Mar
12

Back That Ass Up!: Anal Sex 101

Wednesday, May 27th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

AJ (aka Amory Jane)Are you interested in anal pleasure but not sure where to get started? Already tried anal play but wanting to learn some fun tricks and techniques? Whether you’re brand new to the wonderful world of anal or already have some backdoor experience, this class is sure to teach you something new!

In this educational and humorous workshop, AJ will confront taboos, go over anal anatomy, prostate, and the G-spot, discuss anal penetration for beginners, and show great positions for anal sex. She’ll also cover safety and hygiene and give you the inside scoop on all the best lubes and anal toys! This class is open to all genders and sexual appetites.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a sex-positive relationship coach.

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Mar
12

Beyond Monogamy

AJ (aka Amory Jane) Sunday, May 3rd — 7:30 p.m. — $20

A growing number of people are exploring alternatives to monogamy, through swinging, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. If you or someone you know are one of those people, this might be the workshop for you!

Whether you are curious about opening up, already enjoying polyamory and wanting to do it even better, or facing obstacles in your non-monogamous relationship, AJ will help walk you through the challenges and benefits of ethical non-monogamy. She will discuss different styles of open relationships, talk about how to deal with common issues such as jealousy, resentment, time management, miscommunication, and New Relationship Energy (NRE), and will offer tips on dating/meeting new people, navigating different relationship structures and hierarchies, and coming out poly.

In this interactive workshop, AJ will guide participants through exercises that help them negotiate agreements/boundaries, design their own ideal open relationships, and practice nonviolent communication for deeper, more fulfilling connections. There will also be the option to hear about real-life triumphs and tribulations of other non-mono people in addition to learning how to find and build community. This is a 2-hour class.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a relationship coach, working with polyamorous individuals and couples in open relationships. AJ is an active member of the Portland poly community.

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Mar
1

A productivity app for the poly community

The Poly Life appThe single biggest myth that polyamorous people have to dispel constantly: it’s not all about sex. Being in a non-monogamous relationship does not translate to “orgy.” In fact, most of the time it just translates to “tons of communication and inordinate use of Google Calendar.”

That’s why the new phone app The Poly Life has two benefits: it helps poly folks stay organized, and its existence fights misconceptions against the poly community.

The Poly Life is the brainchild of an anonymous polyamorous quad, brought to life by app developer Christine Tseng. They all came together after the family had been in contact with Natalia Garcia, the producer of Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating. The family had to reschedule their Skype session with Garcia more than once, prompting them to joke that they needed an app to keep them in line. Garcia name-dropped Tseng, and things took off from there.

Tseng had previously only created games, so she was thrilled by the idea of stepping out of her comfort zone to develop an app for the poly community. She also knew there was no competition, since The Poly Life was not a dating app or a hook-up app (really, it’s a productivity app). Tseng and the family spent a year working on the app before releasing it.

Some features of the app tackle logistics: a shared calendar, a chat function, a map, a to do list. Others help define parameters in the relationships, such as rules, boundaries, and statuses — allowing for updates and changes over time. All of these features are private except for the “Poly Fun” section, which allows users to publicly share events with the broader poly community.

A member of the family behind the app explained a fun use for the “Agreements” section of the app:

I drive my wife crazy with my laundry. I’m a bit messy and tend to throw my dirty clothes on the floor. So she sent me an agreement, “If all of your clothes make it into the hamper this week, we’ll do a group date night of your choice.” I had to press the agree or disagree button and, of course, I agreed! That agreement stayed in my phone as a reminder and for the most part, all of my dirty clothes made it into the hamper. Although we use the agreements mostly for relationship and sexual boundaries, we want to remind everyone to think outside of the box. This app has been a really fun way to make the mundane interesting and to have fun with each other.

Progress toward mainstream acceptance of polyamory is slow, but apps like The Poly Life, along with classesarticlesinterviews, and stories all contribute toward a better, more nuanced understanding of what being polyamorous means.

Sometimes, it just means delegating someone to pick up milk on their way home.

Feb
26

Foolin’ Around with Emily Nagoski & Erika Moen (Scarleteen Fundraiser)

Erika Moen & Emily Nagoski

Wednesday, April 1st — 7:30 pm — FREE

4/1 might be April Fools Day, but we’re not joking around — educator Emily Nagoski and cartoonist Erika Moen really will be joining forces at She Bop for a fun and special evening of education, laughs, and sex geekery! Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. will be reading from her brand new book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, which was illustrated by Erika Moen of Oh Joy Sex Toy. Both Emily and Erika will be answering your questions about sex, science, relationships, and sex toys.

This event is free, but you can purchase raffle tickets online or in the shop for $5 each to help raise funds for Scarleteen, an inclusive, smart sexuality education website for young people. The night will conclude with a raffle for some sweet prizes, including a signed copy of Emily’s book, She Bop gift certificates, and even a custom cartoon portrait drawn by Erika Moen!

Raffle winners will be drawn at the event and must be present to win. If you wish to simply donate, make a note at checkout that you won’t be present at the event. Proceeds from the raffle will go directly to Scarleteen!

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Feb
12

Full-Bodied Fellatio

Sunday, April 12th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

What do you do when your partner lacks blowjob skills? Where do you go for training when you wish to improve your own? Here!

M. Makael Newby is a relationship coach and dance instructor with a particular skill for breaking physical action into components and teaching them with enthusiasm… and blowjobs are one of her favorite things. This class will educate both the givers and receivers. Come learn about creating anticipation, communication, preparing for success, hand skills, tongue tricks, prostate massage, deep throating, sloppy BJs, choking and forced gagging for both bio and strap-on penises. Live demo (on dildo) included.

Many of these techniques are included in My Erotic Adventure, her choose-your-own styled erotic novel. Get empowered to give and receive extraordinary head!

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Feb
1

She Bop’s Picks: Valentine’s Day

The annual day of love is right around the corner — and you know we have the goods to help you celebrate in style! Sometimes, though, it can be hard to find just the right gift to woo someone with, or the perfect thing to splurge on for yourself. So we’ve rounded up our top recommendations for sexy items to make this Valentine’s Day memorable (and pleasurable!).

Check out last year’s picks, and our picks from 20132012, and 2011 for even more ideas.

Crave Vesper necklace

Crave Vesper necklace

A lot of folks like to receive beautiful jewelry as a gift, but this is no ordinary necklace — the Vesper is also a fully functional vibrator. Made with sparkling stainless steel, this vibrator from Crave can compliment someone’s look and give them an orgasm at the end of the night. Awesomely, it has three speeds, one pulsation pattern, and it’s USB rechargeable.

Fun Factory ShareVibe

Fun Factory ShareVibe

Double-ended dildos are perfect for couples, and Fun Factory’s new ShareVibe ups the ante on what a double-ended dildo can be. Modeled after their popular Share dildo, the ShareVibe is designed so that one partner can wear the bulb end vaginally in order to penetrate someone else with the shaft — with or without a harness. True to its name, the ShareVibe comes with a multi-function rechargeable bullet vibrator that fits snugly in its base. Since the bullet is removable, it can even be used sans dildo.

Kissing: A Field Guide

Kissing: A Field Guide

What’s more romantic than a good, old-fashioned kiss? In this pint-sized guide by sexpert Violet Blue, there are tips for all kinds of kissing scenarios. Learn how to give and receive a first kiss, time your kisses perfectly, read body language, and cultivate your own kissing style. Kissing: A Field Guide is a cute, back-to-basics book that will remind you to pause and appreciate the power of a kiss.

Minna Limon

Minna Limon

From photos, you can’t tell what the Limon‘s true superpower is, but this toy actually has squishy sides that react to touch. The harder you squeeze, the stronger the vibration it produces, and there’s even a mode in which you can “record” your own custom vibration pattern and play it back. This interactive functionality makes the Limon a wonderful toy for couples to explore and use together.

Fun Factory B Balls

Fun Factory B Balls

Just another butt plug? Nope! The Fun Factory B Balls have two inner balls that roll around with movement, adding unique stimulation to your anal play, while the silicone body and flared base make this toy safe and comfortable to wear. Whether you wear the B Balls as a prelude to anal sex or simply for fun during everyday activities, they are sure to put some pep in you or your partner’s step!

OhMiBod blueMotion

OhMiBod blueMotion

The OhMiBod blueMotion is one of only a few sex toys on the market that can be controlled remotely. And we don’t just mean from across the room — we mean from across the country. The slim, ABS plastic vibrator is meant to slide effortlessly into underwear for hands-free clitoral stimulation. Meanwhile, a partner can create vibration patterns by tapping their phone’s screen in a rhythm, recording their voice, physically tilting their phone, and more. Excellent for long-distance relationships!

Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet & Balm Set

Bettie Page Buzzin' Bullet & Balm Set

Good, solid vibrators don’t have to cost a ton, the Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet is a great example. This shiny, smooth vibe takes 2 AAAs and features three vibration intensities and three modes. Controlled by a simple push button on its base, the Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet performs admirably whether it’s used clitorally or vaginally. Plus, it comes with a tin of minty arousal balm and some Bettie Page themed trinkets!

Filthy Farmgirl Filthy Valentine soap

Filthy Valentine soap

Filthy Farmgirl’s soaps are basically irresistible. Not only do they smell amazing, but they have amusing names accompanied by adorable labels. This seasonal soap smells like cardamom rose, but there are other options if your valentine is more of a ylang ylang type of person, for instance.

OhMiBod Lovelife Cuddle

OhMiBod Lovelife Cuddle

At first blush, it may seem like we’ve included the Cuddle simply because it’s pink and comes in heart-printed packaging. All of this is true, but the glory of Cuddle is in its functionality. This vibrator is jam-packed with vibration intensities and scalable patterns, and its petite curved shape makes it ideal for clitoral or G-spot stimulation. As an added bonus, it is one of the most inexpensive rechargeable vibrators on our shelves, because it’s splashproof rather than fully waterproof.

Feb
1

New product round-up for January

LELO Mona Wave and Ina Wave

When it comes to new technological innovations, LELO is always coming up with something exciting. This month it’s the Mona Wave and Ina Wave, based on their popular Mona and Ina vibrators. These unique toys have shafts that physically move up and down, mimicking a “come hither” motion against the G-spot.

LELO also released an upgraded version of one of their classic vibrators: Siri 2. We’re thrilled that this toy is now waterproof and more powerful than before! It even has a sound-responsive setting, enabling the toy to vibrate to any music playing in its vicinity.

We have several other new toys — the Crave Vesper, OhMiBod Lovelife Cuddle, Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet, and Fun Factory ShareVibe — which are featured in our Valentine’s Day Picks. Visit that post for more information about each!

New DVDs from Erika Lust and Courtney Trouble

Prolific feminist porn maker Erika Lust just released the third installment of her DVD series X Confessions. With stories based on anonymous sex confessions submitted to her site, this compilation features group sex, roleplay, outdoor sex, ice play, strap-on sex, and more! We also picked up some delicious new queer porn from Courtney TroubleFucking MysticFuckstyles 2: Dirty Fucks, and Trans Lesbians.

Our latest books include Best Women’s Erotica 2015, Kissing: A Field GuideAs Kinky As You Wanna Be: Your Guide to Safe, Sane, and Smart BDSM, and the latest from the venerable senior sex expert Joan Price, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty. The new Original Plumbing is the Selfie Issue, featuring reader-submitted photos and ruminations on trans portrayals in popular culture!

Finally, just in time for Valentine’s Day, we snagged some of Filthy Farmgirl’s fabulous Filthy Valentine soap! The scent is cardamom rose, and it is lovely.

Jan
29

Good porn for women: it exists!

Cover of Erika Lust's film, HandcuffsJournalists, especially those not familiar with the adult industry, can sometimes make sweeping statements that aren’t exactly correct. For example, it is common for a mainstream journalist or blogger to off-handedly lament that there is no porn out there for women.

That’s what happened when Nikki Gloudeman wrote an article at Ravishly arguing that she couldn’t find any tasteful, well-acted porn for women. While she conceded that feminist porn does exist, she insisted that all of it was “decidedly low-budget and short on a truly compelling plotline.”

This isn’t true, and readers and porn filmmakers alike rushed in with evidence to the contrary. A month later, Gloudeman wrote a follow-up post. “I was wrong. Very wrong. Shamefully wrong,” she wrote. She was sent a box of DVDs from Jacky St. James, director of New Sensations’ Romance Series.

I immediately curled up on the couch to watch a rom-com sex romp called The Friend Zone. And, well . . . it was good. Like, really good. It had legitimate production values. The acting ranged from just fine to truly impressive. The script was funnier than most mainstream rom-coms in theaters today (Hollywood producers, take note). And . . . what’s this? Is that a sex scene involving people who actually seem to care about one another? Is that woman being respected as she’s being pleasured? Is that a condom I see?

The experience was, in a word, a revelation, satisfying in every desired way.

With this new world opened up, Gloudemen set out to interview several women doing great things within the adult industry. She talked to two producers of adult DVDs, Erika Lust and Jacky St. James, and two owners of erotic websites, Angie Rowntree of Sssh.com and Anna of FrolicMe.com.

Rowntree began in the mid-’90s, when everyone told her there was no market for women’s porn, and she has been steadily proving them wrong ever since. Anna started with an erotic blog, which then morphed into writing stories and making films with the same sensual aesthetic. Lust studied political science and took film directing classes before shooting her first erotic short, which was so popular it changed the course of her life. Jacky St. James, an avid porn consumer, happened upon a script-writing contest for New Sensations’ Romance Series. The company loved her submission, and she soon quit her corporate job to write and direct full-time.

Ultimately, all four women were dissatisfied with some facet of the erotic material they consumed (as Erika Lust put it: “when I first watched porn the feminist in me felt cheated, the activist in me felt mad and the sexual me felt . . . aroused”), and that is part of what drives them to make something different.

Gloudemen asked each of them about their personal histories with porn, their goals and ideals with their work, what they think about the word “porn,” and where feminism fits in with what they do. The interview is full of amazing and thoughtful answers, but Rowntree’s response to the question “why is it important for women to have access to adult films that resonate with them?” is particularly insightful:

One of the criticisms I hear the most about the porn industry is that its products objectify women and present us in a very unflattering way—and that’s true of a lot of porn. To me, though, the answer isn’t to protest the porn industry, try to get porn censored, or even to spend a lot of time and energy trying to convince people that porn is bad. To me, the answer is to make better porn. The answer is to make porn that does present women in a good light, that does depict true intimacy and that does emphasize mutual pleasure, instead of reducing the women it depicts to being mere objects of men’s pleasure.

All four women urged readers to always keep looking if they can’t find porn that appeals to them. Go beyond tube sites and rudimentary Google searches. Peruse the nominees and winners of the Feminist Porn Awards. Visit sex shops and ask questions. It’s out there, and it’s really well-done — you just have to dig a little bit deeper.

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Jan
29

Renaming Desire: Trans/Non-Trans Sex Revisited

Yoseñio V. Lewis

Thursday, April 23rd — 7:30 pm — $20

Even in 2015 the notion of sex between trans and non-trans people strikes fear and curiosity in many queer people. For trans people, how to come out and express one’s desire and physical/mental make up to a non-trans person remains a monumental hurdle. For non-trans people, how to acknowledge, accept and engage in a mutual sexual attraction with a trans person and risk rejection from various communities remains a hurdle. Within those concerns lie the issues of exoticization, race, class, and plain old sexual mechanics!

Our goals in this workshop are to provide an open atmosphere for people to address these issues, as well as to look at the state of sex-positivity in the queer movement. We encourage people to attend, learn, and go away from the workshop having gained insight into how to have responsible, meaningful and FUN sex!

Yoseñio V. Lewis is a Latino of African Descent female to male transsexual who has been a social justice activist since he was 13 years old. A health educator, speaker, writer, performer, trainer, facilitator and spiritual hugger, Yoseñio has been a panelist and keynote speaker at numerous universities and sexuality conferences. He was one of the inaugural honorees of The Trans 100 list.

Yoseñio is a co-founder of Big Boys’ Ink™ Productions, a theatrical writing and performing company, and he has been featured in several documentaries about gender identity and the trans* experience.

Yoseñio believes that there can be no art without activism and no activism without art.

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Jan
29

Bon Appetit!: The Fine Art of Cunnilingus

Wednesday, March 18th — 7:30 pm — $20

You asked and we answered—She Bop presents a cunnilingus class for anyone and everyone who wants to learn how to give (or receive!) phenomenal oral pleasure.

She Bop educators, Amory Jane and Sid Need, will teach you everything you want to know about anatomy, arousal, hand tricks, and tongue techniques. They will discuss foreplay, communication, and finding your own cunnilingus style, as well as give pointers on how to incorporate toys, temperature, and g-spot stimulation. Additionally, our educators will talk about fun ways to kick it up a notch if you’re stuck in a muff diving rut (face sitting, anyone?)!

This class is open to all genders, experience levels, and identities.

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