Jan
20

Anal Pleasure 101 with Tristan Taormino

Monday, February 14th – 7:30 p – $25

In her most popular workshop, one she has taught around the world for over 10 years, Tristan introduces you to the world of anal pleasure. In this funny, educational class, she covers a wide variety of topics, including: myths about anal sex; anal anatomy, the G-spot, and the prostate; basic preparation and hygiene; lubes, anal toys, and safer sex; anal penetration for beginners, and much more! Learn the facts about this exciting, yet often misunderstood, form of pleasure and get all your questions answered.

This workshop is open to all genders and sexual appetites. Extra incentive: we will be giving away a few 100% silicone butt plugs from Tantus!

For more on Tristan, read her bio here.

Please call She Bop to reserve your spot – 503.473.8018

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Jan
20

The Expert Guide to Female Orgasms with Tristan Taormino

Sunday, February 13th – 7:30 p – $25

Dive into the diverse, complex, and beautiful world of female pleasure and orgasm with renowned sex expert Tristan Taormino. Do you want to have your first orgasm? Do you have trouble achieving orgasm alone or with a partner? Do you want to teach your partner how to help you have an orgasm during sex? Do you want to have better, longer, easier, or more intense orgasms? From anatomy and arousal to external stimulation and penetration techniques, Tristan will show you the ins and outs of female pleasure and satisfaction.

You’ll learn about: the phases of the female arousal cycle and how they vary; different types of orgasms; the best vibrators for pleasure and orgasm; clitoral stimulation techniques – oral, manual, and with a vibrator; G-spot toys and stimulation techniques; squirting orgasms; how to have an orgasm during vaginal intercourse; and anal sex and orgasmic possibilities. Plus, an extensive Q&A where you’re encouraged to ask Tristan anything!

This workshop is open to all genders and sexual appetites.

For more on Tristan, read her bio here.

Please call She Bop to reserve your spot – 503.473.8018

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Jan
5

“Can I become addicted to my vibrator?”

If you worry that using a vibrator can desensitize you or lessen your enjoyment of other sexual activity, do not fear. Vibrator addiction is a myth, just like many other sexual myths borne of cultural stigma (remember when masturbation was thought to cause blindness?).

Misconceptions about sex toys — like that they can replace partners, for instance — are at the root of the myth that people can become addicted to vibrators. Unfortunately, popular culture isn’t helping. While vibrator usage became more mainstream when Sex and the City featured Charlotte enjoying a rabbit vibrator, the episode simultaneously perpetuated the vibrator addiction myth when her friends had to stage an “intervention.”

Part of the issue is the word “addiction.” This word has extremely negative connotations, and most clinical definitions characterize addiction as something harmful and compulsive. There is nothing harmful about using a vibrator. While it is possible for a person to become obsessed with any object or behavior, there is nothing about vibrators in particular that evokes this kind of attachment, just as there was nothing in particular about Beanie Babies that made people collect them like mad!

It may be useful to view vibrator usage as a sexual preference. Humans are quick to fall into sexual patterns; in fact, our bodies grow nerve pathways in response to stimulation. You can become accustomed to the type of stimulation that a vibrator provides, or how quickly it gets you off. You can fall into a routine with your vibrator just as you can fall into a routine with partnered sex (the same foreplay, the same positions, etc). Your body will come to expect certain triggers in order to orgasm, but these triggers can always be re-established by switching up your sexual patterns and finding new ways to experience pleasure.

If you were orgasmic in other ways before trying a vibrator, you will retain that capability after using one. If you have only had orgasms with a vibrator, that’s okay too — it may be that your body requires a certain type of stimulation. Some women simply need strong stimulation for an extended period of time in order to orgasm, and hands and mouths often cannot provide that. Otherwise, you can always experiment with other sexual play that feels good to you; over time, your body will adapt and orgasm may follow.

If you are concerned about becoming accustomed to one type of stimulation, try switching to manual stimulation every once in a while, or buy a new sex toy that offers a unique sensation, like the Sqweel or Eroscillator. If you feel like you’re relying on your vibrator more than you’d like, retire it for a period of time and test some new techniques.

Some women worry that the vibrations from a sex toy could numb or desensitize them over time or permanently. This is untrue. Vibrator use will not damage your tissue or nerves. An extended session with a very powerful toy (like the popular Hitachi Magic Wand) can cause temporary numbness or desensitivity, but this sensation will dissipate after a short rest period. Numbness can also occur if you tend to push down on your genitals with your vibrator. This sort of numbness is akin to your hand or foot falling asleep — which happens when nerve endings become fatigued — and it is harmless. The blood will return to your genitals and all will be well again.

If you find yourself going numb while using a vibrator, try moving the toy around and varying the amount of pressure you use. Or place a towel between yourself and the toy to dull the vibrations. You can also wean yourself off of a very powerful toy by practicing with slightly weaker ones.

Will vibrator usage harm your partnered sex life? Far from it! In fact, at least one study has shown that people who use vibrators report fewer problems with sexual function. Using a vibrator can help you understand your body, which can improve the sex you have with others. Vibrators can also be a great complement to partnered sex. They can be especially helpful to the many women who have difficulty achieving orgasm during intercourse. Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasms has some great suggestions for incorporating vibrators into partnered sex.

In short, vibrators are not at all harmful, neither physically nor emotionally, and they will not stop you from having the wonderful sex you want to have.

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Jan
4

Strap-on Play For You and Your Lover – Sunday, January 23rd – 7:30p – $20

She penetrates he.
She penetrates she.
He penetrates he.
He penetrates she.
They penetrates them.

Regardless of what you’ve got going on in your underwear, there are throngs of us who love to wield dildos to bring our partners to breathtaking ecstasy. Hot only begins to describe the sensuous adventure that using a harness (strap-on) and dildo or butt plug is. But which strap? Which dildo? Which orifice? What’s all this fuss about butt plugs? And really, how do you do it, anyway?

With humor, clarity, and straight talk, sex educator and coach Felice Shays will guide you through how to choose gear, communicate with your partner, provide tips and techniques for being penetrated with ease and pleasure, build confidence in the giver, explain how to assuage the receiver’s fears, discuss butt facts, myths, safety and cleanliness, and loads more.

Expand your sexual horizons, fulfill roles and fantasies, dress the gender you know yourself to be, find new ways to fill hungry holes, and deepen your intimacy and ways of communicating with your lover. Come discover the delicious world of better sex with harnesses and dildos!

All singles and couples of all genders and sexual appetites always welcome. Bring your questions and your curiosity.

Limited space available – Please call She Bop to reserve your spot – (503) 473-8018

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Jan
4

Exploring Burlesque: Striptease Salon – Wednesday, January 12th – 7:15p – $15

Have you ever wanted to rock your boa? Peel your stocking? Shimmy your hips? Get your glamour puss on because this class is for you! Join Portland’s Queen of the Tease, Madison Moone, for Striptease Salon, a flirty evening of classic bump and grind perfect for beginners or just the curious.

Students will be guided through a sexy burlesque movement study including bumps, grinds and struts, followed by a tantalizing round of peeling techniques and prop dancing. We will also explore classic burlesque characters before constructing a series of short teases as a group. Together, we will discover a deeper sense of our personal erotic beings while developing a greater appreciation of our feminine power!

Students should dress in comfortable clothes such a yoga or dance wear. Please bring your favorite heels, your prettiest bra and a zip up or button down blouse for layering. Music and demo props will be provided by Miss Moone. All levels of fitness welcome, no dance experience or nudity required. Please avoid alcohol consumption before attending and arrive by 7:15pm – class will begin promptly at 7:30pm, no late entrance after 7:45pm. Also no photographs are permitted. There will be time for shopping after the class!

Grab your best girlfriends and join Miss Moone for and evening of fun, laughs and celebration of the female spirit. See you in class!

Limited space available – Call She Bop to reserve your spot – 503.473.8018

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Dec
18

She Bop’s Picks: Gifts and Stocking Stuffers

If you’re currently pondering what to get your significant other this holiday season, She Bop has you covered! Here are our top picks for sexy holiday gift-giving and stocking-stuffing. Visit us in person or peruse our online store to snatch these up.

We-Vibe 2

The We-Vibe 2 is the ultimate couples’ vibrator, and it just came out in a stunning ruby red! The U shape of the We-Vibe allows for simultaneous clitoral and G-spot stimulation, and the 100% silicone ensures a comfortable fit. This versatile vibe can be used solo or during sex; nine vibration modes will give you plenty to explore with each other. And admittedly, it’s fun to buy gifts that benefit the giver as well as the receiver! For a cute presentation, hook the We-Vibe 2 over the top of a stocking.

Tenga Eggs

These adorable little self-contained masturbation sleeves would look awesome tumbling out of an overturned stocking. Each plastic egg contains a super-stretchy masturbation sleeve and a packet of lube. There are several styles of inner texture to choose from — is your significant other a Twister or a Clicker?

Erika Lust films

Erika Lust doesn’t just make porn — she makes erotic films teeming with romance and authenticity. Five Hot Stories For Her, a collection of five sexy and believable scenarios, won Best Movie of the Year at the 2008 Feminist Porn Awards. Life Love Lust follows in the footsteps of Five Hot Stories, delivering three more uniquely passionate and genuine sex scenes. And Lust’s erotic documentary, the Barcelona Sex Project, is a fun exploration in solo pleasure.

Fun Factory Ocean

This petite, swirly vibe is a great introduction to rabbit vibrators. Made of hygienic 100% silicone, the Ocean is supple and ergonomic, with a “wave” for the G-spot and a “wave” for clitoral stimulation. The Ocean features 4 vibration intensities and 3 pulsation modes, and best of all — it’s fully waterproof! Give your significant other a taste of summer with this adorable toy.

Afterglow Candle

Jimmyjane’s high-end Afterglow Candles — which come in unique, delicious scents such as Bourbon and Cucumber Water — will definitely give your significant other a hint about your desires. These candles even double as massage oils; just tip the candle, drizzle the warm wax over skin, and massage away.

She Bop T-shirts and undies

Do you love She Bop? Surprise your significant other with a She Bop T-shirt or some cute underwear! We have two styles of shirt — Scoop Neck and Fine Jersey — and two styles of underwear — panty and unisex — to suit every taste. Come on down to the shop to browse our selection.

Nipple clamps

If your significant other is into a little kink, nipple clamps could really rock their world. We even carry three varieties of vibrating nipple clamps, like the ones pictured above. Plus, clamps can be attached to a stocking in a variety of amusing ways.

LELO Mia or Gigi

You really can’t go wrong with a gift or stocking stuffer from luxury sex toy company LELO. A perfect stocking stuffer, the LELO Mia is a compact, lipstick-shaped clitoral vibe that charges via USB and packs quite a punch. For an even more glamorous option, there’s the LELO Gigi, a legendary and very popular G-spot vibrator that can be used clitorally as well. Both toys come in sleek, black gift boxes, so they can even be gifted in their original boxes.

Porn parodies

You might already be getting your significant other a Seinfeld DVD set, but what about Seinfeld: A XXX Parody? Mixing sex with belly-aching laughs, the recent boom in porn parodies has spawned such hilarious gems as The Sex Files and The Big Lebowski: A XXX Parody. Choose the perfect one to accompany your significant other’s movie or TV show addiction.

Sliquid Sea lube

This innovative new water-based lube from Sliquid contains natural seaweed extracts, all of which have health and healing benefits. One such extract is carrageenan, which has been shown to reduce the transmission of HPV (Human Pappilomavirus). These extracts are blended with Sliquid’s natural H20 lubricant, and the result is a perfectly-textured and body-friendly lube unlike anything else on the market. Stick a bottle of Sliquid Sea in a stocking, and your significant other will be impressed with it both as a lube and as a health-conscious product.

Sex at Dawn book

Eye-opening and controversial, Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality is a book that seeks to unearth the truth about sexuality and the human species. It debunks the myth that humans are predisposed to monogamy, and explores other issues related to fidelity, sex, marriage, and love. An enlightening read that could open up new lines of communication within your relationship.

Naughty Autie’s Aprons and Gothfox pasties

We at She Bop are very excited about Naughty Autie’s Aprons; these lovely and flirty aprons are handmade in Portland, Oregon, and are perfect for a sexy cook or anyone who needs a place to keep their “utensils.” To top off the outfit, add some gorgeous Gothfox pasties. Our online store carries the Peacock Baby, Raspberry Ripple, and Couture Starbust pasties, but you can find even more in our Portland shop.

Batteries and condoms

Still need to fill some space in that stocking you’re stuffing? Throw in some condoms (we suggest One condoms for their colorful and unique packaging) or batteries. They’ll surely be put to good use, and besides, they’ll look great among the candy.

Nov
30

“What are phthalates?”

At She Bop, every sex toy we carry is completely body-safe and phthalate-free. But what on earth are phthalates, and why do we want our sex toys to be free of them?

Besides having a perplexing name (pronounced “thal-ates”), phthalates are a family of chemicals used to soften hard plastics. In the realm of sex toys, they are often the reason that cheap sex toys are squishy, smelly, and… potentially toxic.

Although we may not know it, phthalates are not foreign to us. They are present in a variety of everyday stuff: paints, deodorants, shower curtains, nail polish, vinyl floors, and even food (most likely because they can leach out of food processing machinery and food packaging). However, troubling research on phthalates has cast doubt on whether phthalates are as innocuous as they once seemed.

It is well-known that phthalates have a tendency to “off-gas” — escape from the plastic in the form of a gas. They also seep out in an oily film, which can be absorbed through skin, mouths, and mucous membranes.

In particular, researchers are worried about what phthalates could do to children. Canada, Europe, and the U.S. have all enacted bans on children’s toys that contain certain levels of phthalates (for example, Congress banned the sale of children’s toys and baby products that contain more than 0.1% of certain phthalates). The tendency of phthalates to off-gas is particularly scary, since children put toys in their mouths.

Unfortunately, there is a complete lack of government regulation within the sex toy industry (ever notice that ominous phrase, “for novelty use only,” on sex toy packaging?), so companies are free to use whichever materials they please. For some companies, this means using phthalates to cut production costs. Greenpeace Netherlands conducted a study in 2006 in which they tested eight sex toys and found that seven of them contained phthalates, in concentrations ranging from 24 to 51 percent of the toys’ composition. Compared to the 0.1% ban enacted by Congress, this is more than a little disturbing.

In a similar study conducted in 2000, a German chemist named Hans Ulrich Krieg identified ten dangerous chemicals gassing out of European sex toys, including phthalates. He found some toys that had phthalate concentrations as high as 243,000 parts per million. Krieg said, “I have been doing this analysis of consumer goods for more than 10 years, and I’ve never seen such high results.”

Can phthalates in sex toys cause health issues?

The jury is still out on whether phthalates in sex toys pose a risk to our health, but studies have shown that very large doses of phthalates may cause liver damage, kidney damage, hormonal disruption, reproductive organ damage, and liver cancer. More than one study has linked high levels of phthalate exposure in the womb and through breast milk to male reproductive issues. Minute levels of some phthalates have been linked to sperm damage in men; this has caused speculation about whether phthalates are to blame for a huge drop in male fertility over the past few decades.

Other studies are less frightening: one report from the Danish Environmental Protection Agency indicates that there are no major health risks if a person uses sex toys containing phthalates for an hour or less per day. Pregnant or nursing individuals, however, are advised against “heavy usage.”

Anecdotal evidence tells us more than most studies do. If you’ve ever experienced a burning, itching, or an uncomfortable sensation after using a sex toy, it may very well be due to the phthalate content.

And there are other reasons to avoid phthalates in sex toys. These toys are always porous, which means they tend to trap bacteria on the surface of the toy. They can never be fully sterilized, and over time, they will break down.

We simply don’t know what the long-term effects of continued exposure to sex toys containing phthalates may be. Considering that sex toys come into direct contact with mucous membranes, through which substances can be absorbed, there is reason to be concerned — especially when it comes to butt plugs and other toys that are meant to be worn for extended periods of time.

How do I know if a sex toy contains phthalates?

The biggest telltale sign of phthalates is smell: if a sex toy smells strongly like a new shower curtain, it probably contains phthalates. Sometimes the smell is so intense that it can linger on your fingers after you’ve held the toy. Often, the smell cannot be washed out, or it takes a vat of bleach to do so.

Worse signs can crop up later on. Sometimes a greasy sweat will appear on the surface of the toy. Over time, the toy may decompose into a sort of goo, and can melt into other toys that it touches.

Of course, if you are shopping for a sex toy, none of these signs can be observed unless you are able to handle the toy before buying it. While you can definitely handle the toys if you come visit She Bop, we have already done the research for you: absolutely none of the toys we carry contain phthalates. Anything you purchase either in person at She Bop or from our online store will be body-safe and phthalate-free.

What can I do if I think one of my sex toys contains phthalates?

You should cover the toy in a condom each time you use it. Always clean the toy with antibacterial soap. After use, store the toy out of sunlight and away from other sex toys and plastics. If the surface of your toy becomes dull, the material may be breaking down, and you should probably throw the toy out.

If you’re on the hunt to replace an old toy, look for toys made of 100% silicone — pure silicone toys are soft, non-porous, and completely body-safe. Replacing a rabbit? Try the Rabbit Habit, which is made of phthalate-free elastomer, or the Ina, which is covered in silky pure silicone. If you’re pinching pennies, opt for a hard plastic vibrator made of ABS plastic (not PVC). And remember, every toy in our catalog is phthalate-free, so shop with confidence.

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Nov
24

Exploring Burlesque 201: The Construction of the Tease – Wed, Dec 8th – 7:15p – $15

Back by popular demand, Portland burlesque artist and producer Lori Madison brings you the second installment of the Exploring Burlesque series.  In this class, Miss Madison will share the trade secrets of her glamorous alter ego Madison Moone.

Students will be guided through a brief burlesque movement study including bumps, grinds, struts and prop dancing before exploring the construction of a tease. The group will examine how to properly stage concepts for the intimate setting of the burlesque stage, as well as popular peeling techniques including the stocking tease, bottom peels and the graceful removal of undergarments. Students will also discover helpful tips and tricks when dealing with troublesome closures such as zippers, buttons and bra hooks.

Dress in comfortable clothes such a yoga or dance wear. Please bring your favorite heels, your prettiest bra and a zip up or button down blouse for layering. Music and demo props will be provide by Miss Moone. All levels of fitness welcome, no dance experience or nudity required. Grab your best girlfriends and join Miss Moone for and evening of fun, laughs and celebration of the female spirit.

No cameras/photographs permitted.  Please arrive at 7:15p – class begins promptly at 7:30p.  There will be time at the end of class for shopping too!

Limited space available – Call She Bop to reserve your spot – 503.473.8018

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Nov
11

HUMP! 2010 Contest Winners

These are two very different stories about how porn played a positive role in two different relationships. The first story, while hilarious, also shows how porn can allow people to push past their inhibitions and be more adventurous. Incorporating porn into couples play or solo play can increase intensity and pleasure. The second story emphasizes that porn is not just for guys, women love porn too, especially now that there is more porn produced by and for women, and not just the soft stuff.

At She Bop we love to help people experience more excitement and pleasure in their lives. Thanks everyone for your entries and taking part in our contest and congrats to the winners (who requested to stay anonymous) who will be attending HUMP! this weekend. Have fun!

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Nov
8

She Bop’s 1 Year Anniversary Party!

It’s hard to believe that it’s been almost a year since we opened our doors, and an amazing year at that! We are so grateful for all the support we have received from all of our wonderful customers, neighbors and friends.

Come join us on Black Friday, November 26th, from 8pm – 10pm at She Bop (909 N. Beech St, Portland, OR 97227) for some yummy treats, fun prizes and of course some bubbly!

Thanks everybody for a great year — and many more to come!!!

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