Is it any surprise we’re big fans of Valentine’s Day? Of course, we believe in love and pleasure all year round, but it’s nice to have a day set aside for celebrating in style. Sometimes, though, it can be hard to find just the right gift to woo someone, or the perfect thing to splurge on for yourself. So, we’ve rounded up our top recommendations for sexy items to make this Valentine’s Day memorable (and pleasurable)!
We-Vibe calls Nova the “new dual stimulation superstar,” and we have to agree! While at first glance this toy looks like just any other rabbit style dual vibe, the difference is in its ultra flexible smaller arm. Instead of reaching up and pressing down on top of the clitoris, the Nova’s springy arm curves in toward the handle as the toy is inserted vaginally, allowing you to control the exact placement and pressure. This unique design flexes with your movement to always stay in contact with the clitoris, even during thrusting, for true simultaneous stimulation. Between the deep, rumbly vibrations of the wave-like outer arm and the G-spot-pleasing shape of the insertable portion, it’s no wonder this innovative toy has received so many positive reviews!
Waterproof, rechargeable, and with 10 preset vibration modes, the We-Vibe Nova offers everything sex toy connoisseurs have come to expect in a luxury toy, but it also goes one step further — it has an app! The free We-Connect app can be downloaded to your smartphone or tablet to get extra features (like touch screen control) and to create custom vibes. You can even connect and play with a partner from anywhere in the world!
Love the idea of a vibrator that can be controlled by a partner, but want something a little more discreet or portable? You’ll definitely want to check out the Club Vibe 3.OH! This vibrator is designed to be worn in a pair of panties, so it can be used at home for hands-free vibration or taken out in public for some risqué fun. Its built in microphone and ambient noise setting make it great for clubs or concerts, where it can vibrate to the beat of the music!
Lightweight and quiet, this slim little toy has three different modes, a rechargeable, wireless remote control, and comes with a one year warranty. Added bonus: the Club Vibe 3.OH comes with black lace panties and a travel/storage pouch.
If you’re wanting to be close to your partner in a way that is playful, but not gadget or tech-focused, why not try a sweet game filled with smooches? Creative Kisses includes 101 mini cards that are full of hot and silly ideas for locking lips with your lover. The cards are small enough to pack in a purse or suitcase, and include kissing tips and sexy suggestions written in English, Spanish, French, and German.
Pro tip: look through the deck to find something you’ve never tried but would love to do with your partner, OR have your lover choose a card at random and surprise you with whichever creative kiss is written on it!
Searching for an inexpensive and simple gift that still rates high on versatility? Stockroom’s Vondage Buckling Restraint is a nice option for both lovers of c-rings and of BDSM. Originally designed as a vegan alternative to adjustable leather cock rings, this restraint can also function as a wrist or ankle cuff for intro or light bondage. The silver D-ring serves as a point of attachment for a leash or other such device and the adjustability of the ring allows it to fit many different bodies and body parts.
At only $12, this handy little convertible product really gives you a lot of bang for your buck. You could even buy multiples to customize your play or to wear like bracelets as a subtle way to show off your kinky side in public!
Acclaimed porn director Erika Lust is at it again — this time with two brand new volumes of her highly-rated and magnificently filmed XConfessions series! XConfessions originally started as a project on Erika Lust’s website, where users anonymously shared their sex fantasies and stories and Lust handpicked her favorite confessions to turn into erotic short films. The idea was so popular that XConfessions has grown into seven DVD compilations.
XConfessions Vol. 6 showcases Lust’s bold creativity and shatters stereotypes, all in 99 steamy minutes. Some of our favorites scenes from this volume include stripteases, assless chaps, a sexy BDSM femdom story, and an unforgettable threesome. XConfessions Vol. 7 also includes many memorable scenes, and is Lust’s most cinematic collection to date. Vol. 7 even includes three short films from guest directors (Paulita Pappel, Olympe de G., and Adriana Eskenazi). You can check out the trailers for both volumes on their product pages, but good luck deciding between the two!
Ideal for people experiencing dryness that may be brought on by aging, medication, hormone changes, and/or medical treatments, Janie’s Rose is a super moisturizing and nourishing blend of all-natural oils that warms up quickly and provides a long-lasting glide. It is odorless, tasteless, and great for people with sensitive skin. What’s more, Janie’s Rose is cruelty-free and vegan and the 2 oz. bottle is the perfect size for traveling! Just remember, since this product is oil-based, it is not compatible with latex condoms.
Dinner reservations? Check. Sex toy and lube from She Bop? Check. Now all you need is the perfect card! Unusual Occasion greeting cards are a great choice for their nostalgic and whimsical visuals, plus they don’t contain any cliché messages or generic sayings. Instead, these cards flip open vertically and are blank on the inside with tableture handwriting lines. That means you have plenty of space to compose a poem, attach a photo, or write a love letter for your sweetie that truly comes from the heart. After all, that’s what Valentine’s Day is all about!
One of our most-loved vibrators of all time is the original battery-powered Vibratex Mystic Wand. So, when Team Bop heard there was going to be a rechargeable version, we were very excited. Fortunately, the new Mystic Wand Rechargeable not only met our expectations, but exceeded them by improving upon an already great toy! With three steady vibration intensities and three pulse patterns like its battery-operated predecessor, the new rechargeable version is now ergonomically curved for better reach and easier grip.
The Mystic Wand Rechargeable is made from smooth body-safe materials, with a silicone head and silky polyurethane-coated handle. However, the best feature of all may be that you can use it with or without the cord plugged in to the base! If you or your partner enjoy powerful classic vibrators like the Magic Wand or Doxy Massager but don’t want to hold such a large or heavy toy or be tethered to a cord, the Mystic Wand Rechargeable could make a wonderful addition to your toy bag!
Thinking of getting your honey something silky and beautiful to slip into this Valentine’s Day? Why not skip lingerie that might not be the right size or style, and go for something a little kinkier?!
The Indoor Bound Slip Tie Cuffs are sleek, soft, and colorful restraints that are handmade in Washington state with top quality nylon webbing, custom coated steel hardware, and full-strength carabiners. They are comfortable, strong, and very easy to use, making them perfect for those who are new to bondage or who may not want to use rope. Simply slip your hands through the loops, pull tight, and clip! You can even combine two sets together for a quick and elegant hog-tie!
Nothing says “I love you and think your parts are the best” like the gift of a Clone-a-Willy or Clone-a-Pussy! These amusing kits from Portland company Empire Labs allow you to make exact replicas of your genitals from the comfort of your own home. Immortalize you or your lover’s vaginal lips in 100% platinum-cure, body safe silicone! Have a date night where you create a vibrating lifelike dildo that captures all the details of your favorite penis!
With nothing to send away and no 3D printing required, Clone-a-Willy and Clone-a-Pussy kits are the easiest, most entertaining way of making personalized cock and vulva castings. They come in multiple colors and even edible chocolate versions, but for Valentine’s Day, we especially love the hot pink Clone-a-Pussy and hot pink glow in the dark Clone-a-Willy.
In our culture, menopause is often painted as an unpleasant, even ominous stage of life that will bring nothing but trouble. And while it is true that menopause is accompanied by many uncomfortable symptoms, it is a phase that also holds some hidden potential. Menopause is a great time for a rebirth — for a relearning of what feels good to you and how you would like to experience sexuality in your later years.
It can be challenging, to be sure. Menopause comes with many symptoms that impact one’s ability to enjoy sex. A decline in hormones causes the vaginal tissues to become thinner and less elastic, and decreased blood flow causes diminished sensation and lubrication. Along with mood swings and hot flashes, this can result in difficulty with arousal, decreased pleasure with penetration, inability to climax, and an overall lack of desire for sex.
All of these issues are entirely normal. But this is where a person must become proactive. Doctors, therapists, and sex educators are in agreement on one point: the more sexually active you can stay as you go through menopause, the better. A partner is not required. Masturbation works just as well. The bottom line is that regular penetration and stimulation can improve vaginal elasticity, promote healthy blood circulation to the tissues, and heighten pleasure.
With dedication, commitment, and lots of lube, your sex life can continue to thrive throughout menopause — and beyond.
(Note: Your doctor or OBGYN will be able to give you more tailor-fit suggestions for dealing with the many symptoms of menopause, including options for hormone therapy, counseling, sex therapy, etc. It is best to check with your doctor first to make sure there are no underlying health issues.)
Lube, always lube
Lubricant is perhaps the most important thing we sell for menopausal folks. As estrogen levels fall, the cells in the vaginal lining produce less moisture when stimulated. The lining also becomes thinner, drier, and more susceptible to irritation and tearing. Even people who have never needed lube may find that their body simply does not create enough natural lubrication anymore. Lube can help immensely.
Yes water-based and Sliquid Satin are two water-based lubes that can be used both during sexual activity and as daily moisturizers. Satin contains a seaweed extract that is said to lock in moisture, while Yes contains a flax extract which bolsters mucous membranes. Both contain aloe vera and are meant to mimic the body’s natural lubrication. You can even get pre-filled Yes applicators or Lube Tubes, which are great for depositing lube where it’s needed most: internally.
Another option might be Yes oil-based. Made with cocoa and shea butter, it has a softer, silkier feel than water-based lubes, and will absorb nicely into the skin when its primary job is done. You can even layer water-based lube on top of it, which prevents the water-based lube from drying up too quickly. Oil-based lube, however, can degrade latex, so it should not be used alongside barriers such as condoms and gloves.
Silicone-based lubes are another possibility, but with a few caveats. They are not the best option for daily moisturization — and they’re not compatible with silicone sex toys. They are, however, extremely long-lasting, and can greatly reduce friction during penetration. Read more about the varieties of lube in our guide.
Dilators and how to use them
Dilators are cylindrical objects that come in varying sizes and are inserted vaginally to gently acclimate the vagina to penetration. They are extremely useful tools not just for those experiencing menopause, but also folks who have gone through chemotherapy, are on some medications, are grappling with certain types of pelvic pain (such as vaginismus), or just want to improve the ability of their vagina to accommodate certain sizes.
Painful penetration is common with menopause. The thinning of the vaginal walls causes diminished elasticity and muscle tone, tightening of the vaginal opening, dryness, and sometimes even a shortening and narrowing of the vaginal canal. These elements lead to discomfort during penetration. Thankfully, sustained use of dilators or other toys can help restore the vagina to a more elastic and robust state.
We have a couple dilator options. The first is the Berman Dilator Set, which is made of body-safe ABS plastic. It consists of a vibrating handle and three sizes of attachment ranging from .75″ in diameter to 1.5″ in diameter. It also comes with a soft nubby sleeve, in case you want to experiment with some texture. The added vibration can help the muscles relax.
If you’d prefer something squishier, there’s the Tantus Silk series. These slightly curved 100% silicone dildos come in three sizes ranging from .75″ in diameter to 1.5″ in diameter. We also have other silicone dilators in the shop we can show you. Those start at the size of a pinky and gradually get larger.
The important thing to understand is that the largest size is not always the end goal. The end goal is simply comfortable and satisfying penetration, whatever that means for you.
Some dildos, though not marketed as dilators, could serve the same purpose. The Vixen Creations Spur and Mistress, for instance, are both fairly small and made of soft silicone. The Mistress even comes with a little bullet for some added vibration.
Insertable vibrators can also help aid in the journey toward pleasurable penetration, as they can massage the delicate tissue with their vibration. The Bswish Bgee is nice and thin; the LELO Liv is rechargeable and silky smooth, with a range of vibration intensities. Ultimately, any insertable toy that is comfortable for you can be useful in expanding the vagina’s capabilities.
Here are some tips for using dilators/toys to ease into comfortable penetration. Of course, the experience will differ greatly from person to person.
- Find a comfortable and private location in which you can breathe easy and take your time.
- Aim for arousal, either by touching your clitoris/labia, and/or fantasizing, watching a DVD, or reading erotica, whatever works for you. Arousal will relax the muscles and elongate the vagina.
- Apply a liberal amount of lube to both the dilator/toy and the opening of the vagina.
- Focus on relaxing all parts of your body, especially your pelvic floor muscles. Breathe deeply and, if it helps, visualize your vagina in a state of softness, opening to accept the toy.
- Angle the tip of the toy downward a bit, as this will help steer it under your pubic bone. Then slowly insert it vaginally as far as you’re able without experiencing pain.
- If you feel a stretching sort of pain, pull the toy out slightly and focus on the area that is comfortable. When that area is relaxed, you can push the toy in more.
- Once the toy has become comfortable for you (which may not be for several sessions), experiment with different movements. Increase the depth of penetration, or rotate the handle. Move the toy back and forth. Turn on the vibration.
- After one size of toy has become quite comfortable on several separate occasions, feel free to size up. If the next size hurts, return to the previous size for a bit. Don’t rush it.
- Always listen to your body. If at any point you experience serious pain, slowly pull the toy out and take a rest. You can always try again tomorrow.
- Settle into a routine with your dilators/toys. The more regularly you can do these exercises, the easier it will become, and the more benefits you can reap.
While kegel exercises can be beneficial to folks of all ages, they can especially assist those going through menopause. The drop in estrogen levels that accompanies menopause can cause a decrease in muscle tone and pelvic floor relaxation. This effect can be reversed with kegel exercise.
Kegel exercise consists of voluntarily and repetitively contracting and relaxing the PC muscles. Regular kegel exercise increases blood flow to the vagina and can have a variety of worthwhile effects, such as heightened sensitivity, stronger orgasms, and greater response to G-spot stimulation. The more the PC muscles are toned, the more they can relax, thus improving your chances of pain-free penetration. Strong PC muscles also help with urinary incontinence.
Kegel exercises can be done without the aid of a toy (read our guide for techniques), or with a toy in place to provide resistance and added stimulation. We carry several sets of kegel balls, but our top choice for older folks would be the Je Joue Ami set. These balls are covered in squishy, seamless silicone, which is important when sensitive, thin vaginal tissue is involved. With the set, you can start with the lightweight ball and work toward the heaviest.
Books and DVDs
There are many literary and visual resources to help you through menopause, such as Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause.
The fabulous senior sex educator Joan Price has two books — Naked At Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex and Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty — which feature personal stories as well as advice from sex therapists, health professionals, counselors, and more. We also carry Sex Over 50, which debunks myths about sexuality and aging. In the same vein, there’s Still Doing It: The Intimate Lives of Women Over 60.
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability is an invaluable resource to anyone with pain, illness, disability, or a chronic condition. If you suspect that your sexual pain is due to something other than just menopause, pick up When Sex Hurts and tell your doctor.
That’s not all!
Let’s not forget the important role that vibrators can play in this process. To combat a decrease in sensitivity, you can try a strong wand-style vibe such as the Hitachi, Bodywand, MagiC wand, or Mystic Wand. Some folks have found that the deep, penetrating oscillations of the Eroscillator are very effective. Or, an ergonomic and versatile rechargeable vibe might be better: perhaps the LELO Mona 2 or Jimmyjane Form 4.
Your experience of sensation may change during and after menopause, which can open up new doors. Experiment with a stimulating gel or a clitoral pump to increase blood flow to the clitoris and enhance sensitivity. Or check out sensation toys such as feather ticklers and the Wartenberg Pinwheel. Use a blindfold to add an element of surprise and heighten the sensation even further.
With a partner, there are countless ways you can keep things interesting (and thus help your body follow along): spend more time on foreplay, initiate sex at a different time of day than usual, watch a DVD together, experiment with a new position, engage in roleplay, introduce sensual massage, try cock rings, or even sign up for one of our many workshops to learn something new together.
The usual stay-healthy tips also apply to those going through menopause: eating well, drinking enough water, getting plenty of sleep, and exercising can always improve your (sex) life. Exercise especially has the potential to increase your energy, enhance your mood, improve your self-esteem, and yes, even boost your libido. It’s the endorphins!
Above all, aim for variety and nurture a sense of adventure and positivity. Make a commitment to yourself to maintain an active sex life as you age, and follow through on that promise. Although menopause can be difficult, it can also be an opportunity to explore your sexuality in a whole new way.
If you’ve ever wondered just what kind of research and development goes into lube creation (and we sure did!), you’ll love this article in the Chicago Reader that details the story behind Überlube. We just added Überlube to our shelves, having been impressed with its light, effortless feel and high-quality glass bottle. Now that we know the whole story, we appreciate it even more!
Here’s how Überlube came to be: Stephen Magnusen and Franz Zwergel were best friends since high school. After college, they lived together working various jobs: selling security products, modeling, producing hair shows. They were on the hunt for a business endeavor they could enter together, but no ideas were sticking until one night in 2002 when a friend described something using the invented word “überlube.” The word struck them. Nobody was making an actual product called “überlube,” so that is what they set out to do — create a lubricant that fit the adjective’s definition: the best, the greatest, beyond the norm.
Neither guy had a background in chemistry or much knowledge about lube, but they had connections: hair salon friends, a chemist father. They set up a lab in a basement in Wisconsin and began a rigorous testing schedule, and soon, they were self-made lube experts:
After almost three solid weeks of 12-hour days, their experiments grew increasingly obsessive-compulsive. Zwergel remembers them like this: “‘OK, now stick your arms out; I’m going to pour A on your left and B on your right.’ And then we’d test each other and put the same product on both arms. That’s when we knew we were getting burned out — when we started calling out differences between the same product.” One of Magnusen’s fonder recollections is of an experiment wherein he attempted to set Zwergel on fire to test the product’s flammability: “Some of our ingredients said that they were scorchable,” he says. “So we had Franz in the kitchen covered in Überlube and I had my creme brulee torch and I went to town on him. And I was unable to light him on fire.”
Magnusen even went so far as to invent a device to test lubricity. And three months later, after testing tons of formulations and extensively polling their friends, they found the winning formula. There are only four ingredients — dimethicone, dimethiconal, cyclomethicone, and tocopheryl acetate (vitamin E) — but they’re high-grade, with very specific proportions.
“I remember trying a new composition and calling Franz to tell him I think we have it,” says Magnusen. “It had all the fine qualities we were looking for, and I knew it the second I dabbed it on my wrist. Unperceivable tack. Zero foaming. Highly lubricious. Acceptable combination of sensation versus slip. And it had the one thing we really wanted to get right but didn’t know if it was possible: it lasted while I was using it and dissipated when I was done. I was totally psyched.”
When Überlube hit the market, Magnusen and Zwergel celebrated with shots of Überlube. Yes, Überlube in shot glasses, right down the hatch.
That’s a little extreme, but actually, silicone lube is known for its far-reaching talents. It is not compatible with silicone toys, which is its main downfall (silicone is a synthetic that will bind to itself, leaving a toy tacky). However, as an incredibly long-lasting, silky, and waterproof lube, it’s wonderful for extended sessions, anal sex, water play (just don’t slip and fall in the shower!), and more. Those same properties also make it great for a host of other things:
- Shining, smoothing, and de-frizzing hair
- Skin moisturizing
- Polishing and conditioning latex and rubber, touching up patent leather
- Easing into rubber or latex clothing
- Oiling anything that is stuck or squeaking: locks, door hinges, bike chains, exercise equipment, hamster wheels…
- Soothing chapped lips
- Conditioning tattoos
- Summer’s coming so we’re just gonna throw this out there: slip ‘n’ slide. (Or lube wrestling?)
Überlube was not designed solely as a sexual lubricant anyway. Magnusen and Zwergel saw it as more of an above-and-beyond product; so it is not just sold in sex shops, but also in hair salons and clothing boutiques.
For sure, silicone lube is a good thing to keep around the house. And on the bedside table. Do you have any favorite uses for silicone lube?
P.S. We have free samples of Überlube in the shop, so stop by and ask for a couple!
We picked up three new dildos from Happy Valley this month: Wilde, Fuze Tango, and Jet. Wilde is based on the design of Harmony, but a bit longer and thicker. The Fuze Tango is just like the double-ended Tango, only it’s made of shiny black silicone. Jet is a semi-realistic dildo with balls that comes in either blue or purple. What do these toys have in common? They’re all great for harness and partner play!
Our newest vibe is Zizo, a firm silicone G-spotter. Its sensual shape is smooth and comfortable, and its 12 vibration modes are both powerful and near-silent.
For your butt, we have the new Aneros Helix Syn. Based on the design of the super-popular Aneros Helix, the Syn is coated in silky silicone, but still retains the rigidity that makes the original such a superb prostate massager.
When you’re a young queer person, you need all the guidance you can get. That’s why we picked up Queer: The Ultimate Guide for LGBT Teens. This book discusses coming out, dating, and how to combat homophobia, along with a plethora of personal stories from the authors and lessons on queer history. If there’s a queer teen in your life, definitely pick this one up for them.
We mentioned in last month’s new product round-up that Aslan Leather does not forget about vegans, and that remains true with their slick Rubber Collar and Rubber Cuffs. Explore your kinky side with these sexy restraints featuring heavy welded rings and buckles.
Bonus! We now have a “New Arrivals” section on our site that you can check whenever you’re wondering what’s fresh. We sometimes announce new products on Facebook and Twitter throughout the month as well.
What’s the best way to show your partner that you appreciate all that they do this Mother’s Day? Well, there’s always flowers and chocolate, but if you’re looking for something that nurtures mom’s sexuality, we have some ideas for you! Like the adorable Kandi Kisses, a sophisticated, USB-rechargeable vibe disguised as a tube of lipstick. It’s just begging to be tossed into a handbag!
Have you heard about Fifty Shades of Grey? This saucy tale of a dominant and his submissive has recently been lauded as the hottest thing in the bookbags of moms everywhere, and its boundary-breaking style is delightful and titillating.
If Fifty Shades of Grey isn’t quite mom’s style, no problem — we stock several great books about keeping your sex life alive while raising kids: Love in the Time of Colic, Sexy Mamas, and Great Sex for Moms. More general sex guides, such as Never Have the Same Sex Twice and The Whole Lesbian Sex Book, are good too.
Or here’s an idea: buy a book to improve your own skills in the bedroom — something from the oral sex guides section, perhaps? — then put your newfound knowledge into action.
Has the mom in your life ever owned a Hitachi Magic Wand? It’s a classic powertool of a vibrator that many folks swear by, sure to satisfy even the most power-hungry. Or check out the Mystic Wand (which comes in both black and pink), a smaller version that takes batteries but certainly doesn’t skimp on power, either.
Another vibe that might strike mom’s fancy is the Calla, a rechargeable and fully waterproof dual toy with a unique, rippled shape. Its small, tapered shaft makes it great for beginners and those who don’t like a lot of girth, while the clitoral piece provides the perfect amount of buzz right where it’s needed.
When it comes to non-vibrating toys, kegel exercisors are a wonderful gift for moms. Regularly exercising the PC muscles brings a whole bunch of sexual benefits — more sensitivity during sex, better orgasms, and an enhanced feeling of tightness — but it also helps with incontinence and postpartum healing. We like the Ami set because it makes kegels more fun, and gives the user several options that can be utilized at different stages.
If mom’s in need of a good all-purpose lube, look no further than Sliquid Satin. Infused with aloe and carragenean, this water-based lube is both slick and moisturizing. It’s also specially formulated to provide natural comfort to anyone experiencing vaginal dryness.
Was mom around during porn’s “golden age” (late ’60s through mid-’80s)? Then mom might enjoy seeing some of the most famous movies to come out of that era, such as Debbie Does Dallas, The Devil in Miss Jones, or Alice in Wonderland. The hairstyles will bring mom right back, and the amusing storylines can’t be beat!
Massages are always a hit, especially with stressed out moms. We have all the components you need to give a rockin’ massage: massage oils (Oil of Love, Hathor Exotic Love Oil, and the Love Oil sampler), a porcelain massage stone, and even an instructional DVD.
Of course, if you can’t decide on something specific, everyone loves receiving a gift certificate! We offer gift certificates in any denomination. Take a field trip down to She Bop together and we can help mom find the perfect toy.
May is Masturbation Month, and of course, we encourage everyone to celebrate — as often as possible! Last year, we recounted all the ways masturbation is beneficial to your emotional and physical health. This year, we thought we’d give you some ideas for trying something new during your usual masturbation routine.
- Try a different position — Most people get used to masturbating in a favorite position. Break out of the mold and try a new one, such as lying on your side, sitting up, on your back, on your knees, or on your stomach. You’ll find that the usual sensations will feel different just from making this change.
- Find a new locale — If the bed is your usual masturbation domain, try masturbating somewhere else — such as the couch, at your desk, or in the bath or shower (if you bring a toy, make sure it’s waterproof!). You could even set up your own little masturbation nest on the floor with pillows and blankets.
- Use your toy(s) in a new way — If you have an anal toy or dildo with an unusual shape, try flipping it around. If you own a dildo made of a soft material, hold a vibrator against its base for added buzz. If you have an insertable vibrator, perhaps it could be used clitorally?
Any vibrator can also be used on a penis! Or make your masturbation sleeve into a hands-free device by tucking it between your mattress and box spring. And many toys out there — dildos, waterproof vibes, anal toys, and masturbation sleeves — can be warmed or chilled before use by placing them in a bowl of water in your desired temperature.
- Lube it up — Lube makes everything glide more easily, so it can enhance masturbation quite a bit. Stroke 29 and Boy Butter H20 are specially formulated for stimulating a penis, while Yes and Sliquid Sea are wonderful for vulvas. Stimulating gels, like Stimulating O Gel or ON Clitoral Arousal Balm, can be especially fun. (Just don’t use silicone-based lube with a silicone toy!)
- Watch or read porn — If you’re not a regular erotica reader or porn watcher, consider giving one of them a whirl. My Erotic Adventure is a fun and interactive intro to the world of written erotica, and Erika Lust’s Barcelona Sex Project DVD is chock-full of alluring folks eager to share their masturbation techniques with you.
- Fantasize — If porn doesn’t do it for you or you already read/watch it regularly, try fantasizing instead. This can be an excellent way to explore erotic scenarios that you may or may not act out in real life. Try thinking about a hot past sexual experience, a sexy movie scene, or just let your mind wander into the realm of your deepest, most hidden desires.
- Engage your senses — Make it into a truly epic experience by delighting as many of your senses as possible. Listen to music. Light a candle or dim the lights. You could even eat something delicious, making your masturbation session a literal feast for the senses!
- Make some noise! — There’s no need to keep quiet during masturbation unless you have to. If you’re able to vocalize your pleasure, let loose! It can be very freeing to be able to experience that release.
Is your mind racing with ideas yet? Good! Now go on… celebrate Masturbation Month!
Doesn’t buying stuff locally just warm the cockles of your heart? We agree — it feels really good to support local businesses. That’s why we’ve made it a priority to stock locally-made products and team up with Oregon artists for specialty items. We recently added a local section to our online shop, but here’s a more in-depth run-down of all the Beaver State goodies we carry! From floggers fashioned out of old tires to organic lube and handmade toy bags, this stuff is very Portland — just how we like it.
We are lucky to have several sex product manufacturers based in Oregon. Good Clean Love, the company behind organic Almost Naked lube, is based in Eugene. Empire Labs, who you might know as “the place that makes those Clone-a-Willy/Pussy thingies,” is in Portland. Local company Seagrape supplies us with delicious-smelling body products. GladRags, purveyors of adorable menstrual accessories such as cloth pads and the Moon Cup, calls Portland home. And Gothfox Designs, the company that brings us stunningly beautiful, hand-sewn pasties, resides just across the Columbia river from us, in Vancouver, Washington.
It can be hard to find proper storage for your sex toys sometimes, so we asked local brand Appetite to make some of their gorgeous, nature-inspired bags especially for us. Appetite padded bags and travel bags come in several sizes and are hand screen-printed. Appetite strives to use end-run, organic, and scrap material whenever possible. We only feature a few fabric choices online, but we’re constantly acquiring different fabrics in the shop.
Some items we carry in the shop are a little too varied to offer in our web store. Like the porcelain dildos from Porcelain Pleasures, which are all one-of-a-kind pieces. Crafted out of a milky white porcelain and sealed with a non-porous glaze, these dildos look and feel amazing. Then there’s the much-loved Naughty Autie’s Aprons, made for us by a local designer. We also stock an array of Courtesy Pads — sex blankets for keeping the sheets dry.
Portland has no shortage of kinksters, and we’re thrilled to carry some of their hand-crafted wares! In Her Tube is a Portland company that constructs floggers and harnesses out of recycled rubber tires. Can it get any more Portland than that?! Our rattan canes and hankies are also handmade in the City of Roses. Shiny Shiny, a company run by a pair of crafty and kinky Portlanders, supply us with hand-conditioned, organic hemp rope, in our signature plum color. We also stock Twisted Monk rope, which is from Seattle.
Of course, as home to famed book
maze store Powell’s, Portland has produced tons of fantastic writers, and we’re honored to carry several books written by and featuring them. Wild Feminine, The Chronology of Water, Oh Joy Sex Toy, Sex from Scratch, and My Erotic Adventure were all written by local women, and the work of Portland-based author Shanna Germain is featured in quite a few anthologies we stock, such as Women in Lust and Please, Sir.
Our She Bop swag is furnished by local businesses as well! Our T-shirts and undies are produced by Printed Matter; our stickers are made by Diesel Fuel Prints; and our business cards are printed by Phoenix Media. In fact, Phoenix Media is responsible for those beautiful, enlarged sex toy photos decorating the shop’s walls.
When you visit our shop’s check-out station, you may sometimes notice little boxes of chocolates beckoning to you. Those are handmade by Neapolitan Chocolate & Co., and come in some irresistible flavors such as lavendar + smoked salt and rose + raspberry. Neapolitan Chocolate & Co. have even made us boobie-shaped chocolates and chocolates with our logo on them!
Behind the scenes, we utilize local service providers in the running of She Bop: our phone company and our credit card processing company are both Portland businesses. And when you purchase something in our shop, you’ll take it home in a 100% recycled, hand-stamped paper bag from Portland Store Fixtures. Portland Store Fixtures also supplies us with tissue paper, display stands, and other doodads around the shop.
As time goes on, we plan to stock more fun and unique items from local artisans and authors. We’re thankful we live in such a great city filled with so many talented and crafty people!
If you’re currently pondering what to get your significant other this holiday season, we have you covered! Here are our top picks for sexy holiday gift-giving and stocking-stuffing. Visit us in person or peruse our online store to snatch these up. Also check out last year’s picks for even more ideas!
We’re always excited to see what luxury sex toy manufacturer LELO will come out with next, and their latest line of wireless, rechargeable, SenseMotion toys is couples-oriented and really fun! Lyla is an insertable egg vibrator that is controlled by the movement of its remote. So, for instance, you can tilt the remote to increase the vibration strength. The best part is that the remote also vibrates — mirroring the vibrations in the egg — so the person holding the remote knows what their partner is feeling. Lyla comes packaged in a luxurious LELO gift box.
If you’ve been thinking about trying cock rings but aren’t quite sure where to start, the Nitrile cock ring set is a great introduction! These 100% skin-safe nitrile rings come in a pack of three different sizes (1.25″, 1.5″, and 2″), so you can experiment and find the perfect fit. This set is compatible with both silicone and water-based lubricants.
Lube sampler pack
How can you resist this cuteness? We know that sometimes it’s hard to choose just one lube, so we’ve put together a lube sampler pack that comes in a festive gift bag! Each bag is $9 and includes one sample each of these lubes:
- Yes (water-based)
- Sliquid Sassy
- Sliquid Organics Natural
- Sliquid Organics Gel
- Sliquid Organics Sensation
- Hathor Pure
- Blossom Organics
For an extra $8, we’ll throw in a Power Bullet in the color of your choice!
This one’s for the G-spot explorer on your list! The Slimline G is a delightfully inexpensive plastic vibrator with a slim body and a bulbous head — the perfect shape for pinpoint G-spot stimulation. Strong, multi-speed vibrations add some extra oomph. The Slimline G can be used clitorally as well, and its length is ideal for reaching the clit during a variety of positions.
This candle will get you into the holiday spirit and the sexy spirit at the same time. Jimmyjane’s Afterglow Candles are known for smelling absolutely amazing, but that’s not all — the wax doubles as a massage oil! The rim of the candle is shaped perfectly for pouring the warm oil onto the skin. One gingersnap massage, coming right up!
It was hard for us to choose just a few book-type items to recommend, but we narrowed it down to three. The Cookie Sutra is full of photographs of gingerbread cookies going at it — what else do you need to know? Adult Mad Libs are always a riot, and there’s even a festive “Santa Baby” version for your fill-in-the-blank amusement. Sextrology features entertaining examinations of the zodiac’s 24 gender signs; the authors even compare the compatibility of specific couplings. How fun!
Flexi Felix is a superb set of 100% silicone anal beads which are a ton of fun all on their own. But look at that face! Can’t you imagine this little fellow peeking out of a stocking? And the look on your partner’s face as the beads are revealed one by one? It would be an adorable sign of things to come.
Olivia’s Lucky Ladies Playing Cards
If you know any card game fiends, we recommend this sexy deck of official regulation-size playing cards. These cards feature 52 different paintings of the irreplaceable Bettie Page. Feast your eyes on Bettie Page posing in a variety of alluring outfits and positions… then, try to get your head back in the game!
The possibilities are endless with this luxurious yet affordable pair of 5-foot, 100% polyester sashes. Tie one around your lover’s head to blindfold them — or slide one end into the loop around wrists or ankles, and pull. The soft, sensual material is sure to send a message of love — and restraint.
Resembling a flower petal or smooth pebble, the Je Joue MiMi is one of our favorite new clitoral vibes this year. This rechargeable, fully waterproof silicone toy has five levels of intense vibration, followed by five fun vibration patterns. And wrapping paper is hardly necessary with this toy, as it comes in a sleek black gift box tied shut with a ribbon.
Candy, but not just any candy
If your partner likes to find candy in their stocking, we have some suggestions for you to toss in alongside the chocolate kisses. Gummy boobs, perhaps? Or maybe a candy G-string, nipple tassels, love ring, cuffs, necklace, or posing pouch? Go with whatever suits their personality best, or whatever will be the most fun to eat off them.
These little tins would slip into a stocking perfectly! When unboxed, the magnetic words will help you decorate your refrigerator with naughty sentences. Don’t worry if you’re not feeling particularly smutty — there are other word magnet boxes with different themes: Love, Obscenities, and Passion.
The Bcute lives up to its name — it is a cute, petite vibrator that also happens to be quite versatile. At 3″ insertable length, the Bcute is small enough to be used for clitoral stimulation, or it can be inserted to take advantage of its undulating shape. The Bcute is also waterproof!
Still need to fill some space in that stocking you’re stuffing? Throw in some condoms (we suggest One condoms for their colorful and unique packaging) or batteries. Our favorite batteries are the funky, one-of-a-kind Dead Batteries, which can be found in AA, AAA, and button cell varieties. They’ll surely be put to good use, and besides, they’ll look great among the candy.
It won’t last long, but it will be awesome: Friday, November 25th through Sunday, November 27th, you’ll be able to snag some discounted items in our online store and in our shop. To celebrate Tristan Taormino’s visit to Portland and upcoming G-spot workshop (which we are so excited about!), we decided to put some G-spot toys on sale!
We’re giving you 15% off these G-spotting vibrators: G-Ki, Gigi, Ina, Ocean, We-Vibe 2, Slimline G, G-Twist Smartvibe, and Bgee. We’re also offering 15% off a few great G-spot dildos: Athena, Pure Wand, and Leo. And remember: some of these toys are pure prostate (P-spot) heaven! Especially the Pure Wand.
Also, these items are not exactly G-spot related, but so what — all black Spareparts Hardwear Joque harnesses and Tristan Taormino’s Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica will be 15% off as well.
For some seriously sweet deals, visit our shop this weekend! We’ll have up to 40% off select books, DVDs, and toys that we’re clearing out in order to make room for new ones. Happy Black Friday!
Perhaps the most exciting new products are the ones from Fun Factory: the Tiger, Elegance, Calla, and Big Boss are part of Fun Factory’s new G4 line. Each vibe is rechargeable and fully waterproof, with a silky 100% silicone shaft and ergonomic looped handle. Bonus: they look a bit like popsicles. Oh yeah, each has a “booster” button for when you need a quick burst of power!
We also have some amazing new packing underwear from Spareparts Hardwear! The Pete Briefs and Pete Freestyle are two styles of packing undies that give you the option of having the packer rest directly against your skin, or to cover it. They also have an open-fly front design — perfect for STP packer use. These undies come in four sizes and are made of lightweight, breathable Nylon Spandex fabric.
One new book this month: Fairy Tale Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women, which is full of hot stories inspired by classic fairy tales.
And finally — we thought you guys might like some Lube Tubes. These are fun little disposable plastic shooters that can aid in applying lube to the spots that need it most. Especially good for anal!
Welcome to She Bop’s blog!
She Bop is a women-owned sex toy boutique specializing in body safe products and education. Our mission is to promote healthy and safe sexuality by offering quality products and educational workshops in a fun and comfortable environment. She Bop welcomes people of all genders and sexual orientations.
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