Is it any surprise we’re big fans of Valentine’s Day? Of course, we believe in love and pleasure all year round, but it’s nice to have a day set aside for celebrating in style. Sometimes, though, it can be hard to find just the right gift to woo someone, or the perfect thing to splurge on for yourself. So, we’ve rounded up our top recommendations for sexy items to make this Valentine’s Day memorable (and pleasurable)!
We-Vibe calls Nova the “new dual stimulation superstar,” and we have to agree! While at first glance this toy looks like just any other rabbit style dual vibe, the difference is in its ultra flexible smaller arm. Instead of reaching up and pressing down on top of the clitoris, the Nova’s springy arm curves in toward the handle as the toy is inserted vaginally, allowing you to control the exact placement and pressure. This unique design flexes with your movement to always stay in contact with the clitoris, even during thrusting, for true simultaneous stimulation. Between the deep, rumbly vibrations of the wave-like outer arm and the G-spot-pleasing shape of the insertable portion, it’s no wonder this innovative toy has received so many positive reviews!
Waterproof, rechargeable, and with 10 preset vibration modes, the We-Vibe Nova offers everything sex toy connoisseurs have come to expect in a luxury toy, but it also goes one step further — it has an app! The free We-Connect app can be downloaded to your smartphone or tablet to get extra features (like touch screen control) and to create custom vibes. You can even connect and play with a partner from anywhere in the world!
Love the idea of a vibrator that can be controlled by a partner, but want something a little more discreet or portable? You’ll definitely want to check out the Club Vibe 3.OH! This vibrator is designed to be worn in a pair of panties, so it can be used at home for hands-free vibration or taken out in public for some risqué fun. Its built in microphone and ambient noise setting make it great for clubs or concerts, where it can vibrate to the beat of the music!
Lightweight and quiet, this slim little toy has three different modes, a rechargeable, wireless remote control, and comes with a one year warranty. Added bonus: the Club Vibe 3.OH comes with black lace panties and a travel/storage pouch.
If you’re wanting to be close to your partner in a way that is playful, but not gadget or tech-focused, why not try a sweet game filled with smooches? Creative Kisses includes 101 mini cards that are full of hot and silly ideas for locking lips with your lover. The cards are small enough to pack in a purse or suitcase, and include kissing tips and sexy suggestions written in English, Spanish, French, and German.
Pro tip: look through the deck to find something you’ve never tried but would love to do with your partner, OR have your lover choose a card at random and surprise you with whichever creative kiss is written on it!
Searching for an inexpensive and simple gift that still rates high on versatility? Stockroom’s Vondage Buckling Restraint is a nice option for both lovers of c-rings and of BDSM. Originally designed as a vegan alternative to adjustable leather cock rings, this restraint can also function as a wrist or ankle cuff for intro or light bondage. The silver D-ring serves as a point of attachment for a leash or other such device and the adjustability of the ring allows it to fit many different bodies and body parts.
At only $12, this handy little convertible product really gives you a lot of bang for your buck. You could even buy multiples to customize your play or to wear like bracelets as a subtle way to show off your kinky side in public!
Acclaimed porn director Erika Lust is at it again — this time with two brand new volumes of her highly-rated and magnificently filmed XConfessions series! XConfessions originally started as a project on Erika Lust’s website, where users anonymously shared their sex fantasies and stories and Lust handpicked her favorite confessions to turn into erotic short films. The idea was so popular that XConfessions has grown into seven DVD compilations.
XConfessions Vol. 6 showcases Lust’s bold creativity and shatters stereotypes, all in 99 steamy minutes. Some of our favorites scenes from this volume include stripteases, assless chaps, a sexy BDSM femdom story, and an unforgettable threesome. XConfessions Vol. 7 also includes many memorable scenes, and is Lust’s most cinematic collection to date. Vol. 7 even includes three short films from guest directors (Paulita Pappel, Olympe de G., and Adriana Eskenazi). You can check out the trailers for both volumes on their product pages, but good luck deciding between the two!
Ideal for people experiencing dryness that may be brought on by aging, medication, hormone changes, and/or medical treatments, Janie’s Rose is a super moisturizing and nourishing blend of all-natural oils that warms up quickly and provides a long-lasting glide. It is odorless, tasteless, and great for people with sensitive skin. What’s more, Janie’s Rose is cruelty-free and vegan and the 2 oz. bottle is the perfect size for traveling! Just remember, since this product is oil-based, it is not compatible with latex condoms.
Dinner reservations? Check. Sex toy and lube from She Bop? Check. Now all you need is the perfect card! Unusual Occasion greeting cards are a great choice for their nostalgic and whimsical visuals, plus they don’t contain any cliché messages or generic sayings. Instead, these cards flip open vertically and are blank on the inside with tableture handwriting lines. That means you have plenty of space to compose a poem, attach a photo, or write a love letter for your sweetie that truly comes from the heart. After all, that’s what Valentine’s Day is all about!
One of our most-loved vibrators of all time is the original battery-powered Vibratex Mystic Wand. So, when Team Bop heard there was going to be a rechargeable version, we were very excited. Fortunately, the new Mystic Wand Rechargeable not only met our expectations, but exceeded them by improving upon an already great toy! With three steady vibration intensities and three pulse patterns like its battery-operated predecessor, the new rechargeable version is now ergonomically curved for better reach and easier grip.
The Mystic Wand Rechargeable is made from smooth body-safe materials, with a silicone head and silky polyurethane-coated handle. However, the best feature of all may be that you can use it with or without the cord plugged in to the base! If you or your partner enjoy powerful classic vibrators like the Magic Wand or Doxy Massager but don’t want to hold such a large or heavy toy or be tethered to a cord, the Mystic Wand Rechargeable could make a wonderful addition to your toy bag!
Thinking of getting your honey something silky and beautiful to slip into this Valentine’s Day? Why not skip lingerie that might not be the right size or style, and go for something a little kinkier?!
The Indoor Bound Slip Tie Cuffs are sleek, soft, and colorful restraints that are handmade in Washington state with top quality nylon webbing, custom coated steel hardware, and full-strength carabiners. They are comfortable, strong, and very easy to use, making them perfect for those who are new to bondage or who may not want to use rope. Simply slip your hands through the loops, pull tight, and clip! You can even combine two sets together for a quick and elegant hog-tie!
Nothing says “I love you and think your parts are the best” like the gift of a Clone-a-Willy or Clone-a-Pussy! These amusing kits from Portland company Empire Labs allow you to make exact replicas of your genitals from the comfort of your own home. Immortalize you or your lover’s vaginal lips in 100% platinum-cure, body safe silicone! Have a date night where you create a vibrating lifelike dildo that captures all the details of your favorite penis!
With nothing to send away and no 3D printing required, Clone-a-Willy and Clone-a-Pussy kits are the easiest, most entertaining way of making personalized cock and vulva castings. They come in multiple colors and even edible chocolate versions, but for Valentine’s Day, we especially love the hot pink Clone-a-Pussy and hot pink glow in the dark Clone-a-Willy.
The annual day of love is right around the corner — and you know we have the goods to help you celebrate in style! Sometimes, though, it can be hard to find just the right gift to woo someone with, or the perfect thing to splurge on for yourself. So we’ve rounded up our top recommendations for sexy items to make this Valentine’s Day memorable (and pleasurable!).
A lot of folks like to receive beautiful jewelry as a gift, but this is no ordinary necklace — the Vesper is also a fully functional vibrator. Made with sparkling stainless steel, this vibrator from Crave can compliment someone’s look and give them an orgasm at the end of the night. Awesomely, it has three speeds, one pulsation pattern, and it’s USB rechargeable.
Double-ended dildos are perfect for couples, and Fun Factory’s new ShareVibe ups the ante on what a double-ended dildo can be. Modeled after their popular Share dildo, the ShareVibe is designed so that one partner can wear the bulb end vaginally in order to penetrate someone else with the shaft — with or without a harness. True to its name, the ShareVibe comes with a multi-function rechargeable bullet vibrator that fits snugly in its base. Since the bullet is removable, it can even be used sans dildo.
What’s more romantic than a good, old-fashioned kiss? In this pint-sized guide by sexpert Violet Blue, there are tips for all kinds of kissing scenarios. Learn how to give and receive a first kiss, time your kisses perfectly, read body language, and cultivate your own kissing style. Kissing: A Field Guide is a cute, back-to-basics book that will remind you to pause and appreciate the power of a kiss.
From photos, you can’t tell what the Limon‘s true superpower is, but this toy actually has squishy sides that react to touch. The harder you squeeze, the stronger the vibration it produces, and there’s even a mode in which you can “record” your own custom vibration pattern and play it back. This interactive functionality makes the Limon a wonderful toy for couples to explore and use together.
Just another butt plug? Nope! The Fun Factory B Balls have two inner balls that roll around with movement, adding unique stimulation to your anal play, while the silicone body and flared base make this toy safe and comfortable to wear. Whether you wear the B Balls as a prelude to anal sex or simply for fun during everyday activities, they are sure to put some pep in you or your partner’s step!
The OhMiBod blueMotion is one of only a few sex toys on the market that can be controlled remotely. And we don’t just mean from across the room — we mean from across the country. The slim, ABS plastic vibrator is meant to slide effortlessly into underwear for hands-free clitoral stimulation. Meanwhile, a partner can create vibration patterns by tapping their phone’s screen in a rhythm, recording their voice, physically tilting their phone, and more. Excellent for long-distance relationships!
Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet & Balm Set
Good, solid vibrators don’t have to cost a ton, the Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet is a great example. This shiny, smooth vibe takes 2 AAAs and features three vibration intensities and three modes. Controlled by a simple push button on its base, the Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet performs admirably whether it’s used clitorally or vaginally. Plus, it comes with a tin of minty arousal balm and some Bettie Page themed trinkets!
Filthy Farmgirl Filthy Valentine soap
Filthy Farmgirl’s soaps are basically irresistible. Not only do they smell amazing, but they have amusing names accompanied by adorable labels. This seasonal soap smells like cardamom rose, but there are other options if your valentine is more of a ylang ylang type of person, for instance.
At first blush, it may seem like we’ve included the Cuddle simply because it’s pink and comes in heart-printed packaging. All of this is true, but the glory of Cuddle is in its functionality. This vibrator is jam-packed with vibration intensities and scalable patterns, and its petite curved shape makes it ideal for clitoral or G-spot stimulation. As an added bonus, it is one of the most inexpensive rechargeable vibrators on our shelves, because it’s splashproof rather than fully waterproof.
For years, the world has been waiting for a remote-controlled vibrator that works over long distances. Most remote-controlled toys have a range of 10-40 feet. The new OhMiBod blueMotion has a range of “wherever you get cell phone reception.” If this sounds implausible, early tests show that the vibe can even be controlled from a plane.
Of course, while the range is certainly impressive, what matters more is the experience that users have interacting with the toy. Luckily for us, Nerve writer Samantha Greene found a willing person to get her off from afar, then documented her experience for the site’s popular column “I Did It For Science.”
Greene used hookup app Tinder to search for a guinea pig, eventually finding a guy 200 miles away named Patrick. After some flirtation involving ice cream emojis and small talk, she asked if he wanted to participate in her vibrator experiment. He agreed.
There was some fumbling at the outset due to all the logging in, friending, and syncing, but once the actual experience started, Greene was on board. So was Patrick.
The app has a lot of uncanny settings and features designed to help imitate and build upon the wonders of physical human touch. There’s a feature where a user can record their voice and corresponding vibrations will buzz out into the other user’s vibe. There’s a tap function, where the controller has full domain over the pattern and longevity of the pulses. Then there are custom patterns, built-in vibrations, and wave settings. I had only told Patrick, who had never used a vibrator with a woman in the bedroom before, that he should, “You know, start slow and then build up in a steady rhythm. Like you would in person. Then you’re golden.”
. . . He was on the tap function for what seemed a while. He followed the “start slow” direction, and I was pretty grateful . . . I was now turned on and needed to get off, but I also needed to communicate with my lab partner, tell him the rights and wrongs, and help him finish. If anything, we were communicating more than I ever would with a random drunken hookup. I don’t even go into some random drunken hookups with the expectation that I will get anything out of it. Here, I was getting everything.
It was the “Wave” function that eventually brought Greene over the edge. Afterward, they exchanged heart emojis. “It was fun,” Patrick said. “I’m not sure I’d normally seek it out, but it was kinda hot.” He only wished they could cuddle.
Greene was also pleasantly surprised.
It hadn’t been as absurd as I’d thought. It’d been completely enjoyable, in most ways. At the end of the day, we were still two libidos on the end of a phone with one another. We were still just two people who had shared the fits and starts of a first sweaty, complicated night sharing our bodies together. We just weren’t together.
Did Santa forget to put a sexy gift in your stocking? Perhaps you received a She Bop gift certificate that’s burning a hole in your pocket? The holidays have gone by in a flash, but we still have some presents under the She Bop tree. From today through Tuesday, December 31st, we’re putting some amazing toys, books, and other fun stuff on sale at 15% off.
Expand your PC muscle strength with the Ami balls. Expand your mind with The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, The Collection, or Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to the G-Spot! Or get fierce with the Tiger dildo or cherry red Aslan Minx harness.
Hurry in to the shop or visit our online sale section; this sale runs through the 31st or while supplies last!
A recent article from AVN caught our eye: “Game Changers: 30 Women Power Players in the Adult Industry.” Long overdue? Probably! With so many highly accomplished women in the adult industry, it’s no wonder they found it difficult to narrow the list down to just 30:
The whittling-down process turned out to be tougher than we thought — but also very inspiring. At virtually every major adult studio, there are female directors making movies informed by aesthetics that may not always be feminist, but are certainly feminine. And there are the superstars who are such natural entrepreneurs that they’ve made themselves into brand names, creating their own lucrative deals. Add to that the dozens of women who were “founding mothers” but have since gone on to other endeavors, and you end up — as we did — with a list of some 100 talented, ambitious and tenacious businesswomen.
The final list includes many folks we really love, such as Joanna Angel (“porn’s female counterpart to Mark Zuckerberg”), Tristan Taormino (credited with, among quite a few other things, “put[ting] the phrase ‘feminist porn’ on many mainstream lips”), Courtney Trouble, Nina Hartley (“a force of nature”), and Carol Queen. Another unsurprising inclusion is E.L. James, author of the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy.
The list also includes several sex toy gurus such as Metis Black (president of Tantus) and Suki Dunham (founder of OhMiBod). Black has been instrumental in shifting the industry focus toward 100% silicone, non-porous sex toys, starting her company in 1998 when there were fewer than ten manufacturers of silicone sex toys worldwide — and very little knowledge about toxic toys.
Dunham did something else: she paired sex with music, creating arguably one of the most innovative sex toy lines in the industry. AVN writes:
Some might think it was fate that Suki Dunham got the idea for OhMiBod after one Christmas morning. Her husband and company co-founder, Brian, got her two significant gifts that year: An iPod and a vibrator. Dunham knew that music impacts so many areas of people lives, so why not their sex lives? A former Apple employee, Dunham not only revolutionized the technological aspect of sex toys — OhMiBod has created products that vibrate when hooked up to MP3 players, as well as respond to ambient sound, such as music in clubs — but also the look. OhMiBod was a company that dared to break away from the traditional pink and purple color scheme and offer items in bright greens, blues and even white.
One thing’s for sure: female entrepreneurs have been pivotal in moving the adult industry forward, and this article illustrates exactly how pivotal. We only wish the list hadn’t been narrowed down to just 30!
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