Browsing posts tagged with gender identity
Apr
2

Your Gender is Awesome: A Class for Trans Youth

Sunday, July 2nd — 7:30 p.m. — $10

Wyatt & SidPlease note: This class is for people UNDER 18 years old. You must have a parent or guardian accompany you to this class to sign a consent form. They do not have to stay throughout the entire class, but may do so. Please leave a note with your order if a parent or guardian will be joining you for class so we can make sure to provide enough chairs. (They do not need to purchase an additional spot.)

Are you under 18, trans*, gender variant, genderqueer or questioning? If so, this class is for you! She Bop’s very own Sid Need and Wyatt Riot will go over just about everything you need to express your most confident and authentic self: STPs, packers, breast forms, prosthetics, pack & plays, gaffs, binders, books, and community support. Sid and Wyatt will pull from their own personal experiences, as well as their experiences as sex educators, to answer any questions you might have. No worries if you are feeling shy; notecards will be provided so you can ask your questions anonymously. We will also have an allotted amount of time to assist you in trying things on if you so wish.

Wyatt is a manager and assistant buyer at She Bop and has been working there for over 5 years. This tenderheart has been out as queer and trans for over half his life (that’s roughly 16+ years). They enjoy taking naps, talking about feelings, introverting, and eating all the delicious things.

Sid identifies as a queer trans man and uses the pronouns he/him/his. He has been with She Bop for three years and has volunteered with SMYRC in the past. He is a certified sex coach, sex educator, musician, and has a minor in gender studies.

If you are interested in an 18+ over class, please let us know by sending us an e-mail at info@sheboptheshop.com.

Aug
1

Guide to STP (stand-to-pee) devices

PstylesSummer is here and during such an outdoorsy season, stand-to-pee devices (STPs) are more sought after than ever! STPs make it possible for any person with a vulva to pee standing up — no more hovering awkwardly over porta potties at concerts or leaving your butt bug-vulnerable when camping. STPs can also be essential to a trans person wanting to use a urinal discreetly and comfortably. Thinking about where and when you are going to be using your STP can help steer you toward the perfect one for your needs.

We carry quite a few STP devices and prosthetics, all of which are non-porous and therefore easy to clean. The pStyle, for example, is an inexpensive option and relatively simple to use. When placed under the urethra, it serves as a funnel for the urinary stream. Because the pStyle is made of rigid plastic, many people find it easier to use than softer silicone STPs — however, it cannot be folded up for transport. The pStyle comes in a variety of different colors, and we have several super cute carrying cases to choose from!

Fenis and Mr. Fenis

Want a softer STP? The Fenis and Mr. Fenis are fairly inexpensive silicone options. Mr. Fenis comes in flesh-like tones and has a realistic head at the end of the shaft. (Although Mr. Fenis looks more realistic, it is not meant for packing.) Both the Fenis and Mr. Fenis are very pliable, making them foldable and portable, but you want to be sure the base is cupped securely against the body to prevent any dribble.

Model DIf you’re looking for something more realistic that can double as a packer, the Model D and Model D Sport are good options. They are essentially the same product, but the Model D has slightly larger balls. These products are made of silicone, come in several skin tone colors, and don’t require any attachments to be used as STPs. For packing, the Model D and Model D Sport can fold down to create a natural-looking bulge. The Slingshot Harness is specifically designed to hold these models securely in place. However, packing undies like the Spareparts Pete (or even just snug-fitting briefs or boxer briefs with a pouch) can work fine; you might just want to take extra precaution that everything is properly adjusted. As with any packer, pick a size that works best for your body and think about how much of a bulge you want making an appearance.

Sam the STPSam the STP by New York Toy Collective is the newest addition to our STP collection and can serve as both a packer and STP. It’s made of medical grade silicone, yet softer than the Model D and Model D Sport, and therefore easier to fold up if you don’t want to be packing. Sam has a wide open base that extends down to the balls, making this STP fairly straightforward to use. Since the base of Sam needs to connect with the body, any sort of packing underwear or harness that is open at the back would work fine with this model.

Before using any STP in public, we recommend trying it out in the shower to get a feel for how it works. Some STPs take a little practice to gauge how much urinary flow control you’re going to need to prevent any spills or dribbles. As always, we are more than happy to answer any questions you may have about any of our products. If you’re local, pop into the shop so you can see them for yourself!

Apr
30

New product round-up for April

New books for April 2014

April showers bring May… books? 50 Shades of Kink, Tristan Taormino’s latest guidebook, is here and it’s everything you’d expect from her: snappy, smart, and accessible. We also added Smut Peddler, a collection of 24 dirty comics featuring Portland’s own Erika Moen (of Oh Joy Sex Toy fame), and The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships.

For our Gender / Politics section, we picked up the classic Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein, Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity, and a book with the most adorable child we’ve ever seen on the cover, Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising Healthy Gender Non-Conforming Children.

We added two more of whirlwind porn performer Madison Young‘s creations to our shelves: Tail of a Bondage Model and Bondage Boob Tube. Both feature an array of hot bondage activities, such as rope suspensions, medical play, cupping, face smacking, female domination, spankings, and much more.

Vixen Creations GemstonesBecause your butt deserves the best, take a look at Vixen Creations’ Gemstones, 100% silicone anal beads in a variety of sizes for any experience level. They’re perfect for fans of traditional anal beads, with enough space between each bulb to produce a glorious popping sensation as you pull them out. And because they’re made of medical grade silicone, they can be boiled or tossed in the dishwasher for cleaning.

Tenga 3DWe also have two new items for penises that we’re pretty excited about. The Tenga 3D sleeve is a sleek, less expensive alternative to Tenga’s popular Flip Hole series. It’s soft and flexible, with a couple internal texture options, and a display case that also serves as a drying rack. The CB-6000 is a well-loved, sturdy polycarbonate chastity device that comes with a brass padlock and five different rings and spacers for optimum fit.

Last but not least, sometimes it’s good when things suck. Case in point: our new See-Thru Nipple Boosters, Max Twist Nipple Suckers, and Max Twist Clit & Nipple Triple Sucker Set. Each set offers pleasurable suction in a compact package. So get to sucking!

Jun
27

Local victories: gender-neutral bathrooms, more accessible birth certificates

The biggest news of the month, that the Supreme Court has overturned DOMA and dismissed Prop 8, has certainly been reason to celebrate. And hopefully it will pave the way for marriage equality in Oregon come 2014 (fingers seriously crossed!). But there have been a couple smaller, more local victories recently that we appreciated.

gender-neutral-signs

Multnomah County board Chairman Jeff Cogen signed an executive order making Multnomah County one of the first in the country to require single-occupancy gender-neutral bathrooms in new construction projects for the county. Additionally, personnel will survey the county’s 120 existing buildings and implement gender-neutral bathrooms wherever possible.

This executive order follows in the footsteps of Grant High School, which earlier this year designated six of their single-occupancy bathrooms as unisex.

Our friends at the Q Center were present for the signing. Addie Jones, a staff member at SMYRC (the Sexual and Gender Minority Youth Resource Center, the youth and young adult program of Q Center), even gave a statement, which you can read in full here.

The other great bit of news is this: Governor Kitzhaber signed House Bill 2093, which, as of January 1, 2014, removes the surgery requirement imposed on transgender Oregonians seeking an accurate birth certificate. Only a few other states have lifted this requirement.

Folks will still have to prove they have undergone gender transition treatment (as determined by a health care provider on an individual basis), but surgery — which can be too expensive or simply undesired — will no longer be a requirement of that treatment. Basic Rights Oregon explains why this is so important:

Birth certificates are more than a piece of paper: they are a gateway to access Social Security benefits, to obtain professional certification, to register for schools and colleges, and in countless other situations. Having inconsistent documents can impose serious barriers to finding meaningful employment or housing, and creates barriers for parents of transgender children and youth seeking accurate school records. Removing the surgery requirement is an important step forward to removing those challenges.

Progress comes in little steps — we followed the addition of a third gender category to Pakistani identity cards in 2011, and trans rights victories in Ontario and Argentina in 2012 — but it is still progress. And we are thankful for it.

May
25

Trans rights victories in Ontario and Argentina

Rest of the world, take note. Both Ontario and Argentina have recently taken some big leaps forward for trans rights, allowing for gender self-determination on birth certificates without proof of medical, judicial, or psychiatric procedures first.

Ontario’s change came in the form of an April decision that struck down a previous rule in the Vital Statistics Act, which required a person to undergo what it called “transsexual surgery” before being able to legally change the gender listed on their birth certificate. Deeming the stipulation discriminatory, the Ontario Human Rights Tribunal has ordered the provincial government to remove it.

The overarching nature of birth certificates could mean that this change will extend to passports as well. It could also influence legislation in other provinces and territories.

Argentina has gone even further, introducing a new bill that grants citizens the freedom to change their legal gender without jumping through any hoops first. The bill won congressional approval this month with a resounding 55-0 Senate vote. Some are calling it a game changer, noting that it is far beyond what most countries have on the books. Katrina Karkazis, a Stanford University bioethicist who has studied the legal and medical barriers for trans folks in the U.S., said:

This law is saying that we’re not going to require you to live as a man or a woman, or to change your anatomy in some way. They’re saying that what you say you are is what you are. And that’s extraordinary. Rather than our more sedimented ideas about what it is to be male or female, this sort of throws all of that up in the air in a really exciting way.

Two years ago, Argentina was the first Latin American nation to legalize gay marriage.

In the U.S. and Europe, changing one’s gender marker on a birth certificate usually requires proof of gender reassignment surgery, hormone therapy, and/or psychological evaluation — exhausting requirements that can often be emotionally, physically, and financially stressful.

Jul
11

Finally! A bra guide for queer folks!

Yes! Lesbian social commentary website Autostraddle put together something that was sorely needed: a guide to bra shopping for those who identify as queer. The Bra Issue: Queer Fashion Guide For Various Shapes, Sizes and Gender Expressions is a guide to navigating the wide world of bras, whether your gender expression leans feminine, masculine, neutral or somewhere in between.

The in-depth guide features tips for finding a style of bra that fits correctly and makes you feel fantastic. The staff present their top picks for small boobs, large boobs, femme/girly shoppers, gender-neutral shoppers, and butch shoppers.

There’s also a section on binding that mentions binder/compression shirts like the ones we carry (Tri-Top Chest Binder and Double Panel Compression Shirt Binder).

But this isn’t just a bra guide. Interspersed between the bra recommendations are a few personal essays: “What’s A Butch To Do” and “What To Do With Boobs from a Queer Fat Femme Perspective.” Both are great reads. A quote from “What’s a Butch To Do”:

I want to seduce MYSELF and feel confident and sexual and powerful with a Special Lady. I want to hypnotize her with my boobs. I cannot do this in a flowery lace Balis Minimizer that my mother forced me to wear my entire life ’cause I carry 38Ds . . . we just need a designer to understand for the masculeeene lady – our femininity is IN our masculinity and someday I hope there is a bra that supports that.

See what I did. Supports that. Our boobs.

Har, har. Autostraddle also has a queer swimsuit guide and underwear guide. Totally awesome.

May
25

Third gender category to be added to Pakistani identity cards

Pakistan’s Supreme Court has done something quite radical: they’ve agreed to add a third gender category to their national identity cards. Surprisingly, there has been little opposition to the ruling, neither within the registration authority nor outside it. This may be because trans people — of which there are an estimated 50,000 — are generally accepted as part of the fabric of Pakistani society.

However, life is not easy for trans people living in Pakistan. This BBC article profiles Shehzadi, a Pakistani trans woman who left home as a teenager. While she appreciates living in the trans community, she says, “People don’t understand, and they abuse us. It’s hard to get somewhere to live, or even to move about normally. I get teased when I stand and wait for a bus.”

Many trans people have trouble finding work as well. Pakistan’s Supreme Court is attempting to remedy this; they recently announced that trans people should be allocated a certain number of government jobs. Shehzadi now works as a tax collector. “We knock on the doors of people who haven’t paid their taxes,” she says. “We stand on their doorstep and give them trouble and make a spectacle. Then to stop us attracting attention, they pay. I love the job, life’s going well!”

While these changes are certainly a step forward for Pakistan in recognizing gender non-conformity, they do not change everything. As Shehzadi somberly explains, “However much we say we are a close community, and call each other ‘sister’ and ‘mother’ it is still a lonely existence.”

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