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Is There a Secret Handshake?: Navigating Alternative Lifestyles

March 30 @ 5:30 pm 7:00 pm PDT

$15 – $25
Dirty Lola

This class will be held LIVE online via Zoom — you’ll receive an email with access information beforehand. The class will be recorded and available for a limited time shortly following the class. Registration deadline: 3 hours prior to class PST. No day-of cancellations.

Many people are drawn to alternative lifestyles such as BDSM, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, and swinging because they are seeking to explore a different side of themselves. As part of the learning process, people often feel it is important to find a community to help educate them on their new lifestyle journey, but seeking out a community for education and camaraderie can be the most difficult part of the journey. At times, it may feel as though you have joined a club, but never learned the secret handshake.

In this session, Dirty Lola will share ways to find your place within the alternative community that mesh with your needs and desires. She will cover topics ranging from appropriate lifestyle etiquette and finding a community, to negotiation and safety.

Dirty Lola is a sex edutainer, speaker, and self-proclaimed dildo slinger. Known for her live sex ed Q&A show Sex Ed A Go-Go and as co-host of New York Magazine’s The Cut’s “Sex Probz” web series, Lola has spent almost a decade working to end stigma and shame surrounding sex and sexuality. Having started her journey sharing personal discoveries with polyamory and kink online, Lola now uses her knowledge, warm candor and public platforms to teach the masses in-person and to rapt Internet audiences.

We’re offering 2 free class spots to folks with financial need; please fill out this form if you are interested. Two people will be chosen randomly and contacted at least 2 weeks prior to class to confirm.