As porn has become increasingly more accessible, and quality sex education scarce, certain practices have moved from the fringes into popular awareness. One of the most prevalent—and potentially dangerous—of these is choking, or what is more accurately termed erotic breath play. While choking may seem like harmless fun, the reality is that this act carries severe, life-altering risks that are frequently underestimated, especially with teens and young adults. So let’s look at why choking is so risky and explore some alternatives to achieve that desired intensity.

If you don’t own a harness, it’s a great thing to add to your sexual arsenal. People of all genders and orientations can wear them, and people of all genders and orientations can enjoy the pleasures of being penetrated by a partner wearing one. Harnesses open up a whole world of possibilities, too, giving you the tools to explore activities like pegging, double penetration, penetration independent of an erection, safer sex, and experimentation with different sizes, shapes, and textures of dildo.

Recently we had Kim, join us from Oxballs. During her presentation, she discussed ball stretching. If you haven’t heard of ball stretching, don’t worry you are in good company! Full disclosure, as someone who does not have testicles nor sleeps with people who have testicles, I didn’t know anything about this practice, but nevertheless, I was curious. So Kim fill me in, here’s what I learned.

The prostate gland is an integral part of the sexual and reproductive anatomy for folks born with penises. Located just below the bladder, its job — along with the seminal vesicles — is to produce most of the fluid that makes up semen. Lately, though, it’s becoming known as a lot more than that. It’s becoming known as the pleasure center it can be.