Jade Egg: A Tool To Increase Your Vitality, Health & Pleasure

Kim KellerThursday, August 3rd — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Energy amplifies whenever intention, focus, desire and hearts meet.

The use of a yoni-stone or Jade Egg to strengthen the vagina is an ancient practice that evolved thousands of years ago in China, and is now gaining tremendous popularity here in the West. Today, we utilize this ancient practice to enliven, open, heal, and energetically cleanse yoni (vagina), as well as strengthen and understand our pelvic region in ways we may have not previously understood. Jade Egg is known to increase overall health, vitality and libido while expanding your access to pleasure. Far, far more than just a vaginal exercise device, in this introductory workshop you will learn the basics of this potent practice, and why it is important to your overall vitality.

Kim Keller is a Certified Tantric Educator and Intimacy Coach from Ashland, OR. Trained in a wide range of modalities, Kim specializes in teaching a variety of methods for bringing the sacred into your sexuality. Kim delights in sharing intimate secrets to support all genders in finding more pleasure, joy, vitality and healing in both intimacy and in life.

Note: This introductory class will not include the actual use of a Jade Egg, however, Kim will be offering a Jade Egg Immersion in Portland on Sunday, January 15th.

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Fellatio 2.0: An Oral Sex Upgrade!

Gretchen Leigh

Wednesday, July 26th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

You know the basics: your hand-mouth coordination is on point, you’ve timed your breathing to a T, and you have an A+ in anatomy. Now’s your chance to take things up a notch!

Join She Bop educator Gretchen Leigh as she takes you through the ins and outs and ups and downs of advanced fellatio. We’ll dive deep into deep throating, play with power dynamics (bondage, dirty talk, and CBT, anyone?), explore hot blow job techniques for non-traditional recipients including strap-ons, soft cocks, and enlarged clits, brush up on butt stuff, build ball-handling know-how, get creative with oral sex positions, and more!

Come one come all, fellatio aficionados and enthusiasts — this class is open to blow job givers and receivers of all genders and orientations. This class will include a live demo on a dildo; please feel free to bring a pen and paper if you’d like to take notes, or a toy from home if you’d like to practice as you learn!

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Dropping the Hint, Not the Ball: Flirting 101 with Andre Shakti

Sunday, July 16th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Andre ShaktiIn today’s “how-­to” age, there are more contradictory and harmful myths about flirting than there is practical advice. “Don’t fuck on the first date!” “Play hard to get!” “Don’t talk about past relationships!” “Wear something flattering, but not too conservative or revealing!” Hardly ever do these instructions account for diversity in sexual orientation, gender identity, or relationship style, let alone personal preference! Join performer, educator, and professional flirt Andre Shakti as she discusses the self-­imposed “roadblocks” that make flirting difficult and helps you leverage your individual personality style to maximize your flirting success without losing sight of who you are and what you REALLY want!

Andre Shakti is a journalist, educator, performer, activist, and professional slut living in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is devoted to normalizing alternative desires, de-stigmatizing sex workers and their clients, and not taking herself too seriously. Andre wrestles mediocre white men into submission and writes about sex work, queerness and non-monogamy for Cosmopolitan, Rewire, Thrillist, MEL, Vice, Autostraddle, and more. Andre is the reigning “polyamory pundit” at her non-monogamy advice column, “I Am Poly & So Can You!”, which you can visit — and submit questions to! — via Visit her on Twitter @andreshakti, on FB as Andre Shakti, and as a pleasure professional on the new inclusive educational platform O.School.

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Living With Pelvic Pain

Alyssa Kubitz

Thursday, July 13th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Many people suffer from chronic pain in the vulvar/vaginal area and may be diagnosed with Vulvodynia and/or Vulvar Vestibulitis. This discomfort, whether during sex or simply while going about your day, may feel extremely frustrating and isolating if you don’t have a community with whom to talk about it. In this class, you will learn about care, treatment, and techniques to help when you are in a flare, plus tools for emotional support. Additionally, you will learn some more non-invasive ways to care for yourself such as diet, EFT Tapping, meditation, and stretches. The class will conclude with a 30 minute yoga session, so be sure to wear comfortable clothes and bring a mat/towel!

Alyssa Kubitz has been a certified yoga instructor for the past 3 years and has been practicing for 10. She is also certified in Reiki II and has 15 years of firsthand experience with pelvic pain.

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8 Common Masturbation Myths — Debunked!

8 Common Masturbation Myths -- Debunked!

May is National Masturbation Month! In years past we’ve talked about the benefits of masturbation, switching up your routine, and how to get comfortable with masturbation. This year, we wanted to cover masturbation myths.

We all know by now that masturbation isn’t going to give you hairy palms or cause blindness, but there are still myths out there that are harder to shake. Here are 8 of the most common masturbation myths we’ve heard — and why they aren’t true.

1. Masturbation is a substitute for sex with another person. Aspartame is a substitute sweetener for folks who can’t have or don’t want real sugar, and many people out there think of masturbation in the same way as aspartame — a substitute for when someone “can’t get the real deal.”

Masturbation isn’t a temporary stand-in or a step down from “real” sexual activity, though. It is a normal and healthy part of sexuality and sexual expression, and plenty of people who regularly have sex with others still choose to masturbate. Just because it is often a solo act doesn’t mean it isn’t a type of real sex. In fact, masturbation has many of the same benefits partnered sex offers (stress relief, mood boosting, fighting insomnia, feeling good about your body, etc.) but also allows you to take your sex life into your own hands — literally! Masturbation is 100% the real deal and can be just as sexually satisfying as sex with partners — sometimes even more so.

2. Masturbation doesn’t deserve as much attention as your partnered sex life. Many people, especially those socialized as women, are taught that anything we do that centers ourselves is considered selfish. That kind of thinking often leaves us as the last person we take care of in our own lives, which means many people learn how to please partners but have little to no idea what works for their own bodies. Not only can that feel disempowering, but it can also make it harder to communicate with sexual partners who want to help us feel good or reach orgasm. If we devote energy to our solo sex lives and set aside time for self-pleasure, we feel more empowered all around and we also have better partnered sex because we can let other people know what we want or how we prefer to be touched.

3. There is a wrong way to masturbate. While asking around about masturbation myths, one thing that kept coming up was that a lot of people grew up thinking there was only one “correct” way of masturbating. For people with vulvas, they often thought that anything outside of lying on their backs and masturbating with their fingers was “wrong,” and for people with penises, they thought that jerking off with one hand while sitting or standing were the only “normal” ways to touch themselves.

However, people masturbate in all sorts of ways — humping pillows, using sex toys, playing with their butts, masturbating on their stomachs, rubbing everyday objects on their genitals, cutting holes into foam mattresses and going to town — and they’re all normal! The only wrong way to masturbate is if you’re doing it in a way that violates another person’s consent (such as masturbating on a crowded bus). Beyond that, explore, have fun, and if you’re sticking anything in your ass, make sure it has a flared base or loop for easy retrieval!

4. Masturbation with fingers/hands only is “more pure” than with sex toys. Nonsense! When it comes to masturbation, it’s all about discovering what feels good and works for you personally. While many people love using their hands and fingers, billions of people all over the world, past and present, have used sex toys. For as long as humans have been humans, we’ve used objects to give ourselves and others pleasure, and there is nothing unnatural or impure about it. Some people can’t use hands/fingers to touch themselves and have a much easier time using toys, while others may simply prefer the texture, shape, or vibration that toys offer, and tons of people love having the option to choose based on their mood. However you decide to play is all good if it’s working for you.

5. If you use vibrators too much, you won’t be able to orgasm without them anymore. Firstly, using a vibrator can help many people orgasm who have difficulty reaching orgasm otherwise. Some of those people may continue to use a vibrator every time they want to have an orgasm and others are able to train their bodies and get off manually after toys have helped them become more easily orgasmic. Both are fine!

For those who were climaxing on their own without the help of toys and then started using vibrators, most report that they generally like to switch things up and sometimes get off with vibrators and sometimes get off in other ways. They choose what works best for them in the moment, and many people are into having a variety of options. Then again, many people are also into efficiency, and vibrators can be very efficient! So, some people will choose to grab their vibrator nearly every time, but it doesn’t mean they can’t reach orgasm without them anymore. It just means they might be favoring how easily orgasms come to them with vibration.

If you’re nervous that you’ve been relying on your vibrator too much, try taking a break from vibes for a few days and using your hands. It might take a little while to retrain your body to respond to sensations that aren’t vibration, but if you were able to come before without vibration, you should be able to come again without it.

6. If you have a partner, masturbation is cheating. Taking care of yourself and being in touch with your own body is important. Masturbating alone, even if you’re viewing porn, is not cheating. If your partner feels threatened by your masturbation habits, have a conversation about why. Perhaps they are worried that you will not have desire left for them if you masturbate (which is another myth – the great majority of masturbators still like having sex with their partners even when they masturbate often) or perhaps they feel insecure because the porn you watch leaves them wondering if you are desiring someone or something else.

If masturbation is causing issues in your relationship, communicate openly and compassionately with each other about concerns and insecurities and find a way to make sure you’re sharing physical intimacy with each other regularly.

7. Masturbation is just “a means to an end” and should be over with quickly rather than indulging in it. The great thing about masturbation is that you’re in charge, so it can last as long as you want it to last! That may mean getting off in under two minutes with a Womanizer before heading to work, or it may mean a weekend getaway where you spend most of it naked and touching yourself in as many ways as possible. Just like partnered sex, masturbation can be anything from a quickie to a full weekend of romance and savoring sensations.

If you’re a person who is often goal-oriented (i.e orgasm focused) when you masturbate, try switching it up every once in a while by slowing down and taking some extra time to explore your body in new ways and treat it as an act of self-love and self-care. 

8. Masturbation can only be done alone. While most people think of masturbation as something to do alone, it absolutely doesn’t have to be a solo act! Mutual masturbation, where two (or more) people are masturbating together, can be incredibly hot and has tons of benefits. Besides being very sexy to watch/hear, it can be a wonderful way to learn how someone else likes to be touched and a way of showing off your own preferences. Mutual masturbation is also great because it offers an alternative to penetrative play and is a low risk activity in terms of pregnancy and STI transmission. If you’ve never tried it before, consider giving it a chance. You may find that masturbating with or for someone else is one of your new favorite ways to enjoy sex!

Have you heard of any other masturbation myths that we didn’t cover? Feel free to leave them in the comments. Happy Masturbation Month, everyone!


10% Tuesdays in May for TransActive’s In A Bind program

Throughout the month of May, 10% of all purchases made at She Bop on Tuesdays will go to TransActive’s In A Bind program! TransActive is a Portland-based non-profit that provides a wide range of services to transgender and gender nonconforming children, youth, and their families. Their In A Bind program provides chest binders to trans-masculine youth in need. It is the first national chest binder donation/distribution program, with over 1,300 people on the waiting list for a binder.

All proceeds from this fundraiser will be used to purchase binders from our distributor and donate them to TransActive. You are also welcome to visit the shop to donate binders.

So come on down to the shop on any Tuesday in May to support this amazing program. Be sure to follow TransActive on Facebook and Twitter.


BJs with AJ: A Fellatio Workshop

Amory JaneThursday, June 29th — 7:30 pm — $20

HEADS UP! Are you a giver who wants to blow your lover’s mind with your incredible oral sex skills? Are you a receiver who wants to learn how to communicate your fantasies and help your partner have fun and be comfortable while going down? Then come one, come all! This is a blowjob class for everyone!

Amory Jane will talk about anatomy, blowjob positions, teasing, mouth and tongue techniques, what to do with your hands, and how to ask for what you want. She will cover sloppy BJs, deep throating, gagging, and playing with power dynamics. She will also share ideas on making oral sex more stimulating and pleasurable for the giver and dealing with issues such as TMJ or neck pain.

This workshop includes a live demo on a strap-on dildo. Bring a pen and paper if you like to take notes, and a dildo from home if you like to practice as you learn!

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Curvy Sex: Body Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life

Sunday, June 4th — 7:30 pm. — $20

Elle ChaseYou don’t have to be skinny to have the best sex of your life! In this class, inspired by Elle Chase’s new book, Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life, you’ll learn Elle’s favorite tips, tricks, and positions for all curvy body types, including the sex accessories that work best for your body shape and size! Find out which items you might already have at home and how to use them for amazing, enlightened sex, plus get all your curvy sex questions answered by a certified expert! So whether you’ve got a little junk in the trunk, are pleasingly plump, or beautifully buxom, this unique workshop will help you enjoy toe-curling sex! This class is inclusive of all gender expressions and sexual identities.

Elle Chase, ACS is a certified sex educator, body-acceptance activist, and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life. Elle’s work has been featured on the Today Show, Huffington Post, Glamour, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan among others. She is also the founder and director of education for the Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education and the creator of the award-winning websites (nsfw) and

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Behind the curtain at Whoopee! A Sex-Positive Variety Show

If you’re a follower of She Bop, you’ve probably noticed we have some very creative and talented folks on our staff. One of those people is our Education Coordinator, Amory Jane, and she has a popular new sex-themed stage show. It’s called Whoopee! A Sex-Positive Variety Showand the next one is coming up this Friday, April 21st. We spoke with her about the origins of Whoopee!, what audience members can expect, and why the community needs a show like this one.

What exactly is Whoopee! A Sex-Positive Variety Show? 

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Whoopee! is a once-a-month live stage show that I started in December of 2016. The theme is that all acts are sex-positive, body-positive, or about human sexuality. From the comedy to the stories to the dancing, every show allows performers to express their sexuality, talk about sex in open and entertaining ways, and/or share their vulnerability and power with the audience. It’s also a great place for people to come learn new things, explore their own desires, and win a bunch of free sex products (which are provided by our amazing sponsors She Bop, Clone-A-Willy, and Überlube)!

I was originally thinking of organizing just one big Valentine’s Day show, but after the election results in November, performers and colleagues encouraged me to introduce Whoopee! to Portland as soon as possible. People wanted an unapologetic, sex-loving, queer-celebrating show to keep spirits high. So, we had our first show at Crush on December 4th. I didn’t know what kind of turn-out we would get, but it was a huge success! We had the room packed to capacity and, although it felt like complete chaos backstage with fifteen performers and all of the sexual energy zipping through the air, it also felt like we were making magic.

Where did you get the idea?

I grew up watching variety shows on television — I would watch reruns of The Ed Sullivan Show with my grandma, The Muppet Show, The Mickey Mouse Club, comedy shows like Saturday Night Live and In Living Color — and thought they were the best. I loved seeing all of the different talents and enjoyed the mix of live music, improv performances, and recorded/rehearsed bits. These shows were entertaining to watch and looked like a whole lot of fun for the performers and hosts.

After telling stories with The Mystery Box Show and singing with the Portland Cello Project, and after a few years of teaching workshops and emceeing numerous sex-positive events, I realized I had the boldness that it took to be on a stage in front of an audience. I also realized that I had met many talented people over the years of performing in and watching local shows, so it just sort of came naturally to me. I thought that I could host “a thing” and people more talented than me could perform in that thing… and of course whatever that thing was should probably be about sex, since sex education, smashing shame, and helping people feel empowered are my biggest passions. Lucky for me, there are many talented people in the Pacific Northwest who are also sex-positive and who loved my idea, and so Whoopee! was born.

The name of the show, “whoopee,” has a few meanings (that all seemed appropriate): 1. An expression of excitement or joy 2. Wild revelry 3. Sexual play.

What can audience members expect when they go to Whoopee!?

Photo by Amanda Contois – – Jasmine Rain

I encourage audience members to leave their expectations at the door and enter the show with an open mind. However, there are some things we always have at Whoopee! that folks can look forward to:

  • 10-12 acts per show. These have included burlesque, stand-up, fetish performance, musical theater, drag, poetry, erotic short films, sex ed lessons and demos, sex-themed storytelling, and more! 
  • A raffle with at least four big sex toy prize baskets and many smaller prizes for the audience.
  • Free Überlube!
  • Nudity/partial nudity and lots of body love!
  • My easygoing and slightly sassy emcee style + sexual innuendos!

I like surprising the audience instead of announcing all of the acts in advance, but some of the performers we’ll have in April’s show are: boundary-pushing dancers from The House of Flora, an inspiring role-playing demo from sex educator and intimacy coach Stella Harris, a performance from Portland’s Glitterbeast Nikki Lev, and finalist for “Best Comedian in Portland,” Becky Braunstein. It’s going to be a great show!

What else should people know about Whoopee!?

Our next show is this Friday, April 21st at the Secret Society Ballroom. I encourage people to RSVP on Facebook and purchase tickets online in advance since we’ve been selling out. Tickets can be found here, and we offer both a general admission option and reserved seating VIP tickets.

There will also be a Kinky Karaoke Afterparty hosted by KJ Luke and yours truly. It’ll be one part karaoke, one part kink demo, and 100% entertaining. Tickets to Whoopee! get you free admission to the after party, but if you have to work late that night, you’re always welcome to just join us for karaoke around 11 p.m. (and it only costs $3).   

If you’re in Portland and a fan of sexual expression, burlesque, body-positivity, sex jokes, kink, sex ed, or free toys, go check out Whoopee! A Sex-Positive Variety Show

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Your Gender is Awesome: A Class for Trans Youth

Sunday, July 2nd — 7:30 p.m. — $10

Wyatt & SidPlease note: This class is for people UNDER 18 years old. You must have a parent or guardian accompany you to this class to sign a consent form. They do not have to stay throughout the entire class, but may do so. Please leave a note with your order if a parent or guardian will be joining you for class so we can make sure to provide enough chairs. (They do not need to purchase an additional spot.)

Are you under 18, trans*, gender variant, genderqueer or questioning? If so, this class is for you! She Bop’s very own Sid Need and Wyatt Riot will go over just about everything you need to express your most confident and authentic self: STPs, packers, breast forms, prosthetics, pack & plays, gaffs, binders, books, and community support. Sid and Wyatt will pull from their own personal experiences, as well as their experiences as sex educators, to answer any questions you might have. No worries if you are feeling shy; notecards will be provided so you can ask your questions anonymously. We will also have an allotted amount of time to assist you in trying things on if you so wish.

Wyatt is a manager and assistant buyer at She Bop and has been working there for over 5 years. This tenderheart has been out as queer and trans for over half his life (that’s roughly 16+ years). They enjoy taking naps, talking about feelings, introverting, and eating all the delicious things.

Sid identifies as a queer trans man and uses the pronouns he/him/his. He has been with She Bop for three years and has volunteered with SMYRC in the past. He is a certified sex coach, sex educator, musician, and has a minor in gender studies.

If you are interested in an 18+ over class, please let us know by sending us an e-mail at

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