Browsing posts tagged with open relationships
Oct
1

Poly-Curious 101

Wednesday, November 15th — 7:30 pm — $20

Reid Mihalko and Allison MoonCurious about this new “lovestyle” you’re hearing a lot about called polyamory? Maybe you’ve read all the books but want to talk to folks actually living and loving the poly lifestyle. Opening up any relationship takes skill, patience and perseverance. Mistakes will be made. But why make any more than you have to? Whatever your reason or level of experience, join Reid Mihalko and Girl Sex 101 author Allison Moon for 2 hours of tips and tricks and Q&A!

In this fun, informative, and easy-to-understand primer on polyamory and open relationships, Reid and Allison will cover:

  • Definitions and different ways to construct non-monogamous relationships
  • The elements that make polyamory workable
  • The most common pitfalls of open relationships and how to avoid them
  • How to figure out and negotiate your boundaries and agreements so everyone feels safe
  • Ways to merge different poly styles so that everyone ends up happy
  • Five things that will help you survive any poly exploration
  • The secret key to turning jealousy into a blessing
  • Resources, books, and tools to proceed into the world of responsible non-monogamy, at whatever your preferred pace or interest level

Show up with your questions and leave with new-found confidence and self-esteem for your relationships and sex life!

Allison Moon is the author of best-selling sex-ed book Girl Sex 101, the erotic memoir Bad Dyke (Publisher’s Weekly Starred Book), and the Tales of the Pack series of novels about lesbian werewolves. She has a degree in Neuroscience from Oberlin College. As a sex educator, Allison has presented her workshops — on strap-on sex, polyamory, sexual self-expression, erotica writing, and more — to thousands of people around the US and Canada.

Reid Mihalko is America’s favorite sex geek and creator of ReidAboutSex.comRelationship10x.com, and Sex10xOnline.com. He helps adults and college students create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information.

Limited space available — sign up online!

Feb
26

Beyond Monogamy

Thursday, May 4th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

A growing number of people are exploring alternatives to monogamy, through swinging, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. If you or someone you know are one of those people, this might be the workshop for you!

Whether you are curious about opening up, already enjoying polyamory and wanting to do it even better, or facing obstacles in your non-monogamous relationship, AJ will help walk you through the challenges and benefits of ethical non-monogamy. She will discuss different styles of open relationships, talk about how to deal with common issues such as jealousy, resentment, time management, miscommunication, and New Relationship Energy (NRE), and will offer tips on dating/meeting new people, navigating different relationship structures and hierarchies, and coming out poly.

In this interactive workshop, AJ will guide participants through exercises that help them negotiate agreements/boundaries, design their own ideal open relationships, and practice nonviolent communication for deeper, more fulfilling connections. There will also be the option to hear about real-life triumphs and tribulations of other non-mono people in addition to learning how to find and build community. This is a 2-hour class.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a relationship coach, working with polyamorous individuals and couples in open relationships. AJ is an active member of the Portland poly community.

Limited space available — sign up online!

Sep
1

Redefining Success When Polyamorous Relationships End

Sunday October 23rd — 7:30 pm — $15

Dr. Elisabeth SheffAlthough most families have divorced members in their kinship networks, conventional wisdom still defines a marriage or long-term relationship that ends in any other outcome besides death as a failure. These cultural norms define “successful” relationships as monogamous and permanent in that the two people involved remain together at all costs. Polyamorists, in contrast, define the ends of their relationships in a number of ways in addition to success or failure.

In this workshop, using data from a 20 year study of polyamorous families, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff will touch briefly on her research methods, explain the three primary ways in which poly people think about the ends of their relationships, look at some of the social implications of redefining the ends of or transitions in relationships, and take questions from the audience.

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff is one of a handful of global experts on polyamory and the foremost international expert on children in polyamorous families. She authored the books When Someone You Love is Polyamorous and The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families. Sheff has given scores of radio, podcast, print, and television interviews and has also published over 20 peer reviewed journal articles and chapters in books pertaining to gender, families, and sexual minorities. Blogging for Psychology Today and How Do I Date, Sheff makes academic research easily accessible to everyone.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Jun
19

Navigating Non-Monogamy

Monday, August 8th — 7:30 pm — $20

Reid Mihalko and Allison MoonCurious about this new “lovestyle” you’re hearing a lot about called polyamory? Maybe you’ve read all the books but want to talk to folks actually living and loving the poly lifestyle. Whatever your reason or level of experience, join Reid Mihalko and Girl Sex 101 author Allison Moon for 2 hours of tips and tricks and Q&A!

In this fun, informative, and easy-to-understand primer on polyamory and open relationships, Reid and Allison will cover:

  • Definitions, vocabulary, and different ways to construct non-monogamous relationships
  • The elements that make polyamory workable (and those that create frustration and regrets)
  • Open relationships’ most common pitfalls and how YOU can avoid them
  • How to create safety by figuring out and negotiating your boundaries and agreements
  • How to find your Perfect Poly Fit and merge different poly styles to decrease upset and increase your odds that everyone is happier and MORE fulfilled
  • 3 tips and tools that will help you survive any poly exploration
  • The secret reframe that turns jealousy from a death knell into a beacon of hope and healthy relating
  • Resources, books, and tools to proceed into the world of responsible non-monogamy, at whatever your preferred pace or interest level… tools that help in monogamy, too!

Opening up relationships can be tricky, but it’s not impossible. Show up with your questions and leave with new-found confidence and self-esteem for your relationships and sex life!

Allison Moon is author of the award-winning, critically-acclaimed sex ed book Girl Sex 101, the Tales of the Pack series of novels about lesbian werewolves, and the sexual memoir, Bad Dyke. As a sex educator, Allison has presented her workshops to thousands of people around the US and Canada.

Reid Mihalko helps adults and college students create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information. He frequently speaks at colleges and universities, and regularly appears in the media sharing his views on consent, dating, and shame-free sexuality.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Feb
29

Open Relationships 101 with Tristan Taormino

Sunday, April 24th — 7:30 p.m. — $25 — Q Center (3 blocks north of She Bop at 4115 N. Mississippi)

Tristan TaorminoAre you considering an open relationship? Does your current open relationship need some tweaking? There are few established scripts or visible role models for open relationships, so people in them can struggle without support and guidance. In this interactive workshop, Tristan Taormino (relationship expert and author of Opening Up) will give practical advice on how to craft responsible, fulfilling non-monogamous relationships.

Tristan will explore common myths, real-life benefits and challenges, and how to decide if an open relationship is right for you. She will share some of the most common styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory — and discuss how to customize them to meet your individual needs and wants. Through creative exercises, you’ll learn to articulate what you want, identify and negotiate limits and boundaries, communicate with your partner(s) in productive ways, and create relationships that work for you.

Tristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, editor, sex educator, speaker, feminist pornographer, and the host of Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show/podcast. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open RelationshipsThe Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation and The Ultimate Guide to Kink. She lectures at top colleges and universities and teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world. She is the founder of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program for sex educators, and she provides business consulting and coaching to individuals and organizations.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Oct
9

Beyond Monogamy

Sunday, November 29th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

A growing number of people are exploring alternatives to monogamy, through swinging, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. If you or someone you know are one of those people, this might be the workshop for you!

Whether you are curious about opening up, already enjoying polyamory and wanting to do it even better, or facing obstacles in your non-monogamous relationship, AJ will help walk you through the challenges and benefits of ethical non-monogamy. She will discuss different styles of open relationships, talk about how to deal with common issues such as jealousy, resentment, time management, miscommunication, and New Relationship Energy (NRE), and will offer tips on dating/meeting new people, navigating different relationship structures and hierarchies, and coming out poly.

In this interactive workshop, AJ will guide participants through exercises that help them negotiate agreements/boundaries, design their own ideal open relationships, and practice nonviolent communication for deeper, more fulfilling connections. There will also be the option to hear about real-life triumphs and tribulations of other non-mono people in addition to learning how to find and build community. This is a 2-hour class.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a relationship coach, working with polyamorous individuals and couples in open relationships. AJ is an active member of the Portland poly community.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Jun
11

Beyond Monogamy

Thursday, August 6th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

A growing number of people are exploring alternatives to monogamy, through swinging, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. If you or someone you know are one of those people, this might be the workshop for you!

Whether you are curious about opening up, already enjoying polyamory and wanting to do it even better, or facing obstacles in your non-monogamous relationship, AJ will help walk you through the challenges and benefits of ethical non-monogamy. She will discuss different styles of open relationships, talk about how to deal with common issues such as jealousy, resentment, time management, miscommunication, and New Relationship Energy (NRE), and will offer tips on dating/meeting new people, navigating different relationship structures and hierarchies, and coming out poly.

In this interactive workshop, AJ will guide participants through exercises that help them negotiate agreements/boundaries, design their own ideal open relationships, and practice nonviolent communication for deeper, more fulfilling connections. There will also be the option to hear about real-life triumphs and tribulations of other non-mono people in addition to learning how to find and build community. This is a 2-hour class.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a relationship coach, working with polyamorous individuals and couples in open relationships. AJ is an active member of the Portland poly community.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Mar
12

Beyond Monogamy

Sunday, May 3rd — 7:30 p.m. — $20

A growing number of people are exploring alternatives to monogamy, through swinging, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. If you or someone you know are one of those people, this might be the workshop for you!

Whether you are curious about opening up, already enjoying polyamory and wanting to do it even better, or facing obstacles in your non-monogamous relationship, AJ will help walk you through the challenges and benefits of ethical non-monogamy. She will discuss different styles of open relationships, talk about how to deal with common issues such as jealousy, resentment, time management, miscommunication, and New Relationship Energy (NRE), and will offer tips on dating/meeting new people, navigating different relationship structures and hierarchies, and coming out poly.

In this interactive workshop, AJ will guide participants through exercises that help them negotiate agreements/boundaries, design their own ideal open relationships, and practice nonviolent communication for deeper, more fulfilling connections. There will also be the option to hear about real-life triumphs and tribulations of other non-mono people in addition to learning how to find and build community. This is a 2-hour class.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a relationship coach, working with polyamorous individuals and couples in open relationships. AJ is an active member of the Portland poly community.

This event has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Mar
1

A productivity app for the poly community

The Poly Life appThe single biggest myth that polyamorous people have to dispel constantly: it’s not all about sex. Being in a non-monogamous relationship does not translate to “orgy.” In fact, most of the time it just translates to “tons of communication and inordinate use of Google Calendar.”

That’s why the new phone app The Poly Life has two benefits: it helps poly folks stay organized, and its existence fights misconceptions against the poly community.

The Poly Life is the brainchild of an anonymous polyamorous quad, brought to life by app developer Christine Tseng. They all came together after the family had been in contact with Natalia Garcia, the producer of Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating. The family had to reschedule their Skype session with Garcia more than once, prompting them to joke that they needed an app to keep them in line. Garcia name-dropped Tseng, and things took off from there.

Tseng had previously only created games, so she was thrilled by the idea of stepping out of her comfort zone to develop an app for the poly community. She also knew there was no competition, since The Poly Life was not a dating app or a hook-up app (really, it’s a productivity app). Tseng and the family spent a year working on the app before releasing it.

Some features of the app tackle logistics: a shared calendar, a chat function, a map, a to do list. Others help define parameters in the relationships, such as rules, boundaries, and statuses — allowing for updates and changes over time. All of these features are private except for the “Poly Fun” section, which allows users to publicly share events with the broader poly community.

A member of the family behind the app explained a fun use for the “Agreements” section of the app:

I drive my wife crazy with my laundry. I’m a bit messy and tend to throw my dirty clothes on the floor. So she sent me an agreement, “If all of your clothes make it into the hamper this week, we’ll do a group date night of your choice.” I had to press the agree or disagree button and, of course, I agreed! That agreement stayed in my phone as a reminder and for the most part, all of my dirty clothes made it into the hamper. Although we use the agreements mostly for relationship and sexual boundaries, we want to remind everyone to think outside of the box. This app has been a really fun way to make the mundane interesting and to have fun with each other.

Progress toward mainstream acceptance of polyamory is slow, but apps like The Poly Life, along with classesarticlesinterviews, and stories all contribute toward a better, more nuanced understanding of what being polyamorous means.

Sometimes, it just means delegating someone to pick up milk on their way home.

Jul
13

More Than Two Reading with Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

More Than Two Reading with Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

Sunday, September 14th — 7:30 p.m. — FREE

Vancouver, BC author Eve Rickert, together with her partner and co-author Franklin Veaux, of Portland, Oregon, will be reading from their forthcoming book More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory and answering reader questions on the book and on polyamory in general.

More Than Two is a comprehensive guide to the polyamorous lifestyle. Challenging the notion of what society considers a healthy and successful relationship, Rickert and Veaux offer up personal stories from their own lives as well as of those in the wider poly world, emphasizing that this lifestyle choice isn’t for the noncommittal. Polyamory is all about the relationships and the individuals participating.

Charting a Relationship Bill of Rights, the authors underscore the importance of engaging in ethical polyamory and guide readers through the thorny issues of jealousy and insecurity with the aim of encouraging readers to work consistently and conscientiously on both their relationships and themselves.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

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