• Musings

    Writing a disabled perspective into erotica

    [Note: Xan West does not use pronouns and goes by “Xan.”] Language is powerful. It has the ability to enhance and validate someone’s experience, just as it has the ability to invalidate. Erotica writers are especially imbued with this influence, as their work requires them to describe bodies, sexual acts, and lived experiences more intimately than most. Unfortunately, much erotica presumes a default subject: a white, young, able-bodied cisgender person. Xan West is the author of Show Yourself to Me: Queer Kink Erotica, a collection of 24 BDSM-focused stories that subvert the traditional narrative and strive for more diverse character representation. Xan is also a disabled top and writes many stories from a top’s point of view. In efforts…

  • Sales

    After Christmas sale — 15% off select items!

    Did Santa forget to put a sexy gift in your stocking? Perhaps you received a She Bop gift certificate that’s burning a hole in your pocket? The holidays have gone by in a flash, but we still have some presents under the She Bop tree. From today through Wednesday, December 31st, we’re putting some amazing toys, books, and other fun stuff on saleat 15% off. Come by the shop to get 15% off on: All Bswish vibrators All Happy Valley Fuze toys, including butt plugs and dildos Fun Factory Pearly and Semiliino From the LELO Insignia line: Alia, Isla, and Soraya Pocket Toyfriends Tenga Flip Holes All erotica books (in-store only) Sliquid Sea lube

  • Musings

    The not-so-secret lives of erotica writers

    In some ways, erotica authors are just like the rest of the population. But not in every way. Ebook recommendation website The Fussy Librarian recently surveyed 103 authors of erotic romance novels, with some interesting results.  The vast majority of respondents were heterosexual married women aged 24-54. The average age that they lost their virginity was 17.8, compared to the U.S. average of 17.1. 28% of them have had more than 11 partners, compared to the national average of 9%. Apparently, erotica writers don’t have sex any more frequently than average Americans, but they are more likely to have engaged in threesomes, practiced BDSM, and had sex in unique locations such as offices, cars, planes,…

  • Events

    Erotica reading with Rachel Kramer Bussel!

    Wednesday, September 10th — 7:30 p.m. — FREE Join erotica author and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel with readings from her latest anthologies, Hungry for More: Romantic Fantasies for Women and The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales. Joining her will be contributors Tiffany Reisz, author of the popular Original Sinners series, as well as Stella Harris, Emily Bingham, and Laurel Isaac. Rachel Kramer Bussel is a New York-based author, editor, blogger and event organizer. She has edited 40+ anthologies, including Women in Lust, Spanked, Tasting Her, Gotta Have It, and The Mile High Club. Rachel conducts reading and erotic writing workshops worldwide. Tiffany Reisz is the author of the internationally bestselling and…

  • Musings,  New products,  News

    Ageless Erotica: more than added wrinkles

    Ageless Erotica

    As big fans of senior sex educator Joan Price (author of Better Than I Ever Expected and Naked at Our Age), we were excited when she posted a call for submisssions for a senior erotica anthology in November of 2011. A book like that was desperately needed, and we knew Price was just the person to make it happen! Well, the fruits of Price’s labor are finally here in the form of Ageless Erotica. We love it. Just look at that cover! In an article for The Daily Beast, erotica extraordinaire Rachel Kramer Bussel details the story behind Ageless Erotica while also exploring the latest sex writing from older sex educators, sex surrogates, and even a Colorado…

  • She Bop's Picks,  Valentine's Day

    She Bop’s Picks: Valentine’s Day

    Is it any surprise we’re big fans of Valentine’s Day? Of course, we believe in love and pleasure all year round, but it’s nice to have a day set aside for celebrating in style. In fact, Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to scout out something new for your bedroom adventures. Here are our top recommendations for sexy items to make this Valentine’s Day memorable (and pleasurable!). Check out last year’s picks and our 2011 picks for even more ideas. Cupcake Up until now, there was a cupcake-shaped hole in the sex toy industry. Now it has been filled with a vibrator that really looks good enough to eat! The silicone and…

  • New products,  News

    New product round-up for September

    This month, Spareparts has done it again with their unbelievably cute Sasha underwear-style harness! It features their signature stretchy O-ring, and is decorated with sexy rouching over the butt. We also now have Spareparts’ Pete packing underwear in the trunks style, in case you prefer trunks over briefs or jock straps. Choices galore!   We’ve also added some gorgeous pieces from Incoqnito. Incoqnito’s specialty is creating provocative items that disguise themselves as innocuous jewelry. Check out their Droplet Necklace (secretly a pair of vibrating nipple stimulators!) and leather “bracelets” that morph into handcuffs. Incoqnito’s Leather Nipple Tassels don’t masquerade as anything else, but they are hot nipple adornments nonetheless! Two new books are on our bookshelf this month: Curvy Girls: Erotica for Women,…

  • Events

    Sexy On the Page: Writing & Publishing Erotica

    Monday, September 10th — 7:30 p.m. — $20 Always wanted to write sexy stories for money? Unsure how to start sending out those steamy tales to publishers? Award-winning writer and editor Shanna Germain will give you her hottest tips for writing and submitting erotic stories and novels. Shanna Germain is a writer, editor, instructor, girl geek, tree kisser, and book-nerd. With a whole lot of writing years under her belt (or her collar, depending on the day), Shanna’s poems, essays, short stories, novellas, articles and more have found homes in hundreds of magazines, newspapers, books and websites. An Associate Fellow at the Attic Institute in Portland, Oregon, she has taught…

  • Events

    Bound By Lust: Reading and Writing Erotica

    Thursday, August 9th — 7:30 p.m. — FREE — RSVP on Facebook Come and hear award-winning writer Shanna Germain read from Bound by Lust, a collection of BDSM-focused erotic romance. After, she’ll talk about the saucy, sexy (and sometimes just plain silly) life of a full-time erotica writer and will answer questions about writing erotica, getting published, writing sex toys off on your taxes, and anything else you want to ask. Attendees can enter to win a copy of Bound by Lust, which they can get signed! Shanna Germain is a writer, editor, instructor, girl geek, tree kisser, and book-nerd. With a whole lot of writing years under her belt…

  • Events

    Say Please reading with Sinclair Sexsmith + local authors!

    Sunday, July 8th — 7:30 p.m. — FREE In Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, editor Sinclair Sexsmith presents a cornucopia of queer kink: tantalizing tales rich in variety and saucy details of girls put in their place — and held there firmly. Whether readers dream of surrendering to a lover or of taking control, Say Please offers plenty of erotic inspiration and gives readers exactly what they want. Come hear Sinclair Sexsmith and local authors Wendi Kali and Sossity Chiricuzio read their stories from Say Please and celebrate this kinky queer collection. Sinclair Sexsmith has been writing since 1996 about identity, queer culture, feminism, and self-awareness, and teaches workshops on…