The heat is turning up, not just outside but also in our love lives. Between beach vacations, rooftop parties, and simply wearing a lot less clothing, the season is practically begging for a little extra intimacy. Whether you’re with a long-term sweetie, or out mingling and a bit more… it’s a good idea to think about how summer conditions might change the way you have sex…

Another edition of Ask She Bop, where we tackle your sex and relationship questions. To submit a question, head over to our submission form or reach out to info@sheboptheshop.com

It’s the perfect time to try out BDSM. We’ve compiled our favorite gear to help you get started. From restraints to impact toys to sensation play, we’ve got a little bit of everything for your interest.

While other sex acts (such as anal sex) have become more commonly accepted as the years have gone by, male anal play still lags behind. Yet when Esquire asked 500 men what they wanted more of during foreplay, 12% named rim jobs — two times the number who desired “a little rough play.”

Giving a blow job can be a pleasurable experience for both the giver and receiver when done with enthusiasm, skill, and mutual consent. Whether you're new to oral sex or looking to refine your technique, we’re here to cover everything from communication and safety to advanced tips for maximum pleasure.

Anal play can add variety to your sexual repertoire, not to mention awesome pleasure and enhanced orgasms. Do you know what especially rocks about anal play? Anyone can enjoy it! The anal opening is full of sensitive nerve endings that just love to be stimulated. Inside the butt, there is even more fun to be had. Many folks with vaginas experience anal pleasure because the clitoral legs extend to the anus. Most folks with penises are blessed with a prostate gland, which can facilitate intense orgasms when stimulated.

Washing toys may not be the most glamorous thing a person can do, but cleaning sex toys is vital to keeping vibrators and dildos in tip-top condition! Don't worry -- it takes mere minutes to clean a sex toy, and the techniques are about as simple as washing your hands. Nearly all sex toys can be washed with good old antibacterial soap and warm water.