She Bop’s Picks: Valentine’s Day

Have you been struck by one of Cupid’s arrows and are looking for the perfect present for your beloved? Perhaps you want to impress a new partner, treat yourself to something sexy, or give the gift of pleasure to a favorite friend? Any time of year is great for sex toys, but with Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we thought we would put together a special guide with some of our top picks for this February.

Check out last year’s list, and our picks from 201620152014, and 2013 for even more ideas!

Stronic G

Stronic G

She Bop’s staff, Team Bop, has been excitedly waiting for the arrival of the Stronic G for quite some time. After experiencing the original Stronic Eins, it is safe to say that many of us began to “Trust the Thrust,” as was encouraged by Fun Factory on the promo material for their Stronic line. The Stronic pulsators don’t vibrate like traditional toys — they thrust back and forth — and can often be used for hands-free stimulation. Their patented technology means there literally is nothing else like them on the planet. So, if you are looking for a unique toy and something that offers the kind of movement and pressure that could previously only be provided by capable fingers, look no further!

Just like with every new Smartphone on the market, Stronic G has taken a thoroughly modern step in that it is lighter and slimmer than its predecessors. This sleeker design makes it more accessible and easier to hold, but that doesn’t mean it lacks in any power. It still has 10 movement settings that range from a slow trot to a quick rhythmic thrust that is enthusiastic yet completely consistent. Based on many positive reviews, you may even find that the Stronic G becomes your go-to toy for squirting adventures!


Vixen Creations has done it again — designing another innovative toy based on customer requests and feedback! People asked for a real-feel double-ended dildo, and Vixen delivered with the Peacemaker! This beauty was modeled after their original Nexus dildo, but handcrafted into something more by adding circumference and their legendary dual-density VixSkin. The realistic side of the toy has 6.5 inches of insertable length and is 1.9 inches in girth. It comes in three different skin colors and includes lifelike details that help it feel like an extension of the body (especially since VixSkin is known for warming and retaining body heat). The curved purple part of the toy is smoother in texture, good for fans of G-Spot stimulation, and measures at 5.25 inches insertable length by 1.5 girth.

The Peacemaker is a wonderful toy for couples, and works best when paired with a harness. Any harness with a double-ended dildo compatible design should do, but our recommendations are for the ultra comfortable and adjustable Joque, the sleek and minimalist Switch Leather Camryn, or the sturdy and lightweight Vegan Jaguar harness by Aslan.

Make Me Melt Wax Play CandlesMake Me Melt candles

If you want to do something extra HOT with your partner this Valentine’s Day, why not try wax play? The paraffin Make Me Melt Wax Play Candles are classic and inexpensive tools to add to any BDSM toy bag.  They are created to drip sensually on the body and provide just a touch of heat and sting upon contact. Once on the skin, the wax quickly cools and hardens, turning your lover’s body into an original Jackson Pollock-esque work of art.

If this kind of sensation play is new to you, pair the candles with The Toybag Guide to Hot Wax and Temperature Play for an adventurous and thoughtful gift all for under $25.

Element MSElement MS

The palm-sized Sir Richard’s Element MS may look like a stingray, but its supple silicone wings are smooth, comfortable, and accommodating. This toy enthusiastically proves that vibrators are not just for vulvas. It is made to stimulate the frenulum, a sensitive erogenous zone along the underside of the penis (or can be flipped around for extra base and shaft stimulation). Its flexibility and versatility also means it can be used with or without an erection.

The Element MS has five intensity levels and four vibration modes, and may be used solo or with a lover. Lube it up with a slick water-based gel for an incredible vibrating hand job. Enhancement ribs add extra stimulation with each stroke! It may also be worn around the penis during partner play, providing a curved and thrumming surface to ride on or rub against for waves of vibrating pleasure. The Element MS is waterproof and washable for easy cleanup, made from platinum medical-grade silicone, and is powered by a USB rechargeable high performance lithium battery.

XConfessions Volume 10

XConfessions Vol. 10

If you think the days of watching adult movies on DVD are over, you are truly missing out on some gorgeous and revolutionary porn! Famous erotic film director Erika Lust continues her award-winning XConfessions series, and XConfessions Vol. 10 is one of the most artistic and diverse volumes yet. While XConfessions originally started as a project on Erika Lust’s website, it has now grown into a global feminist porn movement, featuring guest directors and stars from all over the world.

Like Lust’s other volumes, XConfessions Vol. 10 includes ten explicit, beautiful, and imaginative short films. There is a dystopian science-fiction porn, a film featuring a bisexual foursome, scenes of stripping and voyeurism, and even a Wes Anderson style fantasy that was filmed in Barcelona and Berlin. If it wasn’t for all of the nudity and hot sex, you might forget you aren’t watching a highly nominated indie film. These are not your grainy online amateur videos (not that there is anything wrong with those). However, you can watch without the distraction of ads and poor lighting, and while knowing this porn was ethically made, directed by women, and inspired by fans.

Migliori Lubricant

Migliori lubricant

Still searching for a lube that feels amazing, moisturizes, is long-lasting, and can help increase pleasure and decrease discomfort? How about one of She Bop’s newest additions to our selection of lubricants? Migliori!

Migliori is a unique lubricant unlike anything else on the market. It looks mostly like a water-based gel, but is in fact a premium silicone-based formula with vitamins A, B6, D3, and E. Whereas most silicone lubes have a thin and slippery dry oil feel, Migliori is a thick and more full-bodied silicone lubricant that provides extraordinary glide and longevity. That means less drying and less reapplying. As an added bonus, it comes in a pretty teardrop-shaped glass bottle (with included velour travel bag). Note: Since this product is silicone-based, it is not compatible with silicone toys.

We-Vibe DittoWe-Vibe Ditto

Most of us have heard about the fantasy/scenario where a couple uses a remote-operated vibrator in public for a memorable Valentine’s date night. Well, now this kinky option is available for everyone, and is able to be more discreet than ever!

We-Vibe is known for luxury app-compatible toys that are geared toward couples, and the Ditto is their first remote-controlled vibrating butt plug! It is rechargeable, 100% waterproof, and comes with a 2-years manufacturer’s warranty. A lovely size for beginner to intermediate bottoms, the Ditto is made from smooth silicone and has a flexible neck for comfort. Its deep and rumbly vibrations mix with gentle pressure for amazing hands-free stimulation. Ideal for wearing out, wearing during sex, or for masturbation.

Choose from 10 preset vibration settings or create your own with the free We-Connect app. That means you or your partner can use either the slim pocket-sized remote or a smartphone to send sensations to one of your most sensitive spots — whether you’re sitting across the table from each other or you’re across the country!

Charged Remote Control Panty Vibe

Charged Remote Control Panty Vibe

Excited by the idea of a remote-operated vibrator but not into anal stimulation? We still have you covered — with the Charged Remote Control Panty Vibe! This vibrating bullet + underwear set goes above and beyond the panty vibes of yesteryear. For starters, the waterproof, 10-function Vooom bullet is USB rechargeable. It is also operated by a remote control that is disguised as a silicone finger ring. Tuck the bullet into the hidden pocket of the included side-tie lace panties (fits up to 60-inch waists) or use your own favorite pair of pocket undies to put vibrations exactly where you want them.

Do you like versatility and having options for your toys? The small standard size and shape of the Vooom vibrating bullet means that it can also fit in harnesses and into the bases of compatible dildos and finger vibe sleeves. It may be operated without the ring for simplicity, or with the ring up to 50 feet away. Connect more with your lover or with your own pleasure with the Charged Remote Control Panty Vibe!

Shibari Pleasure Cherry Kegel Balls

Pleasure Cherry Kegel Balls

This sweet and playful set of pink and purple kegel balls looks like it was made for Valentine’s Day! The five weighted cherries are all the same convenient size at 5.9 inches long (with 4.7 inch “stems”) and 1.38 inches in diameter, but have variable weights from 1.06 to 3.88 ounces. That sets these Cherry Kegel Balls apart from other kegel ball collections, because the user can progress through the weights without a change in size. Another feature that makes them special? These cleverly shaped vaginal weights are made from silky premium silicone with a stainless steel center, meaning they are non-porous and very easy to clean —  including the retrieval string.

Kegel weights can be a practical and fun way to tone and exercise pelvic floor muscles, increase erotic awareness and heighten sexual sensitivity, prevent incontinence, help the PC muscles prepare for and heal from childbirth, and they can contribute to stronger orgasms and a more responsive G-Spot. For more info on kegel exercises and vaginal weights, check out this helpful post on our blog!

Sutil RichSutil Rich

Just when we thought Hathor Aphrodisia had outdone themselves with their Sutil Luxe Body Glide, they came out with the incredible Sutil Rich! This brand new formulation is just as luxurious and long-lasting as the original light formulation, but with enhanced viscosity and an addition of aphrodisiac herbs. Horny Goat Weed, Ginseng Root, and Zizyphus Jujuba Fruit Extract are Chinese herbal aphrodisiac tonics traditionally used to increase stamina and vitality and boost immune functions. When used topically, they can have a mild vasodilating effect, which enhances blood flow for increased arousal and healing. Therefore, Sutil Rich could be a lovely lubricant to help ease anal and vaginal penetration and to soothe dryness and discomfort.

Sutil Rich is a thicker gel that stays put on toys and body without becoming sticky or drying. It performs much like a silicone lube, but is conveniently water-based and compatible with silicone toys. Like all of our lubricants, it is paraben-free and glycerin-free, but it is also Eco-Certified. That means it is free of synthetic perfumes or dyes, contains no GMO or animal-derived ingredients, and is manufactured by environmentally friendly processes.

Je Joue Rabbit and G-Spot Bullets

These two adorable silicone bullet vibes from Je Joue are new to the shop and have pretty much everything you could ask for in a mini vibrator. Body-safe materials that feel smooth and sensuous? Check! USB rechargeable and easy to operate? Check! Waterproof, versatile with multiple settings, and under $75? Check! Both the Rabbit and G-Spot bullets take Je Joue’s well-known pleasantly rumbly motors and pack them into compact vibes that are small but mighty.

The G-Spot Bullet, with its curved and slightly bulbous head, works well for internal or external stimulation. At a height of just over 4 inches, it may be used for shallow penetration that targets the G-Spot or as a slim and wieldy clitoral vibrator. The cute and seamless 5 inch Rabbit Bullet is a clit-hugging dream! With its two soft and semi-flexible ears that can surround a clitoris or massage the labia, it offers deep rumbling sensations that satisfy. These are not zippy little high-pitched toys you only keep around for their convenient travel size – they are luxury vibrators that prove that size doesn’t always matter.


Love’s Not Color Blind: Race & Representation in Polyamorous Communities

Thursday, May 10th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Kevin PattersonPolyamorous people and communities can appear, at first glance, to be very open and welcoming. However, in many cases, they don’t take the time to get introspective about why they may come across as unfriendly or inaccessible to people of color. Join Kevin Patterson, author of Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities, for this combined book signing, workshop, and discussion about what we can do to change that landscape.

This book-signing event comes bundled with a workshop on intersectional polyamory + a personally-driven discussion/Q&A on how race can impact polyamory on both individual and community levels. The book Love’s Not Color Blind will be 10% off the night of the class.

Kevin Patterson is an active member of the Philadelphia polyamory community. He’s been practicing ethical non-monogamy since 2002 after opening up a relationship that eventually became his marriage. In 2015, Kevin was inspired to start Poly Role Models, an interview series for people describing their experiences with polyamory. Poly Role Models is part of a drive and a desire to change the way our lives and communities are viewed. It is currently the most diverse and inclusive platform for polyamory available.

To continue the discussion of polyamorous representation, Kevin has extended the blog’s work into nationwide speaking engagements about how race and polyamory intersect. This has led to the writing of the book Love’s Not Color Blind.

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Fellatio 2.0: An Oral Sex Upgrade!

Gretchen LeighThursday, May 3rd — 7:30 p.m. — $20

You know the basics: your hand-mouth coordination is on point, you’ve timed your breathing to a T, and you have an A+ in anatomy. Now’s your chance to take things up a notch!

Join She Bop educator Gretchen Leigh as she takes you through the ins and outs and ups and downs of advanced fellatio. We’ll dive deep into deep throating, play with power dynamics (bondage, dirty talk, and CBT, anyone?), explore hot blow job techniques for non-traditional recipients including strap-ons, soft cocks, and enlarged clits, brush up on butt stuff, build ball-handling know-how, get creative with oral sex positions, and more!

Come one come all, fellatio aficionados and enthusiasts — this class is open to blow job givers and receivers of all genders and orientations. This class will include a live demo on a dildo; please feel free to bring a pen and paper if you’d like to take notes, or a toy from home if you’d like to practice as you learn!

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Sex & Cannabis

Thursday, April 19th — 7:30 p.m. — $20
Class attendees must be 21+ to attend this event.

Amory JaneWith the legalization of cannabis on the West Coast, more and more folks are exploring how this popular plant may affect their sex lives. From decreasing chronic pain, to increasing sensitivity and arousal, to helping with relaxation and body image, using cannabis has helped many people enhance their sexual experiences.

You don’t have to be a stoner to attend this class, or even need to smoke. Cannabis comes in many forms: concentrates, tinctures, edibles, flowers and topicals (including cannabis lubricant, such as the one made by Luminous Botanicals!). Amory Jane, M.A. is here to break it all down; in this workshop, she’ll share the current research on cannabis use, talk about differences between THC and CBD, and offer advice on which strains may work best for certain sexual issues. She will also help you figure out which cannabis products and methods of consumption (if any) might be a good fit for you and/or a partner, and she will dive into the real pros and cons of combining cannabis and sex.

Bonus! Free lube samples will be available to each class participant on the night of class!

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Communication in the Bedroom: Asking For What You Want

Stella HarrisWednesday, April 11th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Knowing what you want isn’t as easy as it sounds, and asking for it can be even trickier. Honesty puts us in a vulnerable place, opening us up to rejection or shame. People of all genders and sexualities have a lot of cultural baggage to work through, from messages implying that wanting sex or pleasure is slutty (and that that’s a bad thing) to ubiquitous sex tips that make it sound like we’re supposed to read our partners’ minds.

All of this sets us up for failure, and many people never take the chance to open a dialogue with their partner(s). But being able to talk about your wants and needs is the only way to get them met.

In this class we’ll talk about styles of communication, ways to put yourself and your partner at ease, and specific examples of tools and phrases to try. We’ll discuss how to start the conversation and how to incorporate communication into dirty talk. Not sure what to ask for? We’ll talk about some common fantasies you might want to try.

As always, there will be time for Q&A, and all genders and orientations are welcome.

Stella Harris is an author, educator, and coach who focuses on intimacy and connection. As a certified Intimacy Educator, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. She has presented classes for a variety of organizations including the Portland Leather Alliance, the Portland Academy of Sex Ed, Sex Positive Portland, and more, and has spoken at Portland State University, Reed College, and Pacific University. Stella is widely published in print and online, from erotic fiction to educational and lifestyle pieces on sex and kink.

Stella hopes to build a world where everyone has the tools and confidence to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame.

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BJs with AJ: A Fellatio Workshop

Amory JaneThursday, March 29th — 7:30 pm — $20

HEADS UP! Are you a giver who wants to blow your lover’s mind with your incredible oral sex skills? Are you a receiver who wants to learn how to communicate your fantasies and help your partner have fun and be comfortable while going down? Then come one, come all! This is a blowjob class for everyone!

Amory Jane will talk about anatomy, blowjob positions, teasing, mouth and tongue techniques, what to do with your hands, and how to ask for what you want. She will cover sloppy BJs, deep throating, gagging, and playing with power dynamics. She will also share ideas on making oral sex more stimulating and pleasurable for the giver and dealing with issues such as TMJ or neck pain.

This workshop includes a live demo on a strap-on dildo. Bring a pen and paper if you like to take notes, and a dildo from home if you like to practice as you learn!

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Reclaiming the Pelvic Floor: Tools for Total-Body Health

Wednesday, March 14th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

When you’re sick you take cold meds, when you tweak your back you rest and stretch — but what do you do when it’s your pelvic floor that needs a little TLC? If you’ve ever wondered if you’re kegeling correctly, if you’ve noticed a little leakage while jumping (or sneezing, or running, or laughing…), if you’re struggling with regular low back pain, or if you just want to know what’s really going on inside your body when you squat, bend over, or pick something up, this class is for you!

Join Holistic Chiropractor Dr. Maria McNash and Sex Educator and Personal Trainer Gretchen Leigh for a fun, informative workshop on anatomy, tips for detecting dysfunction, and tools for creating a stronger, healthier, happier pelvis.

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The Joys of Toys!

Sunday, February 11th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Join She Bop’s very own Gretchen for an evening of education and fun. Ever wandered around a sex toy shop and wondered “what the heck is that?” Never fear, Gretchen will answer those burning (in a good way) questions and then some!

In this class you will learn how sex toys originated and have advanced throughout history. Gretchen will explain the different types of toys, what they are used for and what they are made from, including vibrators, dildos, kegel exercisers, anal toys, toys for BDSM and more. Of course, don’t forget one of the most important things of all… yes, that would be lube! Gretchen will go over the different types of lube, as well as the ingredients to be aware of when selecting the best product for you. She will also address how to clean and store your toys so that you can enjoy them for as long as possible.

Additionally, Gretchen will give pointers on how to select a toy or gift for someone else — just in time for your Valentine’s Day shopping!

As a special bonus, class attendees get 10% off their purchases in She Bop the night of the Joys of Toys class!

This workshop is open to all genders and sexual appetites!

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Introduction to Rope Bondage

Wednesday, May 16th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

stella-harris-ropeDoes the idea of restraint turn you on? Do you want to learn the building blocks of rope bondage? In this class, Stella Harris will teach you basic safety along with the single column tie, double column tie, and a simple chest harness. With these fundamentals you will be able to improvise and create many different bondage positions and hot scenarios. You’ll also learn ways to use rope to build intimacy and connection while you’re tying, and tricks to help you build confidence as a beginner.

It’s ideal if you attend this class with a practice partner (please note that the $20 registration is per person), but folks who come alone may be able to pair off with other students, and most of these ties can also be practiced solo. Please bring rope if you have it, but some practice rope will be available. Absolute beginners are encouraged to attend!

Stella Harris is an author, educator, and coach who focuses on intimacy and connection. As a certified Intimacy Educator, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. She has presented classes for a variety of organizations including the Portland Leather Alliance, the Portland Academy of Sex Ed, Sex Positive Portland, and more, and has spoken at Portland State University, Reed College, and Pacific University. Stella is widely published in print and online, from erotic fiction to educational and lifestyle pieces on sex and kink.

Stella hopes to build a world where everyone has the tools and confidence to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame.

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10% Tuesdays in January for In Other Words

In Other Words

Throughout the month of January, 10% of our proceeds made on Tuesdays will be donated to In Other Words, a non-profit, volunteer-run, feminist community center in NE Portland. Their mission is to support, enrich, and empower the feminist community through literature, art, and educational and cultural events.

In Other Words’ bookstore includes books on feminism, queer and transgender studies, sexuality, and activism/politics, as well as alternative children’s books that are not easily found at other bookstores. Their resource center offers information on topics such as health and wellness, therapy and counseling, sexual and reproductive help, transgender issues, LGBTQ support and advocacy, birth and parenting, education, housing, activism and social change, and places to contact in crisis situations.

In Other Words also supports local artists, craftspeople, musicians, performers, and writers by providing a venue for events and a space for selling art. They are one of the few spaces in Portland where artists and musicians can hold events for free and where people can attend all-ages events for low, sliding scale costs.

Most recently, In Other Words has created a free lending library, which enables everyone to find radical books in a space that is accessible to all economic demographics. Go sign up for a library card today, and come visit us on any Tuesday in January to support In Other Words!

In Other Words can also be found on Facebook and Twitter.


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