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Communication in the Bedroom: Asking for What You Want
April 12 @ 6:00 pm – 7:30 pm PDT
This class will be held LIVE online via Zoom — Zoom links are sent out 3 days prior and then again 3 hours prior to start time. The class will be recorded and available for a limited time shortly following the class. Registration deadline: 3 hours prior to class PST. No day-of cancellations.
Knowing what you want isn’t as easy as it sounds, and asking for it can be even trickier. Honesty puts us in a vulnerable place, opening us up to rejection or shame. People of all genders and sexualities have a lot of cultural baggage to work through, from messages implying that wanting sex or pleasure is slutty (and that’s a bad thing) to ubiquitous sex tips that make it sound like we’re supposed to read our partners’ minds.
All of this sets us up for failure, and many people never take the chance to open a dialogue with their partner(s). But being able to talk about your wants and needs is the only way to get them met.
In this class, we’ll talk about styles of communication, ways to put yourself and your partner at ease, and specific examples of tools and phrases to try. We’ll discuss how to start the conversation and how to incorporate communication into dirty talk.
Not sure what to ask for? We’ll talk about some common fantasies you might want to try.
Stella Harris believes communication is key to satisfaction in relationships. A professional intimacy educator, coach, and mediator, Stella brings empathy, expertise, and a fresh perspective to her client work. A regular speaker at colleges, universities, conferences, and venues across the US and Canada, Stella’s wide-ranging expertise has led to being featured on the evening news discussing the importance of sex education in schools, appearing as an expert witness in court, and even speaking as an authority on banana slug mating habits.
Stella is the author of two books, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships and The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes. Learn more on her website or follow her on Instagram.
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We’re offering a limited number of free class spots to folks with financial need; please fill out this form if you are interested. Recipients will be chosen based on need and contacted at least 3 days prior to class to confirm.