Apr
2

Your Gender is Awesome: A Class for Trans Youth

Sunday, July 2nd — 7:30 p.m. — $10

Wyatt & SidPlease note: This class is for people UNDER 18 years old. You must have a parent or guardian accompany you to this class to sign a consent form. They do not have to stay throughout the entire class, but may do so. Please leave a note with your order if a parent or guardian will be joining you for class so we can make sure to provide enough chairs. (They do not need to purchase an additional spot.)

Are you under 18, trans*, gender variant, genderqueer or questioning? If so, this class is for you! She Bop’s very own Sid Need and Wyatt Riot will go over just about everything you need to express your most confident and authentic self: STPs, packers, breast forms, prosthetics, pack & plays, gaffs, binders, books, and community support. Sid and Wyatt will pull from their own personal experiences, as well as their experiences as sex educators, to answer any questions you might have. No worries if you are feeling shy; notecards will be provided so you can ask your questions anonymously. We will also have an allotted amount of time to assist you in trying things on if you so wish.

Wyatt is a manager and assistant buyer at She Bop and has been working there for over 5 years. This tenderheart has been out as queer and trans for over half his life (that’s roughly 16+ years). They enjoy taking naps, talking about feelings, introverting, and eating all the delicious things.

Sid identifies as a queer trans man and uses the pronouns he/him/his. He has been with She Bop for three years and has volunteered with SMYRC in the past. He is a certified sex coach, sex educator, musician, and has a minor in gender studies.

If you are interested in an 18+ over class, please let us know by sending us an e-mail at info@sheboptheshop.com.

Mar
26

How to pick out porn

Finding the porn DVD or video that can turn you on, give you new ideas, or help get you off is not always an easy task. After all, the world is full of many different types of porn — and it’s not all created equal.

In The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn, author Violet Blue suggests “creating a picture of what you hope to find in your porn, just as you’d order a meal in a restaurant.” So, start by asking yourself (and your partner, if you’re watching together) what sounds appetizing, and go from there. Want to see women in charge? A real life amateur couple who remind you of you and your sweetie? Anal sex? Whatever moods you might be feeling, jot them down. Then make a second list of things you don’t want to see. Do you get turned off by facial ejaculation? Distracted by vintage fashion or hairstyles? Not a fan of movies that have plots or try to be funny? Take note. This will help you narrow down your choices.

You can also ask yourself what style of film you like in general. Do you prefer movies with big budgets, set designs, and special effects? Maybe you would want to check out a film like Pirates. If you’re into documentaries or educational films, try watching an instructional porn film. Do you usually pick movies from the LGBT section on Netflix? Try one of the films from the queer porn section on our website!

Just like at a restaurant, if you don’t exactly know what you’re in the mood for, you can at least start by ignoring the things you don’t like. If you don’t eat meat, you would likely ignore the section of menu labeled “surf and turf” and search for menu items suitable for a vegetarian. The same idea can be used for pornography. For example, if what you’re hoping to avoid are the things you have seen in mainstream adult movies over and over again, try a different genre! Consult Erika Lust’s guide book Good Porn and then pick out some women-directed or indie adult films for a better fit. 

If you’re still overwhelmed by choices, use your eyeballs. If you’re in a store or online ordering DVDs, pay attention to what’s on the cover. We’re visual creatures, especially when seeking porn, so pay attention to that first impression you get from the DVD box or picture on the computer screen. If you think the people on the cover are all hot babes or you are drawn to the filmmaker’s aesthetic, that can be a good sign! If you’re turned off by the images on the front, skip that film. It may be true that you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but DVD covers and porn thumbnails aren’t books. It’s okay to base your porn selection on what is visually appealing to you.

Still undecided? You can always consult recommendations and reviews. Figure out which films have won awards or get positive reviews online. This is often how people choose which movie to go see in theaters, right? It may work for finding yourself some incredible porn too! Some of the DVDs we carry that have won industry awards are:

Whatever you end up deciding, go into watching with an open mind, a bottle of lube, and a fully charged sex toy! Even if every scene doesn’t do it for you, exploring pornography can expand your horizons, increase libido, and help you discover and share kinks safely. Whether you love a movie and want to watch it again and again, or you turn it off after the first two minutes, getting in touch with what turns you on and sparking conversations with partners about their desires and fantasies is always a win.

Mar
26

10% Tuesdays in April for Call to Safety

Each Tuesday this April, 10% of our sales at She Bop will go to Call to Safety (formerly Portland Women’s Crisis Line). Call to Safety is a hugely important organization that offers 24/7 support to survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence. They offer services such as a crisis linesafety planning, peer support, and referrals to community resources. Call to Safety is an invaluable asset to our community, and we are honored to be able to give back to them for the tireless work that they do.

April is also Sexual Assault Awareness Month. According to RAINN, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted every 2 minutes. This unfortunate statistic is a reality for 1 out of every 6 American women. Here are a few resources for thinking about and combating sexual assault.

We also carry the book Healing Sex, which aims to help survivors of sexual trauma reclaim their sex lives.

Mar
26

Sex and Survivorship: Navigating Sex After Cancer

Sunday, June 11th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Leslie and GretchenCancer affects every aspect of a person’s life, including their sex life. If you have cancer, if someone you love has cancer, or if you are a cancer survivor, this class is for you.

Join mother-daughter duo, Leslie Heron (ARNP, FNP-BC) of Seattle Cancer Care Alliance and our very own in-house educator Gretchen, for this informative and fun workshop on cancer and sexuality. They will discuss common side effects of cancer and cancer treatments (relationship issues, hiccups in communication, and physical symptoms such as erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness, etc.), and products that can help (books, lubricants, toys, safer sex supplies, and more)!

This class will be a light-hearted way for healthcare professionals and those affected by cancer to connect and learn together. Participants are encouraged to ask questions, share stories, and handle products.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

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Mar
26

Back That Ass Up!: Anal Sex 101

Thursday, June 1st — 7:30 p.m. — $20

AJ (aka Amory Jane)Are you interested in anal pleasure but not sure where to get started? Already tried anal play but wanting to learn some fun tricks and techniques? Whether you’re brand new to the wonderful world of anal or already have some backdoor experience, this class is sure to teach you something new!

In this educational and humorous workshop, AJ will confront taboos, go over anal anatomy, prostate, and the G-spot, discuss anal penetration for beginners, and show great positions for anal sex. She’ll also cover safety and hygiene and give you the inside scoop on all the best lubes and anal toys! This class is open to all genders and sexual appetites.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a sex-positive relationship coach.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Mar
19

Wet & Wild: G-spot and Squirting Orgasms

Stella HarrisWednesday, May 17th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Ancient societies called it Amrita, the nectar of the gods. Pop culture regularly debates whether it’s urine. Whichever camp you fall in, squirting is a hot topic.

In this class, Stella Harris will cover internal and external anatomy with special emphasis on what is commonly known as the G-spot — but is becoming better understood as the clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex. She’ll talk about everything from sex toys to touch techniques you can try alone or with a partner to experience an internal orgasm, and ways you can increase your chances of squirting.

Just as essential as sexual skills, Stella will discuss how to become comfortable with your body and with your partner, and ways to talk about touch and exploration that will put everyone at ease.

Stella Harris is building a world where everyone has the confidence to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame. As a certified Intimacy Educator, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella has presented at venues and conferences nationally including Catalyst Con, KinkFest Portland, COPE Ohio, and Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture. She has also spoken at Portland State University, Reed College, Lewis & Clark College and Pacific University.

Stella has been widely quoted in the media and she’s made guest appearances on numerous podcasts including Sex on the Brain and Playboy Radio. Her articles have appeared on Thought Catalog, Kinkly.com, and Fetish.com, and her fiction is included in more than a dozen anthologies.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Mar
10

Win tickets to Whoopee! A Sex+ Variety Show

She Bop’s Education Coordinator and Sex Edu-tainer Extraordinaire, Amory Jane, is the producer and host of a new monthly live show called Whoopee! A Sex-Positive Variety ShowAfter a feature in Portland MonthlyWhoopee! kicked off in December 2016 to a sold out crowd at Crush Bar. Whoopee! has been growing in size and getting rave reviews ever since.

Whoopee! A Sex-Positive Variety Show features some of Portland’s sexiest and most unique performances. Acts include burlesque, sex-themed stand up, fetish performance, singing, lap dancing, sex ed demos, poetry, short erotic films, dirty storytelling, and more!

On Friday, March 24th, Whoopee! will be at the Secret Society Ballroom and will be followed by a Kinky Karaoke Afterparty! To get in on all the hot fun, purchase tickets here or enter to win a free pair of tickets! 

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This giveaway ends on Friday, March 17th at 11:59 p.m.

 Giveaway is only open to people 21 and older.

Winner will be chosen by random draw and will receive notification that they won on Saturday, March 18th. Winner will be placed on the guest list for free entry for themselves plus a friend.

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Mar
7

Strap it to Me! Strap-on Sex for Everybody

Sunday, May 21st — 7:30 pm — $20

Gretchen and SidBuckles and straps and dildos, oh my! Strapping it on can feel a little overwhelming at first. Luckily, strap-on sex is one of Gretchen and Sid’s favorite teaching topics!

Are you new to the world of strap-ons? Curious about pegging but not sure where to start? Looking to gain some extra cock-confidence while wearing a harness? In the market for a new strap-on but not sure which dildo would be the best choice? Join She Bop’s very own Gretchen Leigh and Sid Need as they walk you through the ins and outs of strap-on sex! This fun and informative class will cover pegging, how to choose a harness and dildo, packing/playing, penetration, positions for all body types and abilities, how to get more comfortable using your strap-on, and tips for adding a little extra fun for the wearer. Participants of all genders, orientations, size, abilities and experience are welcome.

Sid Need is a certified sex coach, educator, and one of She Bop’s long-time staff members. Gretchen Leigh is a sex educator and strength coach, often found representing She Bop around town as a resident in-house and off-site educator. With their shared academic background in psychology and gender, and their mutual passion for inclusive, comprehensive sex education, Gretchen and Sid use playfulness, humor, experience, and compassion to tackle the topic of strap-on sex for everybody.

Limited space available — sign up online!

Feb
26

Beyond Monogamy

Thursday, May 4th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

A growing number of people are exploring alternatives to monogamy, through swinging, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. If you or someone you know are one of those people, this might be the workshop for you!

Whether you are curious about opening up, already enjoying polyamory and wanting to do it even better, or facing obstacles in your non-monogamous relationship, AJ will help walk you through the challenges and benefits of ethical non-monogamy. She will discuss different styles of open relationships, talk about how to deal with common issues such as jealousy, resentment, time management, miscommunication, and New Relationship Energy (NRE), and will offer tips on dating/meeting new people, navigating different relationship structures and hierarchies, and coming out poly.

In this interactive workshop, AJ will guide participants through exercises that help them negotiate agreements/boundaries, design their own ideal open relationships, and practice nonviolent communication for deeper, more fulfilling connections. There will also be the option to hear about real-life triumphs and tribulations of other non-mono people in addition to learning how to find and build community. This is a 2-hour class.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a relationship coach, working with polyamorous individuals and couples in open relationships. AJ is an active member of the Portland poly community.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

Feb
12

Exploring Burlesque: Striptease Salon

Wednesday, April 26th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Have you ever wanted to rock your boa? Peel your stocking? Shimmy your hips? Get your glamour puss on because this class is for you! Join Orchestre L’Pow producer Madison Moone for Striptease Salon, a flirty evening of classic bump and grind perfect for beginners or just the curious.

Students will be guided through a sexy burlesque movement study including bumps, grinds and struts, followed by a tantalizing round of peeling techniques and prop dancing. We will also explore classic burlesque characters before constructing a series of short teases as a group. Together, we will discover a deeper sense of our personal erotic being while developing a greater appreciation for our feminine power!

Students should dress in comfortable clothes such a yoga or dance wear. Music and demo props will be provided by Miss Moone. All levels of fitness welcome, no dance experience or nudity required. Please avoid alcohol consumption before attending and arrive by 7:20 p.m. — class will begin promptly at 7:30 p.m., no late entrance after 7:45 p.m. No photographs are permitted. There will be time for shopping after the class!

Grab your best girlfriends and join Miss Moone for an evening of fun, laughs and celebration of the female spirit. See you in class!

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

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