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Prostate Pleasure

Charlie GlickmanSunday, September 28th — 7:30 p.m. — $25 — Q Center

This class will be held at She Bop.

More people are discovering the amazing pleasure potential of the prostate, aka the male G-spot. Prostate massage, pegging, and anal sex for men can bring you to new heights of sensation and Charlie Glickman PhD, one of the authors of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, is here to tell you all about it.

He’ll explain the role of the prostate in sexual arousal and orgasm, give you lots of tips for easy and pleasurable anal penetration, tell you all about prostate massage, show you the best toys for strap-on play and pegging, offer ideas for combining prostate play with other kinds of sex, and much more. Whether you’re new to the idea of prostate play or you’re an experienced enthusiast, Charlie has plenty to offer you, so come discover new ways to make your partner’s toes curl!

Find out more about Charlie on his website or on Twitter and Facebook. For Charlie’s sex coaching and sexological bodywork services, visit

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!


A nuanced look at rimming

Six donuts with icing in two rowsIt’s probably too much to call an article about analingus hard-hitting journalism, but Amanda Hess did a great job in her piece for Playboy called “Tongue in Cheek: The Men Who Want This Sex Act Aren’t Kidding.”

While other sex acts (such as anal sex) have become more commonly accepted as the years have gone by, male anal play still lags behind. Yet when Esquire asked 500 men what they wanted more of during foreplay, 12% named rim jobs — two times the number who desired “a little rough play.”

Charlie Glickman, author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, explains that the taboo surrounding male anal play has a lot to do with shame — and a perceived loss of masculinity. Rimming is much more prevalent among gay men, which probably explains the (untrue) myth that male anal play is solely a gay activity.

Michael reasons that rim jobs might be more common among gays because they are “a logical precursor to anal sex.” But they also just feel good. Psychological roadblocks to butt play mean that men who opt out are missing out, pure and simple. The anus has “got all of this exquisite sensitivity—it’s similar to the nerves in your lips,” Glickman says. When licked, “It kind of tickles,” Michael adds. “But it also stimulates other erogenous zones, like my penis and my nipples. It’s the whole body package.”

There is also a choice quote from Tristan Taormino: “The asshole is the most democratic of all orifices — we all have one!” It’s true: aside from the physical pleasure it brings, rimming can also empower partners and open up the lines of communication.

Read the whole article on Playboy.

Interested in learning more and perhaps trying out analingus? We suggest Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men, Charlie Glickman’s The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, and dental dams always come in handy too!


The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure with Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian

Thursday, February 28th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

This class will be held at the Q Center, three blocks north from us at 4115 N Mississippi.

Charlie Glickman & Aislinn EmirzianAre you curious about prostate play? Or maybe you’ve tried it and want some tips to make it even more fun? We’ll give you all the info you need to see for yourself why more men and their partners are discovering how much fun prostate stimulation can be.

We’ll talk about the common concerns that sometimes keep people from exploring it (and how to overcome them), tips for easy and pleasureable anal penetration, prostate massage, which toys work best for prostate fun, pegging, combining prostate pleasure with other kinds of sex, and much more. Whether you’re just starting out or you already enjoy prostate play, come learn some new ways to make sex lots of fun!

Charlie Glickman is a sexuality educator, writer, blogger, workshop teacher, and university professor. He is certified as a sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. He lives in Oakland, CA. Aislinn Emirzian is a sex educator, coach, and workshop instructor who got her start working with sex-positive adult toy stores like Good Vibrations in San Francisco and Oh My Sensuality Shop in Massachusetts. She resides in the San Francisco Bay Area.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!


Masturbation myths to blame for sex toy double standard

Female masturbation and sex toy use have become more mainstream in the past few years, yet there is still a pretty pervasive stigma when it comes to a man using a sex toy for masturbation. This thoughtful article by feminist blogger and gender studies professor Hugo Schwyzer examines this sex toy double standard — and why it continues to prevail.

It all traces back to myths about male and female masturbation. One such myth is that “real men have sex with real vaginas.” According to this myth,

. . . male masturbation — and especially a “penis sleeve” . . . signals a “lack of sexual success.” Male masturbation, in other words, is about relieving frustration — and for too many people, frustration is a consequence of failure. A sexually successful man should have enough sex (with women, of course, as our myths tend to exclude gay and bi men) that he only rarely gets “frustrated.”

But that’s not the only myth at play. Schwyzer spoke with sex educator Charlie Glickman to get his thoughts on the subject. Glickman believes that male sexuality is traditionally viewed as simple, whereas female sexuality is seen as complex, and this leads to a skewed perception of both.

Female sexuality is seen as complicated and mysterious, he told me, while male sexuality is seen as simple. Men learn to masturbate early, and usually quickly, worried that they’ll get caught. As a result, Charlie said, many of the men he works with still masturbate the same way at 40 that they did at 14. The focus is on “getting off” fast, not on drawing out ecstasy. Though many women do masturbate for quick relief . . . a focus on prolonged pleasure rather than simple release is still viewed as female.

Charlie pointed out that he’s never heard a gay man complain about a male lover who masturbates. But some women are threatened by their boyfriends or husbands masturbating, frequently because they’ve been raised to believe that it’s their job to be the pleasure provider in the relationship. As long as we believe that men masturbate out of a simple lack of opportunity for “real sex,” then women will believe that masturbation is a kind of rejection . . . On the other hand, plenty of folks believe that women’s sexuality is so intense and mysterious that men can rarely hope to satisfy it. So a woman masturbating with a wonderful toy she bought online is doing for herself something no man can — but a guy rubbing one out by himself is “depriving” his female partner of what is rightfully “hers.”

Read the whole post — it’s wonderful. There is not enough conversation surrounding this issue, so it’s good to see someone tackling it so eloquently.

It’s important for us to view these myths as what they are — to realize when they are influencing us, and to actively reject them. Sex toys for men are awesome, and they serve the exact same purpose as sex toys for women: to make sex with ourselves and with others more interesting and fun.

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