Anal Pleasure for Everybody

Thursday, October 13th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Often thought of with fear or fantasy, anal sex and pleasure is a world just waiting for exploration. Join expert sex educator Felice Shays in this fun, relaxed workshop as she discusses warming up the mind and body, giving and receiving anal pleasure, lube, cleanliness and health, anal anatomy, the G-spot and prostate, toys, anal penetration, and even a few ideas for anal stealth fun. A good time for all ass owner/operators.

Known for her straight talk infused with humor, Felice Shays provides personal sexual and BDSM education across the US and Canada. A recent transplant from Brooklyn, NY, Felice provides sex counseling to individuals and couples, and has presented at a plethora of events, groups, and private functions for a decade. Felice also produces sex parties for women and trans people.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

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Cyndi Lauper to open home for LGBT youth

Cyndi Lauper, the spunky ’80s icon who inspired the name of our shop with her masturbation-embracing ditty, “She Bop,” has a fantastic plan in the works: she’s opening a housing facility for LGBT youth in New York.

The True Colors Residence will consist of 30 energy-efficient studio apartments and several community spaces. The home will be more than just a roof over the residents’ heads — while living at True Colors, residents will also be assisted with employment and offered a range of social and educational support services.

True Colors Residence will be the first ever permanent housing facility for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender youth in the state of New York. A large percentage of homeless youth identify as LGBT.

Lauper’s goal is simple, yet poignant:

Our primary goal is to provide a physically and emotionally safe and supportive environment that will empower our young residents to be the self-loving, happy, and successful individuals they were meant to be.

Lauper is also the creator of the Give a Damn campaign, which works to educate people about the inequalities and discrimination that LGBT folks face.

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Back to school giveaway!

It’s back to school season again, and this year we want to help you celebrate! We’ve compiled two fun kits to give away to our lovely followers, both aimed at providing education as well as pleasure. Read about them here, then scroll down for instructions on how to enter (hint: it’s easy!).

Clit kit

Je Joue MiMi + Blossom Organics lube + Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasms DVD

Focus on the clit with this kit! The Je Joue MiMi vibe fits nicely in the hand, and its vibrations range from a soft rumble to a powerful buzz. Blossom Organics lube is a great all-around water-based lube — not too thick nor too thin. And Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasms is a sexy lesson in all the different ways folks can experience and achieve orgasm.

G-spot kit

Rocket Toyfriend Starlet + Hathor Pure lube + Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot book

Find your G-spot with this kit! The Rocket Toyfriend Starlet is a 100% silicone vibrator with an angled head for pinpoint G-spot stimulation. Water-based Hathor Pure lube is semi-thick, but nice and smooth. And Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot provides a wealth of information and tips about G-spotting and squirting, so you’ll know just what to do.

How to enter

Each of these earns you one entry. You may do as many or as few as you’d like. You must comment on this post when you do any of these, and you must include the name of the kit you want, or you will not receive the entries. You do not need to post separate comments for each entry.

  • Leave a comment on this post telling us about one of your favorite back-to-school memories.
  • Follow us on Twitter.
  • Tweet about this giveaway (one entry per tweet, with a maximum of five). Use this text, or create your own: It’s back to school season, and @SheBopTheShop is giving away two educational sex toy kits! Enter to win here:
  • “Like” us on Facebook.
  • Subscribe to this blog’s RSS feed or sign up for blog email updates (this will send you updates from the blog, and is different from our newsletter).
  • Blog about this giveaway, or post about it on Facebook or Tumblr.

Restrictions: winner must be over 18 and live in the U.S.

This giveaway ends on Thursday, September 15th at 11:59 p.m. Pacific time.

The winner will be chosen by random draw.


Back to school sale — 15% off with college ID, plus a sale table

Are you in need of some sexy items for the new school season? We want to help you out! From Thursday, September 1st through Labor Day (Monday, September 5th), get 15% off your entire purchase at She Bop by showing us your college ID.

Additionally, September 1st through 5th, the entire Bswish line —  BgoodBcuteBgeeBnaughty, and Bnaughty Unleashed — are all 20% off, as are the Fun Factory Elegance and Double Toyfriend Bossy. If you’re in need of a harness, now is the time, as we have a few Joques and Theos that are marked down by a whopping 30%!

We’ll have a sale table set up in the shop that is open to everyone. At the sale table, we have some DVDs on sale as well as some other miscellaneous stuff that needs new homes. Come peruse it to find some awesome deals on quality sex toys!

[Note: Student discount and sale mark-downs cannot be combined.]


Tease a Peel: Classic Burlesque Peeling Techniques

Wednesday, September 28th — 7:15 p.m. — $15

Portland burlesque sensation Madison Moone is back by popular demand with a sultry new class sure to awaken your inner diva!

Students will be guided through a sexy burlesque movement study including bumps, grinds and struts, followed by a tantalizing round of peeling techniques. We will explore classic tools of the trade such as nylon stockings and opera length gloves while learning graceful transitions to help you tease with ease! Class will conclude with a sassy group striptease, leaving you and your girlfriends feeling like glamazons!

Students should dress in comfortable clothes; shorts or a skirt are preferred. Please bring your favorite heels (slip ons are best), nylon stockings, and elbow length gloves for peeling. Miss Moone will have extras on hand. All levels of fitness welcome; no dance experience or nudity required. Please avoid alcohol consumption before attending and arrive by 7:15 p.m. Class will begin promptly at 7:30 p.m, with no late entrance after 7:45 p.m. No photographs are permitted.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

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The problem with identity-based sex toy categories

Perhaps you’ve seen these category labels in online sex shops before: “gay sex toys,” “lesbian sex toys,” “sex toys for women,” “sex toys for men.” Some retailers take this approach because they assume it makes it easier for the consumer to find a toy that suits them.

At She Bop we disagree, which is why we were impressed by this lovely article by Cory Silverberg, “Identity Based Sex Toy Shopping.” This article deftly explains why categorizing sex toys based on gender identity or sexual orientation is problematic. These categories are centered around assumptions and stereotypes. They are limiting at best — and offensive at worst.

Categories such as “gay sex toys” and “lesbian sex toys” are not only useless — they’re insulting. Often these categories exist to set queer people apart from other shoppers, implying that only a handful of toys are available to them, whereas the entire catalog is open to straight/non-queer shoppers. And, as Silverberg puts it,

Knowing someone is gay tells you something about who they may be having sex with (if they are even having partnered sex at the time), but it tells you nothing about how they feel pleasure in their body, what parts of their body they like to engage when having sex, or what the context or details of the sex play are . . .

If I am a lesbian, and I start my sex toy shopping by clicking on the “lesbian sex toy” category on some sex shop website I am immediately narrowing my options based on someone else’s (usually misguided and narrow-minded) understanding of the kind of things lesbians find sexually pleasurable.

A similar issue exists with “sex toys for men” and “sex toys for women.” These categorizes are extremely insensitive to those who don’t fit into the gender binary. They also assume that gender somehow dictates the type of toy a person will like, and that simply isn’t true.

. . . we shouldn’t confuse anatomy with gender. Not everyone who is a man has the same body parts. All women don’t feel pleasure in the same way from the same areas of their body. And you’ll notice that for the most part when companies and retailers talk about gender they only give you the two options. Plenty of us experience gender as something more complicated than a choice between column A and column B. You can say the same about our potential for sexual pleasure.

Part of being sex-positive and feminist means never making assumptions about customers. Category labels such as “sex toys for men” and “lesbian sex toys” just make far too many assumptions for our liking.

You will notice that in our online shop, we categorize toys mostly by type (vibrators, dildos, anal toys, etc.) and sometimes by body part (our “Penis Toys” category lists cock rings, pumps, and extenders). We also have a “Gender Expression” category that includes packers, binders, and other items. Our “We Bop” category includes an array of toys that couples of all flavors can enjoy — the Share and We-Vibe, for example, can be used in different ways by different couples.

Of course, “We Bop” is also a fun play on our name, and a reference to the song we got our name from: Cyndi Lauper’s “She Bop,” which is about sexual empowerment for everyone.

She bop – he bop – a – we bop
I bop – you bop – a – they bop
be bop – be bop – a – lu – she bop


Trans-Queering your Sex

Sunday, September 11th — 7:30 pm — $15

Interested in a Trans person, gender queer person or gender non-conforming person? Wanna have fun and be respectful? Wanna experience “non-traditional” sex and desire that is not based on stereotypes? Well, this is the workshop for you! Open to all sexual orientations and genders.

Ignacio Rivera, aka Papí Coxxx, who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they,” is a Black-Boricua, gender-fluid, Trans-Former, kinky, sex positive sex educator, sex worker, performance artist and filmmaker. They are one of the founding board members for Queers for Economic Justice and the creator of Poly Patao Productions. They can be seen in their debut performance in Pink and White Productions’ The Wild Search. They have worked with Morty Diamond of Tranny Fags on a Trans Entity: The Nasty Love of Papi and Wil. Papí Coxxx can also be seen on Queer Porn TV, Pink and White Productions’ Crash Pad Series, and in the soon to be released adult comedy by Cheryl Dunye and Sarah Schulman entitled Mommy is Coming.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!


Brain scans pinpoint female sexual response

This graphic just about says it all:

60 years after mapping out the male brain in response to sexual stimulation, scientists have finally scanned the female brain. The findings? Stimulation of the clitoris and stimulation of the vagina each activate different regions of the brain’s sensory cortex. And nipple stimulation causes the genital area of the cortex to light up, which scientifically explains the very obvious fact that nipple stimulation is erotic. Thank goodness!

The research was conducted first by a team at University Children’s Hospital in Switzerland, where the team used functional magnetic resonance imaging to pinpoint the area of the sensory cortex that responds to clitoral stimulation. The position of the clitoris on the sensory cortex corresponded pretty closely to the position of the penis in men.

A second team of researchers at Rutgers University in New Jersey picked up where the others left off, determining the positions of the clitoris, vagina, and cervix on the sensory cortex as women stimulated themselves. Sadly, they only stimulated “the front wall of the vagina generally,” so no word yet on what G-spot stimulation does in the brain.

This is definitely a “well, duh” news item, but at least researchers are finally taking more interest in female sexual response!

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LGBT history coming to California school textbooks

California Governor Jerry Brown has signed a groundbreaking bill that requires public schools to include the historical contributions of LGBT individuals in their social studies lessons. The law — entitled the Fair, Accurate, Inclusive, and Respectful (FAIR) Education Act — could begin taking effect as soon as the 2013-2014 school year.

California will be the first state in the nation to require schools to revise textbooks and procure teaching materials that cover the contributions and roles of sexual minorities throughout history. It will be up to the school boards to determine how — and at what grade level — to implement these changes.

Unsurprisingly, phrases like “homosexual agenda” and “sexual brainwashing” are being tossed about by critics of the bill, and opponents have already begun collecting signatures for a ballot referendum to overturn the bill.

Senator Mark Leno of San Francisco, the author of the bill, had this to say about the bill’s critics:

There is a lot of distortion. Some people are saying we are trying to sexualize education. This is not about sex. This is about history. It’s about a chapter of civil rights that is currently being censored . . . We learn about Martin Luther King Jr., who fought for civil rights, but not about Harvey Milk, who also fought for civil rights and was also assassinated.

It is worth noting that California law already requires schools to teach about women, African Americans, Mexican Americans, Asian Americans, European Americans, American Indians, and entrepreneurs. Other topics, such as the Holocaust and the Irish potato famine, are also required by the Legislature.

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She Bop voted #2 porn shop in Portland

We’re on a roll! After being nominated for two industry awards and landing on AVN’s top 50 adult retailers list, we didn’t expect another victory so soon. But here it is: we snagged the #2 spot in the “porn shop” category of the Portland Mercury‘s PDX Approved: The Readers’ Choice Guide to Everything Awesome in Portland.

Although our shop certainly carries much more than porn, we are very proud of our porn selection. We stock many films directed by women, a large array of queer titles, some great instructional DVDs, and mainstream straight movies as well. We also believe in the importance of educational porn, so we rent out our instructional DVDs.

The entire PDX Approved guide can be accessed online here. Our listing is on the bottom of page 35.

To anyone who wrote our name on their ballot: THANK YOU! You are awesome! And congratulations to Fantasy, the megastore voted #1 this year!


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