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May
21

Jade Egg: A Tool To Increase Your Vitality, Health & Pleasure

Kim KellerThursday, August 3rd — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Energy amplifies whenever intention, focus, desire and hearts meet.

The use of a yoni-stone or Jade Egg to strengthen the vagina is an ancient practice that evolved thousands of years ago in China, and is now gaining tremendous popularity here in the West. Today, we utilize this ancient practice to enliven, open, heal, and energetically cleanse yoni (vagina), as well as strengthen and understand our pelvic region in ways we may have not previously understood. Jade Egg is known to increase overall health, vitality and libido while expanding your access to pleasure. Far, far more than just a vaginal exercise device, in this introductory workshop you will learn the basics of this potent practice, and why it is important to your overall vitality.

Kim Keller is a Certified Tantric Educator and Intimacy Coach from Ashland, OR. Trained in a wide range of modalities, Kim specializes in teaching a variety of methods for bringing the sacred into your sexuality. Kim delights in sharing intimate secrets to support all genders in finding more pleasure, joy, vitality and healing in both intimacy and in life.

Note: This introductory class will not include the actual use of a Jade Egg, however, Kim will be offering a Jade Egg Immersion in Portland on Sunday, January 15th.

Limited space available — sign up online!

Nov
15

Jade Egg: A Tool To Increase Your Vitality, Health & Pleasure

Kim KellerWednesday, January 11th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Energy amplifies whenever intention, focus, desire and hearts meet.

The use of a yoni-stone or Jade Egg to strengthen the vagina is an ancient practice that evolved thousands of years ago in China, and is now gaining tremendous popularity here in the West. Today, we utilize this ancient practice to enliven, open, heal, and energetically cleanse yoni (vagina), as well as strengthen and understand our pelvic region in ways we may have not previously understood. Jade Egg is known to increase overall health, vitality and libido while expanding your access to pleasure. Far, far more than just a vaginal exercise device, in this introductory workshop you will learn the basics of this potent practice, and why it is important to your overall vitality.

Kim Keller is a Certified Tantric Educator and Intimacy Coach from Ashland, OR. Trained in a wide range of modalities, Kim specializes in teaching a variety of methods for bringing the sacred into your sexuality. Kim delights in sharing intimate secrets to support all genders in finding more pleasure, joy, vitality and healing in both intimacy and in life.

Note: This introductory class will not include the actual use of a Jade Egg, however, Kim will be offering a Jade Egg Immersion in Portland at The Everett House on Sunday, January 15th.

Limited space available — sign up online!

May
29

Jade Egg: A Tool To Increase Your Vitality, Health & Pleasure

Kim KellerWednesday, August 3rd — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Energy amplifies whenever intention, focus, desire and hearts meet.

The use of a yoni-stone or Jade Egg to strengthen the vagina is an ancient practice that evolved thousands of years ago in China, and is now gaining tremendous popularity here in the West. Today, we utilize this ancient practice to enliven, open, heal, and energetically cleanse yoni (vagina), as well as strengthen and understand our pelvic region in ways we may have not previously understood. Jade Egg is known to increase overall health, vitality and libido while expanding your access to pleasure. Far, far more than just a vaginal exercise device, in this introductory workshop you will learn the basics of this potent practice, and why it is important to your overall vitality.

Kim Keller is a Certified Tantric Educator and Intimacy Coach from Ashland, OR. Trained in a wide range of modalities, Kim specializes in teaching a variety of methods for bringing the sacred into your sexuality. Kim delights in sharing intimate secrets to support all genders in finding more pleasure, joy, vitality and healing in both intimacy and in life.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

May
31

Guide to sex toys during menopause

In our culture, menopause is often painted as an unpleasant, even ominous stage of life that will bring nothing but trouble. And while it is true that menopause is accompanied by many uncomfortable symptoms, it is a phase that also holds some hidden potential. Menopause is a great time for a rebirth — for a relearning of what feels good to you and how you would like to experience sexuality in your later years.

It can be challenging, to be sure. Menopause comes with many symptoms that impact one’s ability to enjoy sex. A decline in hormones causes the vaginal tissues to become thinner and less elastic, and decreased blood flow causes diminished sensation and lubrication. Along with mood swings and hot flashes, this can result in difficulty with arousal, decreased pleasure with penetration, inability to climax, and an overall lack of desire for sex.

All of these issues are entirely normal. But this is where a person must become proactive. Doctors, therapists, and sex educators are in agreement on one point: the more sexually active you can stay as you go through menopause, the better. A partner is not required. Masturbation works just as well. The bottom line is that regular penetration and stimulation can improve vaginal elasticity, promote healthy blood circulation to the tissues, and heighten pleasure.

With dedication, commitment, and lots of lube, your sex life can continue to thrive throughout menopause — and beyond.

(Note: Your doctor or OBGYN will be able to give you more tailor-fit suggestions for dealing with the many symptoms of menopause, including options for hormone therapy, counseling, sex therapy, etc. It is best to check with your doctor first to make sure there are no underlying health issues.)

Lube, always lube

Sliquid Satin and Yes water-based

Lubricant is perhaps the most important thing we sell for menopausal folks. As estrogen levels fall, the cells in the vaginal lining produce less moisture when stimulated. The lining also becomes thinner, drier, and more susceptible to irritation and tearing. Even people who have never needed lube may find that their body simply does not create enough natural lubrication anymore. Lube can help immensely.

Yes water-based and Sliquid Satin are two water-based lubes that can be used both during sexual activity and as daily moisturizers. Satin contains a seaweed extract that is said to lock in moisture, while Yes contains a flax extract which bolsters mucous membranes. Both contain aloe vera and are meant to mimic the body’s natural lubrication. You can even get pre-filled Yes applicators or Lube Tubes, which are great for depositing lube where it’s needed most: internally.

Another option might be Yes oil-based. Made with cocoa and shea butter, it has a softer, silkier feel than water-based lubes, and will absorb nicely into the skin when its primary job is done. You can even layer water-based lube on top of it, which prevents the water-based lube from drying up too quickly. Oil-based lube, however, can degrade latex, so it should not be used alongside barriers such as condoms and gloves.

Silicone-based lubes are another possibility, but with a few caveats. They are not the best option for daily moisturization — and they’re not compatible with silicone sex toys. They are, however, extremely long-lasting, and can greatly reduce friction during penetration. Read more about the varieties of lube in our guide.

Dilators and how to use them

Dilators are cylindrical objects that come in varying sizes and are inserted vaginally to gently acclimate the vagina to penetration. They are extremely useful tools not just for those experiencing menopause, but also folks who have gone through chemotherapy, are on some medications, are grappling with certain types of pelvic pain (such as vaginismus), or just want to improve the ability of their vagina to accommodate certain sizes.

Painful penetration is common with menopause. The thinning of the vaginal walls causes diminished elasticity and muscle tone, tightening of the vaginal opening, dryness, and sometimes even a shortening and narrowing of the vaginal canal. These elements lead to discomfort during penetration. Thankfully, sustained use of dilators or other toys can help restore the vagina to a more elastic and robust state.

Berman Dilator SetWe have a couple dilator options. The first is the Berman Dilator Set, which is made of body-safe ABS plastic. It consists of a vibrating handle and three sizes of attachment ranging from .75″ in diameter to 1.5″ in diameter. It also comes with a soft nubby sleeve, in case you want to experiment with some texture. The added vibration can help the muscles relax.

If you’d prefer something squishier, there’s the Tantus Silk series. These slightly curved 100% silicone dildos come in three sizes ranging from .75″ in diameter to 1.5″ in diameter. We also have other silicone dilators in the shop we can show you. Those start at the size of a pinky and gradually get larger.

The important thing to understand is that the largest size is not always the end goal. The end goal is simply comfortable and satisfying penetration, whatever that means for you.

Some dildos, though not marketed as dilators, could serve the same purpose. The Vixen Creations Spur and Mistress, for instance, are both fairly small and made of soft silicone. The Mistress even comes with a little bullet for some added vibration.

Insertable vibrators can also help aid in the journey toward pleasurable penetration, as they can massage the delicate tissue with their vibration. The Bswish Bgee is nice and thin; the LELO Liv is rechargeable and silky smooth, with a range of vibration intensities. Ultimately, any insertable toy that is comfortable for you can be useful in expanding the vagina’s capabilities.

Here are some tips for using dilators/toys to ease into comfortable penetration. Of course, the experience will differ greatly from person to person.

  • Find a comfortable and private location in which you can breathe easy and take your time.
  • Aim for arousal, either by touching your clitoris/labia, and/or fantasizing, watching a DVD, or reading erotica, whatever works for you. Arousal will relax the muscles and elongate the vagina.
  • Apply a liberal amount of lube to both the dilator/toy and the opening of the vagina.
  • Focus on relaxing all parts of your body, especially your pelvic floor muscles. Breathe deeply and, if it helps, visualize your vagina in a state of softness, opening to accept the toy.
  • Angle the tip of the toy downward a bit, as this will help steer it under your pubic bone. Then slowly insert it vaginally as far as you’re able without experiencing pain.
  • If you feel a stretching sort of pain, pull the toy out slightly and focus on the area that is comfortable. When that area is relaxed, you can push the toy in more.
  • Once the toy has become comfortable for you (which may not be for several sessions), experiment with different movements. Increase the depth of penetration, or rotate the handle. Move the toy back and forth. Turn on the vibration.
  • After one size of toy has become quite comfortable on several separate occasions, feel free to size up. If the next size hurts, return to the previous size for a bit. Don’t rush it.
  • Always listen to your body. If at any point you experience serious pain, slowly pull the toy out and take a rest. You can always try again tomorrow.
  • Settle into a routine with your dilators/toys. The more regularly you can do these exercises, the easier it will become, and the more benefits you can reap.

Kegel exercisors

Je Joue Ami kegel ballsWhile kegel exercises can be beneficial to folks of all ages, they can especially assist those going through menopause. The drop in estrogen levels that accompanies menopause can cause a decrease in muscle tone and pelvic floor relaxation. This effect can be reversed with kegel exercise.

Kegel exercise consists of voluntarily and repetitively contracting and relaxing the PC muscles.  Regular kegel exercise increases blood flow to the vagina and can have a variety of worthwhile effects, such as heightened sensitivity, stronger orgasms, and greater response to G-spot stimulation. The more the PC muscles are toned, the more they can relax, thus improving your chances of pain-free penetration. Strong PC muscles also help with urinary incontinence.

Kegel exercises can be done without the aid of a toy (read our guide for techniques), or with a toy in place to provide resistance and added stimulation. We carry several sets of kegel balls, but our top choice for older folks would be the Je Joue Ami set. These balls are covered in squishy, seamless silicone, which is important when sensitive, thin vaginal tissue is involved. With the set, you can start with the lightweight ball and work toward the heaviest.

Books and DVDs

There are many literary and visual resources to help you through menopause, such as Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause.

The fabulous senior sex educator Joan Price has two books — Naked At Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex and Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty — which feature personal stories as well as advice from sex therapists, health professionals, counselors, and more. We also carry Sex Over 50, which debunks myths about sexuality and aging. In the same vein, there’s Still Doing It: The Intimate Lives of Women Over 60.

The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability is an invaluable resource to anyone with pain, illness, disability, or a chronic condition. If you suspect that your sexual pain is due to something other than just menopause, pick up When Sex Hurts and tell your doctor.

That’s not all!

EroscillatorLet’s not forget the important role that vibrators can play in this process. To combat a decrease in sensitivity, you can try a strong wand-style vibe such as the Hitachi, Bodywand, MagiC wand, or Mystic Wand. Some folks have found that the deep, penetrating oscillations of the Eroscillator are very effective. Or, an ergonomic and versatile rechargeable vibe might be better: perhaps the LELO Mona 2 or Jimmyjane Form 4.

Your experience of sensation may change during and after menopause, which can open up new doors. Experiment with a stimulating gel or a clitoral pump to increase blood flow to the clitoris and enhance sensitivity. Or check out sensation toys such as feather ticklers and the Wartenberg Pinwheel. Use a blindfold to add an element of surprise and heighten the sensation even further.

With a partner, there are countless ways you can keep things interesting (and thus help your body follow along): spend more time on foreplay, initiate sex at a different time of day than usual, watch a DVD together, experiment with a new position, engage in roleplay, introduce sensual massage, try cock rings, or even sign up for one of our many workshops to learn something new together.

The usual stay-healthy tips also apply to those going through menopause: eating well, drinking enough water, getting plenty of sleep, and exercising can always improve your (sex) life. Exercise especially has the potential to increase your energy, enhance your mood, improve your self-esteem, and yes, even boost your libido. It’s the endorphins!

Above all, aim for variety and nurture a sense of adventure and positivity. Make a commitment to yourself to maintain an active sex life as you age, and follow through on that promise. Although menopause can be difficult, it can also be an opportunity to explore your sexuality in a whole new way.

Feb
1

She Bop’s Picks: Valentine’s Day

Is it any surprise we’re big fans of Valentine’s Day? Of course, we believe in love and pleasure all year round, but it’s nice to have a day set aside for celebrating in style. In fact, Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to scout out something new for your bedroom adventures.

Here are our top recommendations for sexy items to make this Valentine’s Day memorable (and pleasurable!). Check out last year’s picks and our 2011 picks for even more ideas.

Cupcake

Cupcake
Up until now, there was a cupcake-shaped hole in the sex toy industry. Now it has been filled with a vibrator that really looks good enough to eat! The silicone and ABS plastic Cupcake is true to the size of your average cupcake, but equipped with a discreet button on the bottom that takes you through two speeds and three pulsation patterns. It even comes in an adorable retro tin, perfect for gift-giving and future storage!

Jimmyjane Hello Touch

Jimmyjane Hello Touch
The future is here — our hands and sex toys are colliding! There have been various finger vibes before, but the Hello Touch takes things to a new level with two silicone pods that attach to your fingertips and blend seamlessly into your play. Try them on the nipples, clitoris, penis — anywhere that you’d normally stroke or squeeze. Great for folks who want to add that extra buzz to manual stimulation. Plus, the whole thing is waterproof!

Tenga Lover’s Egg

The ridiculously cute Tenga Lover’s Egg is a special edition version of the very popular Tenga Egg. Tenga Eggs are self-contained, stretchy pleasure sleeves that each come with a pouch of lube. This sleeve has a special heart inner texture unlike any other egg before it, and a heart-patterned casing to match. There’s a sense of playfulness and spontaneity about Tenga Eggs, making them perfect for solo or partner play.

Spareparts Hardwear Sasha harness

Spareparts Hardwear Sasha Harness
An underwear-style harness with some added flair, Sasha comes in black or red and is decorated with several bows, ruching on the backside, and removable garters. Made of nylon and spandex, this harness is as comfortable as it is sexy — and it’s machine-washable. The stretchy O-ring can accommodate a variety of dildos, and two little pockets on the inside of the undies can hold bullet vibes for added stimulation to the wearer. Ooh la la!

Rocks Off Luv Your Body Massager

Rocks Off Luv Your Body Massager
Aside from its cute heart-shaped tip, the Luv Your Body Massager is a wonderfully ergonomic vibe with many talents. It’s great for adding some extra reach during sex or masturbation, or it can be used to massage tense muscles throughout your body (without twisting yourself into a pretzel to do so!). It’s even waterproof, so a relaxing bath is another option for fun. The Luv Your Body Massager has five speeds and… did we mention it’s heart-shaped?

2013 erotica collection

2013 erotica
Whatever type of erotica strikes your (or your partner’s) fancy, these are the best that of the year: Best Erotic Romance 2013Best Lesbian Erotica 2013, and Best Women’s Erotica 2013. The caliber of the authors in these volumes is so high, you’ll be sure to find stories that are both impeccably-written and incredibly steamy. Of course, we have tons of other erotica collections if you want, for instance, hotel sex stories or stories of female submission.

Incoqnito Leather Handcuffs

Incoqnito Leather Handcuffs
Known for making discreet toys that masquerade as innocuous items, Incoqnito has struck once again with their Leather Handcuffs. Wear these cuffs on one wrist and they’ll appear to be nothing more than a stylish set of leather bracelets; but they convert easily when you’d rather use them for a more scandalous purpose. Wherever you wear them out, you’re bound to spend your time anticipating what will come later.

Aneros Evi

Aneros Evi
There’s nothing else quite like the recently-released Evi. It’s a kegel toy, but that’s not all — it also stimulates the G-spot and clitoris during use. As the wearer clenches their PC muscles around Evi, the toy rocks forward and back, pressing into the clitoris and stroking the G-spot. Kegel exercises are beneficial in several ways, since toned PC muscles can lead to stronger orgasms, enhanced bladder control, and improved pregnancy. It’s the gift that keeps on giving, really.

Sliquid Organics Massage Oil

Sliquid Organics Massage Oil
We were pretty excited when one of our favorite lube companies, Sliquid, came out with a massage oil. These oils come in four varieties — including an unscented version! — each meant to impart certain characteristics when used (such as vitality, tranquility, and sensuality). They’re made with a handful of naturally occurring nut and seed oils and organic botanicals. Pair the oil with a massage stone, massage deck (see below!), or massage DVD to jumpstart your massage skills.

Sexy card decks!

Sexy card decks!
Sex-themed card decks are a quick and easy way to turn up the heat and get some new ideas. We carry several different types: Light My Fire: Sexy Requests is a pack of multiple-choice invitations; The Gay Sex Deck has tips, tricks, and positions for gay men; The Fantasy Sex Deck features erotic roleplaying ideas; and the Erotic Massage Deck is chock full of massage techniques, both ancient and modern.

Je Joue Mio

Je Joue Mio
Cock rings are an excellent addition to penetrative sex of any sort, and the Mio is a luxurious choice. Only a few cock rings on the market are rechargeable, and Mio is one of them. It is also made of 100% silicone and features 7 vibration patterns with 5 power levels each. Stretch it onto a penis or dildo to provide clitoral, scrotal, or perineum stimulation, depending on positioning and the parties involved!

Fun Factory New Wave

Fun Factory New Wave
We bet you’ve never seen a sex toy quite like this one! But that’s precisely what makes the New Wave such a versatile double-ended dildo. Made of 100% silicone and super easy to clean, it is made to be shared. The “middle wave” adds extra external stimulation for each partner. Now the question is, who gets the textured end and who wants the smoother end?

X-Rated Candies

Do you or your partner have a sweet tooth — and a somewhat profane sense of humor? Then you’ll definitely like X-Rated Valentine Hearts and the I Fucking Love You Candy Heart Box. Both contain candy hearts that look exactly like regular conversation hearts from afar, but once you read their messages, you’ll notice the difference. We love them!

Jul
31

New product round-up for July

We are pleased to introduce the Pocket Toyfriends! These new additions to the Toyfriends line are cute, small, and inexpensive. We love that they come in such a nice array of colors — to match anyone’s preference and style.

 

Speaking of colors, it’s always exciting to see Fun Factory’s new releases because their colors are always so vibrant, and their shapes so interesting! Their latest toys are the Boosty, Sonic, and New Wave. Boosty is an adorable, bubbly butt plug just a step up in size from their popular Bootie plug, but with the same exceptionally comfortable base. The Sonic and New Wave are unique double-ended dildos that curve and ripple to provide tons of stimulation to one person or two.

Three more dildos have sprouted up on our dildo table this month, all of them on the realistic spectrum. The silicone Vixen Creations Woody and Large Realistic Bent are pretty reminiscent of penises, except they come in purple and black! Meanwhile, the Tantus Adam O2 comes in black as well as a couple skin tones, and is made out of Tantus’ amazing dual-density silicone.

One of our very favorite kegel exercisers, the LELO Luna Beads system, now has a slightly-smaller sibling: the Luna Beads Mini! The Luna Beads Mini are for folks experienced in kegel exercising and/or those who have yet to go through childbirth. As always, they are great fun to wear around; movement makes the inner balls roll around and lightly “vibrate” internally.

Although Aslan Leather makes a ton of leather items (obviously!), they have not forgotten about vegans! Their aptly-named Simple Harness is made of soft nylon webbing, and with no metal parts, it’s fully machine washable! This extremely versatile harness comes in pink or black and can be worn as a two strap or in G-string style.

The hot new queer porn film of the moment is Billy Castro’s Naughty Squirters. Directed by and starring trans heartthrob Billy Castro, it follows him as he has his way with several sexy femmes proficient in the art of squirting.

Last month we picked up the Fenis stand-to-pee device, and now we have its more masculine counterpart, Mr. Fenis! Mr. Fenis has a realistic shape, comes in four different skin tones, and performs just as valiantly at directing the flow.

Oh, and remember the Sliquid Organics Massage Oil we mentioned last month? We’ve added the three scented versions — Mandarin Basil, Coconut Lime Verbena, and Tahitian Vanilla — in addition to the unscented. Come to the shop to give them a sniff!

May
10

She Bop’s Picks: Mother’s Day

What’s the best way to show your partner that you appreciate all that they do this Mother’s Day? Well, there’s always flowers and chocolate, but if you’re looking for something that nurtures mom’s sexuality, we have some ideas for you! Like the adorable Kandi Kisses, a sophisticated, USB-rechargeable vibe disguised as a tube of lipstick. It’s just begging to be tossed into a handbag!

Have you heard about Fifty Shades of Grey? This saucy tale of a dominant and his submissive has recently been lauded as the hottest thing in the bookbags of moms everywhere, and its boundary-breaking style is delightful and titillating.

If Fifty Shades of Grey isn’t quite mom’s style, no problem — we stock several great books about keeping your sex life alive while raising kids: Love in the Time of ColicSexy Mamas, and Great Sex for Moms. More general sex guides, such as Never Have the Same Sex Twice and The Whole Lesbian Sex Bookare good too.

Or here’s an idea: buy a book to improve your own skills in the bedroom — something from the oral sex guides section, perhaps? — then put your newfound knowledge into action.

Has the mom in your life ever owned a Hitachi Magic Wand? It’s a classic powertool of a vibrator that many folks swear by, sure to satisfy even the most power-hungry. Or check out the Mystic Wand (which comes in both black and pink), a smaller version that takes batteries but certainly doesn’t skimp on power, either.

Another vibe that might strike mom’s fancy is the Calla, a rechargeable and fully waterproof dual toy with a unique, rippled shape. Its small, tapered shaft makes it great for beginners and those who don’t like a lot of girth, while the clitoral piece provides the perfect amount of buzz right where it’s needed.

When it comes to non-vibrating toys, kegel exercisors are a wonderful gift for moms. Regularly exercising the PC muscles brings a whole bunch of sexual benefits — more sensitivity during sex, better orgasms, and an enhanced feeling of tightness — but it also helps with incontinence and postpartum healing. We like the Ami set because it makes kegels more fun, and gives the user several options that can be utilized at different stages.

If mom’s in need of a good all-purpose lube, look no further than Sliquid Satin. Infused with aloe and carragenean, this water-based lube is both slick and moisturizing. It’s also specially formulated to provide natural comfort to anyone experiencing vaginal dryness.

Was mom around during porn’s “golden age” (late ’60s through mid-’80s)? Then mom might enjoy seeing some of the most famous movies to come out of that era, such as Debbie Does Dallas, The Devil in Miss Jones, or Alice in Wonderland. The hairstyles will bring mom right back, and the amusing storylines can’t be beat!

Massages are always a hit, especially with stressed out moms. We have all the components you need to give a rockin’ massage: massage oils (Oil of LoveHathor Exotic Love Oil, and the Love Oil sampler), a porcelain massage stone, and even an instructional DVD.

Of course, if you can’t decide on something specific, everyone loves receiving a gift certificate! We offer gift certificates in any denomination. Take a field trip down to She Bop together and we can help mom find the perfect toy.

Mar
23

The lowdown on kegel exercises

Of all the muscles that comprise the pelvic floor, the pubococcygeus muscles are probably the most famous. The pubococcygeus muscles (more well-known as the PC muscles) run from the pubic bone to the tailbone, and form a sort of figure eight around the genitals. All people have PC muscles, and these muscles are instrumental in sexual response — in fact, they involuntarily contract during orgasm, and help to propel ejaculate.

In the forties, a gynecologist named Dr. Arnold Kegel developed the idea of exercising the PC muscles, and the concept of kegel exercises was born. Although Kegel was primarily focused on treating urinary incontinence, one of his papers did mention off-handedly that “sexual appreciation can be increased by restoring function of the pubococcygeus.” Indeed, kegel exercises are now largely associated with sexuality, and for good reason — doing them regularly has many sexual benefits.

Kegel exercise generally consists of voluntarily and repetitively contracting and relaxing the PC muscles. Many associate kegel exercise with a tighter vagina, but that is just one perk of toned PC muscles. Regular kegel exercise can have a variety of pleasurable effects, such as heightened sexual sensitivity, stronger orgasms, and greater response to G-spot stimulation. The more the PC muscles are toned, the more they can relax, so kegels are great for those wanting to have anal sex, or for anyone experiencing difficulty with penetration. With kegel practice and repetition, some vagina owners can even learn to ejaculate/squirt.

For people with penises, toned PC muscles can result in improved ejaculatory control, somewhat firmer erections, and a shorter refractory period (the span of time between ejaculations).

Kegel excercises can be extremely helpful during pregnancy and after birth as well. Kegels are well-known for facilitating excellent bladder control, so they can ease problems with urinary incontinence. Strengthened PC muscles can also prepare the pelvic floor for childbirth, and may help prevent tearing and episiotomy. After birth, regular exercise of the PC muscles can accelerate postpartum healing, restoring tightness and muscle tone in the vagina.

Finding ’em and toning ’em

Locate your PC muscles by pretending that you are peeing and want to stop the flow of urine. The muscles that you contract are your PC muscles. To further increase your awareness of your PC muscles, you may want to insert two fingers into your vagina, squeeze with your PC muscles, then relax. Keep in mind that the relaxation motion is just as important as the tightening.

Here are some examples of simple kegel exercises. These can be done anywhere, in any position, during any activity you wish. Some people may prefer to do them while masturbating, watching porn, reading erotica, etc., but they can also be executed just as effectively while standing in line at the bank, at the computer checking Facebook, or in your car at a stoplight.

  • Inhale and imagine that you are sucking water up into your vagina and anus. Hold it there for a moment, then exhale and bear down, pushing the imaginary water out.
  • Contract and release your PC muscles several times in a row, each time gradually increasing how tightly you squeeze.
  • Inhale, then quickly squeeze and release your PC muscles 5-10 times before exhaling.
  • If you’d like to work the back part of the PC muscle loop specifically, contract and release your anus. Repeat this five times, taking care to only squeeze your anus — not your butt, thighs, or abs. The relaxation portion of this exercise is vital, so take your time releasing between squeezes.

With some time and repetition of these exercises, your PC muscles will be strengthened and toned nicely. If you’d like to go a step further in exercising your kegels, we have just the thing for you: sex toys!

Toys, toys, toys… in the vagina

Some people enjoy incorporating sex toys into their kegel exercises because toys provide a form of resistance. At She Bop, we carry a few types of kegel exercisers. One type consists of a small ball or two that can be inserted into the vagina and held in place (the AmiLuna Beads, Smartballs Teneo Duo and Smartballs Teneo Uno fall into this category). For traditional kegel exercises, lube up the balls and insert one or both into your vagina. While grasping the toy with your PC muscles, gently tug on the retrieval string. The resistance provided by the tugging will enhance the exercise.

However, these balls really beg to be worn discreetly. Once inserted comfortably in the vagina, they can be left there as you go about your day. Each ball contains a smaller inner ball that will roll around and lightly vibrate as you move around (and don’t worry, nobody will hear them!). You can also squeeze your PC muscles around these balls when they are inside you — if you squeeze tightly enough, you just might feel the inner balls shiver in response.

Another type of kegel excercisor is simply a weighted dildo. Some toys — like the Energie, which weighs a pound — are made specifically for toning kegels. Others — like the aircraft-grade aluminum Classic Aluminum or stainless steel njoy Fun Wand — are made of weighty materials that are ideal for kegels. After the toy is inserted vaginally, the action of squeezing/releasing the toy exercises the PC muscles. Start with the larger end of the toy and work your way up to the more difficult smaller end. You can use the same exercise techniques detailed above with these toys.

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