Ask She Bop: How to Upgrade Pegging Kit
Dear She Bop,
Can you recommend an intermediate to advanced pegging dildo? My partner and I have enjoyed our beginners pegging kit, and are now looking for something a little thicker and longer (our current dildo is only about an inch wide and doesn’t provide much stimulation). I am having trouble finding something that is rigid enough to make thrusting anally easy for her, but not too big of a jump from our current dimensions so I don’t struggle to take it.
Thank you!
Matt
Hey Matt,
This is such an exciting step for you both! Luckily, we have a LOT of options on our website for you to check out, and I selected a few for you to consider below. Of course, you can always come in to our stores to see the physical products, and get more recommendations from our wonderful team. Going up in size slowly as you get more experienced is the perfect way to keep it pleasurable instead of overwhelming.
You're also spot on about the rigidity issue. A dildo that's too floppy is just frustrating for the giver. That's exactly why the dual-density technology from Vixen Creations is such a game-changer. They have a firm inner core for thrusting control, but a soft, squishy outer layer for the receiver's comfort. No matter what you choose, make sure it has a flared base since you’re using it for anal play.
I’m sure you’re already aware since you’ve had some experience pegging before, but as a refresher. Here’s a few additional things to keep in mind as you go up in size to make the experience better.
Lube is still your best friend, use plenty.
Warm up your dildo by running it under hot water. The heat helps relax your muscles.
Let the reciever control the depth when you’re first sizing up. Back up into your partner instead of having them thrust into you to better gauge the size and your body’s ability.
Best,
Sam from Team She Bop
Vixen Creations Mustang
What you’ll like: This is widely considered the holy grail of pegging dildos. It’s 1.5 inches wide, which is a noticeable but comfortable step up from 1 inch. It has a tapered head for easy entry and a pronounced curve that feels amazing for prostate stimulation.
The feel: It has that legendary "give" on the outside but doesn't bend during use.
Fuze Ten Phoenix
What you’ll like: Fuze is designed specifically with harness use in mind. The base is ridged to provide clitoral stimulation for the wearer, and it has a bullet vibe hole if you want vibrations. The Phoenix gives you that same thoughtful design with a bit more shape and length.
The feel: Slightly firmer than VixSkin, which gives her even more control over the thrusting.
Vixen Creations Spur
What you’ll like: If you're nervous about the width jump, start here. It’s 1.25 inches wide—just a quarter-inch bigger than your current one—so it’s barely a stretch, but the dual-density feel will be a massive upgrade in stimulation.
The feel: This is the "baby step" option that lets you get used to the texture before sizing up.