Ancient societies called it Amrita, the nectar of the gods. Pop culture regularly debates whether it’s urine. Whichever camp you fall in, squirting is a hot topic.
In this class, Stella Harris will cover internal and external anatomy with special emphasis on what is commonly known as the G-spot — but is becoming better understood as the clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex. She’ll talk about everything from sex toys to touch techniques you can try alone or with a partner to experience an internal orgasm, and ways you can increase your chances of squirting.
Just as essential as sexual skills, Stella will discuss how to become comfortable with your body and with your partner, and ways to talk about touch and exploration that will put everyone at ease.
Stella Harris is building a world where everyone has the confidence to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame. As a certified Intimacy Educator, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella has presented at venues and conferences nationally including Catalyst Con, KinkFest Portland, COPE Ohio, and Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture. She has also spoken at Portland State University, Reed College, Lewis & Clark College and Pacific University.
Stella has been widely quoted in the media and she’s made guest appearances on numerous podcasts including Sex on the Brain and Playboy Radio. Her articles have appeared on Thought Catalog, Kinkly.com, and Fetish.com, and her fiction is included in more than a dozen anthologies.
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The G-spot is an important erogenous zone and here’s your chance to find out all about it, whether you don’t know how to find your G-spot or you’re an experienced G-spotter looking for some new techniques.
In this class, award-winning sex educator Tristan Taormino will cover G-spot anatomy, how to find your own or your partner’s G-spot, great G-spot positions and toys, and tips for orgasmic G-spot stimulation. Then she’ll delve into the world of ejaculation for people with vulvas, discussing myths and truths about this phenomenon. Learn what it’s all about, why some folks dribble and others gush, and tried and true techniques to help you learn to do it.
Tristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, editor, sex educator, speaker, feminist pornographer, and the host of Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show/podcast. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation and The Ultimate Guide to Kink. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world. She is the founder of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program for sex educators, and she provides business consulting and coaching to individuals and organizations.
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Where is your G-spot? How do you stimulate it? How can you have orgasms from penetration alone? How can you squirt like a porn star? Ducky DooLittle will answer these questions and a whole lot more as she explains the beauty of (and busts the myths about) the vagina, G-spotting and ejaculation. It’s an orgasm intensive!
Ducky DooLittle is a sex educator and author from New York City. She is the author of Sex With the Lights On. She has appeared in the New York Times, HBO’s Real Sex, The Morning Show, MTV, NPR, The Howard Stern Show, and Playboy TV, to name a few.
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The G-spot gets a lot of attention in the media. From a glance at the headlines or even a flick of the TV remote, one might assume that the G-spot is nothing more than an imaginary pleasure center invented by Cosmo. And many are understandably put off by the way the G-spot is often hyped as the holy grail of female pleasure.
Of course, nothing in particular is the holy grail, since everyone experiences pleasure differently. But the G-spot does exist — and every woman has the potential to feel G-spot stimulation.
Put simply, the G-spot is an area on the roof of the vagina through which the urethral sponge can be stimulated. Some women enjoy the sensation; some have to learn to enjoy it; others don’t care for it at all. G-spot stimulation may or may not lead to orgasm or female ejaculation. But the G-spot is still quite misunderstood because, for its entire existence, we’ve been given conflicting stories about it.
German gynecologist Ernest Grafenberg was the first to write about what is now known as the G-spot, in a 1950 paper entitled “The Role of Urethra in Female Orgasm.” This controversial piece posited that the urethra was surrounded by erectile tissue which, when stimulated, swelled and became more sensitive. Grafenberg also noted that some women’s orgasms were accompanied by a release of non-urine fluid from the urethra.
30 years later, a book called The G-Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality came out, and quickly became a best seller. The book detailed the authors’ original research study of 400 women, and concluded that yes, there is an area on the front wall of the vagina that responds to pressure. They called it the Grafenberg Spot.
As the G-spot began to permeate the popular consciousness (thanks in no small part to sex toy shops and curved G-spot toys), scientists felt it was time to study it. Only, they didn’t do a particularly good job. A 2001 opinion piece published in the American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology — which called the G-spot a “gynecological UFO” — received a lot of mainstream press, but the essay merely concluded that there wasn’t enough scientific evidence to prove the G-spot was real.
Then came the bombshell study of 2010 that incited alarming headlines. 1,800 women, who were all twins, were studied by scientists at King’s College in London. The study consisted entirely of interviews, including the questionably-phrased query, “Do you believe you have a so-called G-spot, a small area the size of a 20p coin on the front wall of your vagina that is sensitive to deep pressure?”
While 56 percent of the women said “yes” to that particular question (and 40 to 48 percent said it was “not difficult at all” to have a vaginal orgasm), media sources overwhelmingly reported that this study was proof that the G-spot doesn’t exist. Why? Because that’s what the researchers concluded. Finding no pattern in the pairs of twins, they concluded that the G-spot was subjective.
The bias of the researchers wasn’t the only flaw in that study. Scientists specifically excluded lesbian and bisexual women from participating, and failed to ask questions about digital or sex toy penetration — only vaginal intercourse and clitoral stimulation. They didn’t ask about sexual positions, either.
Some sex educators — such as Rebecca Chalker (author of The Clitoral Truth) and Betty Dodson — believe that the urethral sponge is part of the clitoris, and therefore that G-spot orgasms are still clitoral orgasms. A 2006 article from a neurologist named Helen O’Connell, entitled “Anatomy of the Clitoris,” agreed, explaining that the walls of the clitoris wrap around the urethra and are composed of erectile tissue. But, as Tristan Taormino explains,
These works technically refuted the G-spot; however, it was more a matter of semantics. They clearly supported the idea of the urethral sponge made of erectile tissue and a sensitive area on the front wall of the vagina — they just reframed it with different language.
The truth is, while science can certainly help us understand a great many things, it is still pretty far behind when it comes to female pleasure. Right now, what matters more than scientific proof is overwhelming anecdotal proof — and the support of sex educators and sexperts such as Carol Queen, Susie Bright, Violet Blue, and Annie Sprinkle.
Several sex educators have written entire books on the G-spot, such as Tristan Taormino’s The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation, Violet Blue’s The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot, Deborah Sundahl’s Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot, and Female Ejaculation: Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm by Somraj Pokras and Jeffre Talltrees. Plus, other sex ed books mention and validate the G-spot: The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women, I Love Female Orgasm, The Multi-Orgasmic Woman, and Getting Off, to name just a few.
Tristan Taormino put it best in her new G-spot book:
For all the women who answered yes to that British survey question, the hundreds interviewed for The G-Spot, and the thousands I’ve talked to in my fifteen-year career as a sex educator, the G-spot definitely exists. And although it’s very sensitive, it doesn’t care what its critics say about it.
After much anticipation, we’re now carrying luxury brand LELO’s three newest toys: Tiani, a U-shaped couples’ vibe; Lyla, an egg-shaped vibe; and Oden, a vibrating cock ring. These rechargeable toys come with remotes and are equipped with SenseMotion technology — the vibes respond to the movement of the remote. Really cool!
We also picked up the We-Vibe Tango, a petite, rechargeable vibe that packs quite a punch, and the PicoBong Ipo, an adorable finger vibe.
If you’re a fan of suction, time to rejoice! We now carry the Vibrating Pleasure Pump. It brings blood flow to the clitoris and can increase sensitivity. Plus, it vibrates for additional stimulation.
Four deliciously diverse new books this month: Big Big Love, a book for plus-size loving; The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation, the new guide from Tristan Taormino; and Sensuous Magic, a beginner’s guide to S&M. Plus, the newest issue of Original Plumbing is here, and it’s all about family and parenting!
Things are getting cold around here, so we added a Massage Candle Trio from Earthly Body. These candles smell great and melt into a luscious, warm oil that can be poured onto a partner’s skin for a massage. This set comes in a gift bag and contains three candles with different yummy scents for you to indulge in: Polynesia (Plumeria), Skinny Dip (Vanilla/Cotton Candy), and Dreamsicle (Orange/Plum).
And finally — we added some nickel cock ring sets in several sizes. These solid metal cock rings are excellent for advanced cock ring users. Read our cock ring guide for useful info about how to get the most out of your cock rings!
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