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Curvy Sex: Body Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life

Sunday, June 4th — 7:30 pm. — $20

Elle ChaseYou don’t have to be skinny to have the best sex of your life! In this class, inspired by Elle Chase’s new book, Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life, you’ll learn Elle’s favorite tips, tricks, and positions for all curvy body types, including the sex accessories that work best for your body shape and size! Find out which items you might already have at home and how to use them for amazing, enlightened sex, plus get all your curvy sex questions answered by a certified expert! So whether you’ve got a little junk in the trunk, are pleasingly plump, or beautifully buxom, this unique workshop will help you enjoy toe-curling sex! This class is inclusive of all gender expressions and sexual identities.

Elle Chase, ACS is a certified sex educator, body-acceptance activist, and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life. Elle’s work has been featured on the Today Show, Huffington Post, Glamour, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan among others. She is also the founder and director of education for the Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education and the creator of the award-winning websites (nsfw) and

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Interviews with the author of Big Big Love

Big Big Love: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them) is a landmark body-positive book that was originally published in 2000. In 2011, it was majorly overhauled and re-released, and we quickly added it to our catalog. The revised Big Big Love contains new illustrations, interviews, quotes, and resources, as well as more inclusive language surrounding sexuality and gender identity.

Author Hanne Blank was interviewed on both Salon and Bitch about the release. In her interview with Salon, Blank discusses myths about fat sex, what sex and fatness have in common, benefits to fat sex, and fat fetishism. To the question, “Why is a book about fat sex necessary? What is so different about fat sex?”, Blank responds:

What is so different about fat sex is that it’s one of the kinds of sex that mainstream culture tells us we’re not supposed to want, have or approve of. There’s a machine, a huge cultural and industrial juggernaut that is devoted to making us believe that the right kind of sex and the right kind of sexual desirability is the be-all-end-all.

And in her interview with Bitch — which was actually conducted by one of She Bop’s fabulous sales ladies, Yana! — Blank offers her views on reclaiming the word fat, what fat activisim and feminism have in common, fat-negativity in the media, and even her crushes on queer porn director Courtney Trouble and erotic icon April Flores. When Bitch asks, “Who was Big Big Love written for?” Blank says,

BBL was written for people who have bodies and who also negotiate their own sexuality, especially if — but not exclusively if — they’re fat. It’s also for anyone who is or has ever been attracted to, interested in or in a relationship with someone who is, was or might someday be fat.

. . . It’s not exactly a big secret that people with bodies of all different sizes often feel that their bodies are “not good enough” for them to deserve happy, healthy, satisfying sex lives. Threats of undesirability or unloveability are used to terrorize, oppress and silence women. It is a cultural dictate that “good,” “successful,” “real” women are those who are sexually desired, objectified and the objects of a particular kind of love that is directly connected to a particular model of physical attractiveness. In the book, I call this out for the hurtful, insidious bullshit that it is.

Indeed. And that is why Big Big Love is such an important book — it’s really written for everyone.

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