feel like you’re not getting your needs met by your partners? Learn how to stop feeling frustrated and start getting what you want and need from your relationships!

Most people when they date “end up” in their relationships. What if we consciously designed them instead? Instead of worrying that no one will ever “get” you, or that you’re doomed to failed relationships, this class by Dr. Liz will set you up with a “user manual” that will help any partner show up for you the way you want and need!

In this workshop, we’ll practice thinking about the factors that make for a strong relationship that’s the right fit for you. You’ll explore what commitment means to you and what commitments you’re making to your partners and yourself. In addition, you’ll get dedicated time to explore what your wants and needs look like in relationships, looking at factors like time, how you feel love, how you show love, and the nitty gritty of how relationships unfold.

Stop building your relationships without a blueprint — construct your relationships on purpose!

Dr. Liz believes that great sex can change the world. She’s a sex educator, coach and licensed psychologist (CA 27871) specializing in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Liz has helped couples and singles become more confident in who they are and communicate more effectively with their partners. You can learn more about Dr. Liz and her work on her website.

Limited space available — sign up online!

She Bop and #open recognize that polyamory-related events are sometimes inaccessible to underrepresented communities. That’s why our friends at #open, an inclusive and sex-positive community and dating app, are generously offering to cover the cost of attendance for up to 10 people with financial need! To apply for these scholarship spots, please email us at events@sheboptheshop.com with the class title in the subject line and your full name. We will email you back within 4 days to let you know if you have received a scholarship spot. Please only apply for a spot if you are certain you will be able to attend.

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Jul
28

BJs with AJ: A Fellatio Workshop

Thursday, October 3rd — 7:30 pm — $25

Amory Jane (AJ)

HEADS UP! Are you a giver who wants to blow your lover’s mind with your incredible oral sex skills? Are you a receiver who wants to learn how to communicate your fantasies and help your partner have fun and be comfortable while going down? Then come one, come all! This is a blowjob class for everyone!

Amory Jane will talk about anatomy, blowjob positions, teasing, mouth and tongue techniques, what to do with your hands, and how to ask for what you want. She will cover sloppy BJs, deep throating, gagging, and playing with power dynamics. She will also share ideas on making oral sex more stimulating and pleasurable for the giver and dealing with issues such as TMJ or neck pain.

This workshop includes a live demo on a strap-on dildo. Bring a pen and paper if you like to take notes, and a dildo from home if you like to practice as you learn!

Limited space available — sign up online!

We’re offering 2 free class spots to folks with financial need; please fill out this form if you are interested. One person will be chosen randomly and contacted at least 2 weeks prior to class to confirm.

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