Aug
1

Guide to STP (stand-to-pee) devices

PstylesSummer is here and during such an outdoorsy season, stand-to-pee devices (STPs) are more sought after than ever! STPs make it possible for any person with a vulva to pee standing up — no more hovering awkwardly over porta potties at concerts or leaving your butt bug-vulnerable when camping. STPs can also be essential to a trans person wanting to use a urinal discreetly and comfortably. Thinking about where and when you are going to be using your STP can help steer you toward the perfect one for your needs.

We carry quite a few STP devices and prosthetics, all of which are non-porous and therefore easy to clean. The pStyle, for example, is an inexpensive option and relatively simple to use. When placed under the urethra, it serves as a funnel for the urinary stream. Because the pStyle is made of rigid plastic, many people find it easier to use than softer silicone STPs — however, it cannot be folded up for transport. The pStyle comes in a variety of different colors, and we have several super cute carrying cases to choose from!

Fenis and Mr. Fenis

Want a softer STP? The Fenis and Mr. Fenis are fairly inexpensive silicone options. Mr. Fenis comes in flesh-like tones and has a realistic head at the end of the shaft. (Although Mr. Fenis looks more realistic, it is not meant for packing.) Both the Fenis and Mr. Fenis are very pliable, making them foldable and portable, but you want to be sure the base is cupped securely against the body to prevent any dribble.

Model DIf you’re looking for something more realistic that can double as a packer, the Model D and Model D Sport are good options. They are essentially the same product, but the Model D has slightly larger balls. These products are made of silicone, come in several skin tone colors, and don’t require any attachments to be used as STPs. For packing, the Model D and Model D Sport can fold down to create a natural-looking bulge. The Slingshot Harness is specifically designed to hold these models securely in place. However, packing undies like the Spareparts Pete (or even just snug-fitting briefs or boxer briefs with a pouch) can work fine; you might just want to take extra precaution that everything is properly adjusted. As with any packer, pick a size that works best for your body and think about how much of a bulge you want making an appearance.

Sam the STPSam the STP by New York Toy Collective is the newest addition to our STP collection and can serve as both a packer and STP. It’s made of medical grade silicone, yet softer than the Model D and Model D Sport, and therefore easier to fold up if you don’t want to be packing. Sam has a wide open base that extends down to the balls, making this STP fairly straightforward to use. Since the base of Sam needs to connect with the body, any sort of packing underwear or harness that is open at the back would work fine with this model.

Before using any STP in public, we recommend trying it out in the shower to get a feel for how it works. Some STPs take a little practice to gauge how much urinary flow control you’re going to need to prevent any spills or dribbles. As always, we are more than happy to answer any questions you may have about any of our products. If you’re local, pop into the shop so you can see them for yourself!

Jul
31

Communication in the Bedroom: Asking For What You Want

Stella HarrisSunday, October 9th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Knowing what you want isn’t as easy as it sounds, and asking for it can be even trickier. Honesty puts us in a vulnerable place, opening us up to rejection or shame. People of all genders and sexualities have a lot of cultural baggage to work through, from messages implying that wanting sex or pleasure is slutty (and that that’s a bad thing) to ubiquitous sex tips that make it sound like we’re supposed to read our partners’ minds.

All of this sets us up for failure, and many people never take the chance to open a dialogue with their partner(s). But being able to talk about your wants and needs is the only way to get them met.

In this class we’ll talk about styles of communication, ways to put yourself and your partner at ease, and specific examples of tools and phrases to try. We’ll discuss how to start the conversation and how to incorporate communication into dirty talk. Not sure what to ask for? We’ll talk about some common fantasies you might want to try.

As always, there will be time for Q&A, and all genders and orientations are welcome.

Stella Harris is an author, educator, and coach who focuses on intimacy and connection. As a certified Intimacy Educator, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. She has presented classes for a variety of organizations including the Portland Leather Alliance, the Portland Academy of Sex Ed, Sex Positive Portland, and more, and has spoken at Portland State University, Reed College, and Pacific University. Stella is widely published in print and online, from erotic fiction to educational and lifestyle pieces on sex and kink.

Stella hopes to build a world where everyone has the tools and confidence to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame.

Limited space available — sign up online!

Jul
31

Exploring Burlesque: Striptease Salon

Wednesday, October 5th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Have you ever wanted to rock your boa? Peel your stocking? Shimmy your hips? Get your glamour puss on because this class is for you! Join Orchestre L’Pow producer Madison Moone for Striptease Salon, a flirty evening of classic bump and grind perfect for beginners or just the curious.

Students will be guided through a sexy burlesque movement study including bumps, grinds and struts, followed by a tantalizing round of peeling techniques and prop dancing. We will also explore classic burlesque characters before constructing a series of short teases as a group. Together, we will discover a deeper sense of our personal erotic being while developing a greater appreciation for our feminine power!

Students should dress in comfortable clothes such a yoga or dance wear. Music and demo props will be provided by Miss Moone. All levels of fitness welcome, no dance experience or nudity required. Please avoid alcohol consumption before attending and arrive by 7:20 p.m. — class will begin promptly at 7:30 p.m., no late entrance after 7:45 p.m. No photographs are permitted. There will be time for shopping after the class!

Grab your best girlfriends and join Miss Moone for an evening of fun, laughs and celebration of the female spirit. See you in class!

Limited space available — sign up online!

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Jul
31

Back That Ass Up!: Anal Sex 101

Thursday, September 22nd — 7:30 p.m. — $20

AJ (aka Amory Jane)Are you interested in anal pleasure but not sure where to get started? Already tried anal play but wanting to learn some fun tricks and techniques? Whether you’re brand new to the wonderful world of anal or already have some backdoor experience, this class is sure to teach you something new!

In this educational and humorous workshop, AJ will confront taboos, go over anal anatomy, prostate, and the G-spot, discuss anal penetration for beginners, and show great positions for anal sex. She’ll also cover safety and hygiene and give you the inside scoop on all the best lubes and anal toys! This class is open to all genders and sexual appetites.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a sex-positive relationship coach.

Limited space available — sign up online!

Jul
31

Strap it to Me! Strap-on Sex for Everybody

Sunday, September 11th — 7:30 pm — $15

Gretchen and SidBuckles and straps and dildos, oh my! Strapping it on can feel a little overwhelming at first. Luckily, strap-on sex is one of Gretchen and Sid’s favorite teaching topics!

Are you new to the world of strap-ons? Curious about pegging but not sure where to start? Looking to gain some extra cock-confidence while wearing a harness? In the market for a new strap-on but not sure which dildo would be the best choice? Join She Bop’s very own Gretchen Leigh and Sid Need as they walk you through the ins and outs of strap-on sex! This fun and informative class will cover pegging, how to choose a harness and dildo, packing/playing, penetration, positions for all body types and abilities, how to get more comfortable using your strap-on, and tips for adding a little extra fun for the wearer. Participants of all genders, orientations, size, abilities and experience are welcome.

Sid Need is a certified sex coach, educator, and one of She Bop’s long-time staff members. Gretchen Leigh is a sex educator and strength coach, often found representing She Bop around town as a resident in-house and off-site educator. With their shared academic background in psychology and gender, and their mutual passion for inclusive, comprehensive sex education, Gretchen and Sid use playfulness, humor, experience, and compassion to tackle the topic of strap-on sex for everybody.

Limited space available — sign up online!

Jul
28

10% Tuesdays in August for Bitch Media

Bitch: the Blue Issue10% Tuesdays for Bitch are back! Throughout the month of August, 10% of our sales on Tuesdays will go to the non-profit organization Bitch Media. Bitch’s mission is to encourage an engaged, thoughtful feminist response to mainstream media and popular culture.

Check out Bitch’s toy, lube, and book recommendations for some ideas on what to snag!

We are big fans of Bitch. They’re an invaluable voice in the feminist discourse. We constantly find ourselves wanting to signal boost the stuff they publish — like their account of dildo innovation, their history of American sex ed films, their interview with the author of Big Big Love, their sex worker series “The H-Word,” their interview with sex diary purveyor Arianne Cohen, and their BDSM series “Thinking Kink.”

But it’s not just their blog that’s amazing; their print magazine, which has been in circulation since 1996, is still going strong. Bitch also hosts awesome events, fosters a community lending library at their headquarters in NE Portland, and publishes an array of fun podcasts for your listening pleasure. Follow them on Facebook and Twitter for up-to-the-minute tidbits!

Whether you are a long-time devotee or a newbie to this awesome magazine and non-profit organization, you can now be a supporter and get some fabulous sex toys to boot. Drop by She Bop or shop online on any Tuesday in August to support Bitch!

Jul
27

Win tickets to CineKink PDX!

Want to snag tickets to the one-night-only CineKink PDX, taking place Tuesday, August 9th, at the Clinton Street Theater? Of course you do!

We’re giving away one pair of tickets to each screening that night. Choose which screening you’d like to attend, then enter using the widget below.

Best of CineKink — 7 p.m. — A selection of award-winning shorts deemed the best during CineKink’s festival run. This year’s collection runs the gamut of genres and sexual proclivities, with documentary, comedy, experimental, and dramatic shorts.

Schnick Schnack Schnuck — 9 p.m. — A playful take on sex and jealousy, love and relationships, monogamy and polyamory, this charming farce is a refreshingly up-to-date and sun-dappled homage to 1970s porn.

Winners must be over 18. Giveaway ends at 11:59 pm PST on Friday, August 5th. We will notify winners via email by the evening of August 6th.

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Jul
24

The Joys of Toys!

Wednesday, September 7th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Join She Bop’s very own Gretchen for an evening of education and fun. Ever wandered around a sex toy shop and wondered “what the heck is that?” Never fear, Gretchen will answer those burning (in a good way) questions and then some!

In this class you will learn how sex toys originated and have advanced throughout history. Gretchen will explain the different types of toys, what they are used for and what they are made from, including vibrators, dildos, kegel exercisers, anal toys, toys for BDSM and more. Of course, don’t forget one of the most important things of all… yes, that would be lube! Gretchen will go over the different types of lube, as well as the ingredients to be aware of when selecting the best product for you. She will also address how to clean and store your toys so that you can enjoy them for as long as possible.

As a special bonus, class attendees get 10% off their purchases in She Bop the night of the Joys of Toys class!

This workshop is open to all genders and sexual appetites!

Limited space available — sign up online!

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Jul
17

Full-Bodied Fellatio

Thursday, September 1st — 7:30 p.m. — $20

What do you do when your partner lacks blowjob skills? Where do you go for training when you wish to improve your own? Here!

M. Makael Newby is a relationship coach and dance instructor with a particular skill for breaking physical action into components and teaching them with enthusiasm… and blowjobs are one of her favorite things. This class will educate both the givers and receivers. Come learn about creating anticipation, communication, preparing for success, hand skills, tongue tricks, prostate massage, deep throating, sloppy BJs, choking and forced gagging for both bio and strap-on penises. Live demo (on dildo) included.

Many of these techniques are included in My Erotic Adventure, her choose-your-own styled erotic novel. Get empowered to give and receive extraordinary head!

Limited space available — sign up online!

Jun
19

Rough Sex for Nice Folks

Reid MihakoTuesday, August 16th — 7:30 pm — $20

If you’re a lover, not a fighter, but you or your lover like it a little rough, let America’s favorite sex geek Reid Mihalko show you how you can safely be a badass in bed. From wrestling to rough sex to advanced ergonomic techniques, join us for this humorous and informative workshop (with live demos!) on how to unleash your rougher side in the bedroom.

In this class for all genders and orientations we’ll cover:

  • The best sex positions, proper body positioning, and ergonomics for harder, stronger, and longer sex
  • Why and how wrestling can be a turn-on
  • Wrestling techniques that are safe, easy and fun
  • Hair-pulling 101
  • How to move your partner’s body around the bed with more ease
  • And much more!

No matter your experience level, orientation, or relationship status, this class is going to be educational, fun, and give you tons of ideas for how to incorporate rougher elements into your play. We’ll even have plenty of room for your questions!

Reid Mihalko helps adults and college students create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information. He frequently speaks at colleges and universities, and regularly appears in the media sharing his views on consent, dating, and shame-free sexuality.

Limited space available — sign up online!

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