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Why you shouldn’t buy sex toys on Amazon

Lightning-fast shipping, a staggering selection of products, and extremely competitive prices make Amazon one of the most popular online shopping websites in the world. It isn’t surprising, then, that consumers would consider Amazon an option for sex toy purchases. However, according to a recent article by Vanessa Marin on Lifehacker, buying a sex toy on Amazon is not a sound choice — for reasons that you may and may not expect.

The first reason is the proliferation of counterfeit products. Marin reports that high-end sex toy manufacturers such as LELO, We-Vibe, njoy, and Tenga have all fallen victim to this practice. It’s so common for companies to rip off the Magic Wand that the product’s website includes a section on how to spot fakes. Amazon doesn’t monitor for counterfeit sex toys (or other products, really), so all policing of inventory has to be done by the original companies themselves, which is time-consuming, costly, and often ineffective.

Counterfeit products are also very likely to be shoddy. They may not work, they may malfunction, and it’s likely they’re made of unsafe and even toxic sex toy materials. Marin explains:

Some people don’t mind counterfeits. After all, the worst that can happen with your counterfeited purse is that it wears down faster than the real thing, or your snobby coworker points out that it’s a fake. You only spent a fraction of the retail price, so who cares?

Sex toys, however, are more complicated. The original toys that pirates copy are usually made of high-quality materials like stainless steel, medical grade silicone, and glass. The counterfeits, on the other hand, are made with much cheaper, lower-grade materials that can cause serious harm to your bod . . . You may think you’re being smart by purchasing a body-safe, phthalate-free LELO, only to get a toy that winds up making you sick.

She’s right. Truly body-safe sex toy materials, like glass, medical-grade silicone, and stainless steel, are more expensive, while porous and toxic materials are cheap but contain chemicals such as phthalates that can cause irritation, infection, and even serious harm. Feminist sex toy boutiques like us are fiercely dedicated to stocking only body-safe toys, but Amazon does absolutely no vetting of products for safety, making their sex toy selection risky for any consumer.

A suspiciously-low price is a sure sign that something is amiss. If it looks too good to be true, unfortunately, it probably is.

What happens if you buy a sex toy on Amazon and it breaks? That’s when things really go awry. Sex blogger Dangerous Lilly has written about this issue and encountered it with her readers:

In the years I’ve been doing this, I’ve had more people report problems ordering from Amazon than any other sex toy problems combined. I’ve had readers tell me, even as far back as 4 years ago, that they bought a “luxury” vibrator and something went wrong after a month or two. They took their problem to the manufacturer because it has a warranty, and they found out it wasn’t the brand they thought they were buying and the company wouldn’t honor a warranty claim.

Warranties are a safety net for consumers buying expensive sex toys, but they are useless if the company in question didn’t actually make the toy — or didn’t consent to it being sold on Amazon.

According to folks Marin interviewed, that’s the thing: even if you find a legit sex toy on Amazon, odds are the manufacturer of that toy would rather you purchase it elsewhere. While indie brick and mortar shops like us adhere to sex toy manufacturers’ MAP (minimum advertised price), third-party sellers on Amazon break the rules and try to lure customers in with low prices. It’s a slap in the face to the people who make the wonderful toys we love so much.

There’s one final reason to eschew Amazon for your sex toy purchases, and it’s a big one: customer service. By visiting a sex-positive shop, you have the opportunity to feel all the toys in person, to ask questions, to gather advice from sales associates with years of experience with sex toys. You won’t be scammed with a fake. You won’t end up with a toxic product. You’ll leave confident in your purchase, with a functional body-safe toy, and the knowledge that nobody was undercut along the way.

Read Vanessa Marin’s whole piece at Lifehacker.

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The havoc toxic toys can wreak on the body

Toxic jelly toys, photo by Pantophile PanicThe sex toy industry is largely void of any sort of regulation, so unless you shop with a trusted retailer like us, you don’t know what kinds of chemicals might be lurking in your toys.

We know that unsafe materials like jelly can degrade, melt, off-gas, and harbor bacteria. And we’ve definitely heard horror stories about reactions people have had to toxic toys: burning, rashes, bacterial infections, and more. But even we were surprised by the severity of the health problems that sex blogger Pantophile Panic experienced due to use of unsafe sex toys.

Here’s what happened: PP didn’t know about phthalates or the dangers of toxic toys. She had amassed a sex toy collection of over 100 toys and accessories, but she hadn’t spent more than $20 on any single toy. All the money she saved, though, “made up for itself in hospital bills”:

That year, through early 2013, I developed extreme headaches, nausea, lower back pain, and severe discomfort when urinating. This was unbearable when experienced on top of my pre-existing PGAD and chronic pelvic pain. I spent most of my time (and money) at urgent care, where they dismissed me as just imagining the symptoms, and told me to check with my PCP if the pain persisted. My regular doctor was unavailable at the time, and the pain just kept getting worse. Eventually, it got to the point that I couldn’t walk or hold down food because of the pain.

I had to go to the hospital.

As it turns out, I had a urinary tract infection that had spread to my kidneys. I was also suffering from what seemed to be an extreme allergic reaction in my vaginal walls that the doctors mistakenly suspected to be from using latex condoms. I like to think of myself as an extremely hygienic person, I am not prone to UTIs either, and I am certainly not allergic to latex or any spermicides. It wasn’t until I started using jelly toys that I started getting infections on a regular basis. After doing some research, I also learned that my “allergic reaction” was actually chemical burn.

The toxic sex toys were to blame for PP’s urinary tract infection. They were almost all porous jelly toys that could not be properly sanitized. Bacteria, which had become trapped on the surfaces of the toys, had caused the infection.

As a temporary solution, PP used condoms over her toys…  but the mere smell of the toys gave her migraines. So finally, she decided to rid herself of most of her collection, save for a We-Vibe 2 and a handful of hard plastic vibes. She also discovered a wealth of information online, such as sex toy reviewers and sex educators. Now, thank goodness, her collection is comprised solely of safe toys.

This is quite the cautionary tale, and we appreciate Pantophile Panic so much for taking the time to tell it. This story is exactly why part of our mission is to educate consumers about unsafe sex toys. Fill your toybox, as Pantophile Panic now has, with body-safe toys that will last a lifetime. It may cost more up-front, but your health is worth it.

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Dildology: material verification of sex toys!


Did you know that the sex toy industry is largely unregulated? It is much more of a wild west than most consumers realize. Companies can actually make their toys out of any mish-mash of material they want, then slap false claims on the packaging such as “100% silicone” and “phthalate-free” — with no recourse or accountability.

The only regulations are the ones put in place by ethical manufacturers and shops who vow to only use and carry body-safe materials. We’re very discerning about our selection, as we believe consumers should not be subjected to toxic materials (nor should they have to search high and low for answers about what their sex toys are made out of!). This is why we are a partner at the Coalition Against Toxic Toys and a member of the Progressive Pleasure Club, a network of indie sex toy shops committed to safety and education. Together, we keep each other informed and accountable.

But unsafe toys continue to be manufactured, and packaging continues to lie, and there is no governing body to put a stop to it.

Enter Dildology. Founded by a former sex shop manager, a rouge blogger, and a technologist, Dildology is a new non-profit organization which independently verifies the material content of sex toys. After a toy has been tested in a lab, the results are posted on the public Dildology Wiki. Ultimately, Dildology will add transparency and oversight to the sex toy industry while also educating the public about the science behind sex toys. We’re very excited about this!

With a big end goal of $20,000, though, Dildology is in dire need of donations. They have over $1,000 so far, but considering that testing a single toy can cost $200-450, more funding is definitely needed (thus far they have sent the Jimmyjane Hello Touch to a lab and confirmed that it is indeed 100% silicone). Dildology is also hoping to get enough votes on Offbeatr to start crowdfunding on there.

We’re really glad that this organization has been created. The industry has needed something like it for a long time now. If you agree, donate here and read more posts about the importance of Dildology. You can also follow Dildology on Facebook and Twitter.


The crusade against phthalates and toxic toys

When Jennifer Pritchett opened The Smitten Kitten, her goal was to run a sex-positive, feminist adult retail store. But that mission expanded when she discovered the issue of toxic sex toys. She had never heard the word “phthalates” before, but three days before the store’s grand opening in August of 2003, while opening a shipment of inventory, she saw the chemicals in action.

You know those styrofoam packing peanuts? They were moist. And the moisture had oozed through the peanuts and into the cardboard box, so it looked like, you know when you put chocolate chip cookies on a grocery bag and they leave grease marks? That’s what the box looked like . . . They were leaking, oozing, this . . . oily substance . . . And it reeked. It smelled so bad. I’ve told people before, it smells like a headache.

Not knowing what on earth was going on, Pritchett and her staff washed the toys and set them on towels. But it didn’t help — more beads of sweat appeared on the toys. Pritchett called their distributor, who explained that “it happens all the time” and promised replacements. Then she called Metis Black, president of Tantus, who said, “you know what that is, don’t you?”

Pritchett quickly went to work researching phthalates and toxins in sex toys. She talked to others in the industry, fought with her distributor, and realized how huge of an issue she had stumbled upon. It was at this point that the mission of The Smitten Kitten shifted to encompass social justice, environmental justice, and personal health. The store’s entire inventory was revamped, despite the fact that eliminating the toxic toys made it difficult to fill even a 500 square foot shop.

Now there was an explanation for all the burning, rashes, bacterial infections, and unexplained irritation that consumers were having after using sex toys. Still, the conversation needed to change, because most consumers just thought they were too sensitive. Pritchett explains,

What we really worked to do was flip that conversation around. Your body’s having a perfectly natural and appropriate reaction to a toxic toy. To chemicals that were never meant to be in consumer products, and certainly not in consumer products that you come into that intimate of contact with . . . That really resonated with people . . . And then we started to shift the responsibility from our bodies to those products, and to those manufacturers, and those distributors, and those stores.

Pritchett even sent the industry’s 10 bestselling jelly toys to an independent lab in California, where many were found to contain various chemicals that are known to cause cancer, birth defects, and hormonal disruption. In some toys, up to 68% of the total volume of the toy was a hazardous phthalate.

Now, almost 9 years later, we know a bit more about phthalates and toxic sex toys, and many stores (like us and the others in the Progressive Pleasure Club) stock only body-safe toys. But we wouldn’t be at this point without Pritchett and other brave industry folks taking a stand and knowing that a smelly, oily sex toy should not come in contact with anyone’s genitals.

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“What are phthalates?”

At She Bop, every sex toy we carry is completely body-safe and phthalate-free. But what on earth are phthalates, and why do we want our sex toys to be free of them?

Besides having a perplexing name (pronounced “thal-ates”), phthalates are a family of chemicals used to soften hard plastics. In the realm of sex toys, they are often the reason that cheap sex toys are squishy, smelly, and… potentially toxic.

Although we may not know it, phthalates are not foreign to us. They are present in a variety of everyday stuff: paints, deodorants, shower curtains, nail polish, vinyl floors, and even food (most likely because they can leach out of food processing machinery and food packaging). However, troubling research on phthalates has cast doubt on whether phthalates are as innocuous as they once seemed.

It is well-known that phthalates have a tendency to “off-gas” — escape from the plastic in the form of a gas. They also seep out in an oily film, which can be absorbed through skin, mouths, and mucous membranes.

In particular, researchers are worried about what phthalates could do to children. Canada, Europe, and the U.S. have all enacted bans on children’s toys that contain certain levels of phthalates (for example, Congress banned the sale of children’s toys and baby products that contain more than 0.1% of certain phthalates). The tendency of phthalates to off-gas is particularly scary, since children put toys in their mouths.

Unfortunately, there is a complete lack of government regulation within the sex toy industry (ever notice that ominous phrase, “for novelty use only,” on sex toy packaging?), so companies are free to use whichever materials they please. For some companies, this means using phthalates to cut production costs. Greenpeace Netherlands conducted a study in 2006 in which they tested eight sex toys and found that seven of them contained phthalates, in concentrations ranging from 24 to 51 percent of the toys’ composition. Compared to the 0.1% ban enacted by Congress, this is more than a little disturbing.

In a similar study conducted in 2000, a German chemist named Hans Ulrich Krieg identified ten dangerous chemicals gassing out of European sex toys, including phthalates. He found some toys that had phthalate concentrations as high as 243,000 parts per million. Krieg said, “I have been doing this analysis of consumer goods for more than 10 years, and I’ve never seen such high results.”

Can phthalates in sex toys cause health issues?

The jury is still out on whether phthalates in sex toys pose a risk to our health, but studies have shown that very large doses of phthalates may cause liver damage, kidney damage, hormonal disruption, reproductive organ damage, and liver cancer. More than one study has linked high levels of phthalate exposure in the womb and through breast milk to male reproductive issues. Minute levels of some phthalates have been linked to sperm damage in men; this has caused speculation about whether phthalates are to blame for a huge drop in male fertility over the past few decades.

Other studies are less frightening: one report from the Danish Environmental Protection Agency indicates that there are no major health risks if a person uses sex toys containing phthalates for an hour or less per day. Pregnant or nursing individuals, however, are advised against “heavy usage.”

Anecdotal evidence tells us more than most studies do. If you’ve ever experienced a burning, itching, or an uncomfortable sensation after using a sex toy, it may very well be due to the phthalate content.

And there are other reasons to avoid phthalates in sex toys. These toys are always porous, which means they tend to trap bacteria on the surface of the toy. They can never be fully sterilized, and over time, they will break down.

We simply don’t know what the long-term effects of continued exposure to sex toys containing phthalates may be. Considering that sex toys come into direct contact with mucous membranes, through which substances can be absorbed, there is reason to be concerned — especially when it comes to butt plugs and other toys that are meant to be worn for extended periods of time.

How do I know if a sex toy contains phthalates?

The biggest telltale sign of phthalates is smell: if a sex toy smells strongly like a new shower curtain, it probably contains phthalates. Sometimes the smell is so intense that it can linger on your fingers after you’ve held the toy. Often, the smell cannot be washed out, or it takes a vat of bleach to do so.

Worse signs can crop up later on. Sometimes a greasy sweat will appear on the surface of the toy. Over time, the toy may decompose into a sort of goo, and can melt into other toys that it touches.

Of course, if you are shopping for a sex toy, none of these signs can be observed unless you are able to handle the toy before buying it. While you can definitely handle the toys if you come visit She Bop, we have already done the research for you: absolutely none of the toys we carry contain phthalates. Anything you purchase either in person at She Bop or from our online store will be body-safe and phthalate-free.

What can I do if I think one of my sex toys contains phthalates?

You should cover the toy in a condom each time you use it. Always clean the toy with antibacterial soap. After use, store the toy out of sunlight and away from other sex toys and plastics. If the surface of your toy becomes dull, the material may be breaking down, and you should probably throw the toy out.

If you’re on the hunt to replace an old toy, look for toys made of 100% silicone — pure silicone toys are soft, non-porous, and completely body-safe. Replacing a rabbit? Try the Rabbit Habit, which is made of phthalate-free elastomer, or the Ina, which is covered in silky pure silicone. If you’re pinching pennies, opt for a hard plastic vibrator made of ABS plastic (not PVC). And remember, every toy in our catalog is phthalate-free, so shop with confidence.

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