Jess DeVries

Aug 25

Somatic Sex Coach & Grief Worker

Jess DeVries (aka Beloved Coaching) is a queer somatic sex coach, sexological bodyworker and grief worker. She primarily serves the queer/trans community supporting folks toward self-sovereignty and to inspire curiosity about pleasure and sexual expression, including expanding possibilities of what sex can be and guiding folks to define and pursue pleasure on their own terms. She is a grief advocate who regularly facilitates spaces for people to grieve, inviting the wisdom of the body to guide the grief process. She understands that there is a deep kinship between pleasure and grief and believes that they both deserve to be tended as full experiences of our humanity. Jess teaches Core Erotic Theme: Discover Your Personal Erotic Makeup and Coming Home to Pleasure at She Bop. She also facilitates workshops and grief circles online for queer folks, ex-Christians, and Covid conscious communities. She works 1:1 with folks online in the realms of pleasure, grief, gender, and eroticism.

Slow down and honor your curiosity.

We often follow scripts of what sex should look like or what being in a relationship means and don't actually take the time to learn what works for us. When you slow down and really touch yourself or others or get curious about how you want to show up to your body, your relationship(s), your sexuality, you get to really choose what feels best to you (emotionally and physically).

Book Recommendations

Tongue Tied by Stella Harris

I love Tongue Tied because it is the practical guide to the thing that is the foundation of every issue or need that comes through my office, communication. It's easy to read and offers folks frameworks to have important conversations to deepen relationships of all kinds.

Enjoy Sex (How, When, and If You Want To) by Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock.

Enjoy Sex shows the reader that they have so much choice in how they get to relate to their sexual expression with themselves and others. If you have been having sex that you don't want to or performing what you were told sex should look like, this is a great book to start you on the journey of finding what feels authentic to you.