May
30

Introduction to Rope Bondage

Sunday, August 6th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

stella-harris-ropeDoes the idea of restraint turn you on? Do you want to learn the building blocks of rope bondage? In this class, Stella Harris will teach you basic safety along with the single column tie, double column tie, and a simple chest harness. With these fundamentals you will be able to improvise and create many different bondage positions and hot scenarios. You’ll also learn ways to use rope to build intimacy and connection while you’re tying, and tricks to help you build confidence as a beginner.

It’s ideal if you attend this class with a practice partner (please note that the $20 registration is per person), but folks who come alone may be able to pair off with other students, and most of these ties can also be practiced solo. Please bring rope if you have it, but some practice rope will be available. Absolute beginners are encouraged to attend!

Stella Harris is an author, educator, and coach who focuses on intimacy and connection. As a certified Intimacy Educator, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. She has presented classes for a variety of organizations including the Portland Leather Alliance, the Portland Academy of Sex Ed, Sex Positive Portland, and more, and has spoken at Portland State University, Reed College, and Pacific University. Stella is widely published in print and online, from erotic fiction to educational and lifestyle pieces on sex and kink.

Stella hopes to build a world where everyone has the tools and confidence to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame.

Limited space available — sign up online!

May
30

10% Tuesdays in June for the Q Center

On each Tuesday in June, 10% of our sales will go to the Q Center, the wonderful LGBTQ community center just around the corner from us in North Portland. The Q Center is an absolute gem of an organization; here’s their description of what they do:

Q Center is a 501c3 non-profit organization with a mission to increase the visibility of and foster connection within metropolitan Portland’s Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Questioning (LGBTQ) community. The center builds public awareness and support, and celebrates LGBTQ diversity through art, culture, and collaborative community programming.

There are dozens of events and groups that meet here, some focused on specific topics (like coming out or gender identity) and others aimed at fun social interactions (like sing-along piano cabarets or craft nights). Entry to most of these is sliding-scale and run by dedicated volunteers, keeping Q Center truly community-driven and accessible.

In addition to our programmatic offerings, our 5,000 sq/ft facility is also a safe and friendly place to spend an afternoon. With our monthly art exhibits, extensive library collection, Resource Wall, and free WiFi access, there’s always something to see and learn here at Q Center.

Come visit us and find a new toy on any Tuesday in June, and 10% of your purchase will go to the Q Center!

Bonus: give the Q Center some social media love by following them on Facebook and Twitter! Also check out some video interviews with the people who make the Q Center tick on YouTube.

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May
21

Jade Egg: A Tool To Increase Your Vitality, Health & Pleasure

Kim KellerThursday, August 3rd — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Energy amplifies whenever intention, focus, desire and hearts meet.

The use of a yoni-stone or Jade Egg to strengthen the vagina is an ancient practice that evolved thousands of years ago in China, and is now gaining tremendous popularity here in the West. Today, we utilize this ancient practice to enliven, open, heal, and energetically cleanse yoni (vagina), as well as strengthen and understand our pelvic region in ways we may have not previously understood. Jade Egg is known to increase overall health, vitality and libido while expanding your access to pleasure. Far, far more than just a vaginal exercise device, in this introductory workshop you will learn the basics of this potent practice, and why it is important to your overall vitality.

Kim Keller is a Certified Tantric Educator and Intimacy Coach from Ashland, OR. Trained in a wide range of modalities, Kim specializes in teaching a variety of methods for bringing the sacred into your sexuality. Kim delights in sharing intimate secrets to support all genders in finding more pleasure, joy, vitality and healing in both intimacy and in life.

Note: This introductory class will not include the actual use of a Jade Egg, however, Kim will be offering a Jade Egg Immersion in Portland on Sunday, January 15th.

Limited space available — sign up online!

May
21

Fellatio 2.0: An Oral Sex Upgrade!

Gretchen Leigh

Wednesday, July 26th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

You know the basics: your hand-mouth coordination is on point, you’ve timed your breathing to a T, and you have an A+ in anatomy. Now’s your chance to take things up a notch!

Join She Bop educator Gretchen Leigh as she takes you through the ins and outs and ups and downs of advanced fellatio. We’ll dive deep into deep throating, play with power dynamics (bondage, dirty talk, and CBT, anyone?), explore hot blow job techniques for non-traditional recipients including strap-ons, soft cocks, and enlarged clits, brush up on butt stuff, build ball-handling know-how, get creative with oral sex positions, and more!

Come one come all, fellatio aficionados and enthusiasts — this class is open to blow job givers and receivers of all genders and orientations. This class will include a live demo on a dildo; please feel free to bring a pen and paper if you’d like to take notes, or a toy from home if you’d like to practice as you learn!

Limited space available — sign up online!

May
21

Dropping the Hint, Not the Ball: Flirting 101 with Andre Shakti

Sunday, July 16th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

Andre ShaktiIn today’s “how-­to” age, there are more contradictory and harmful myths about flirting than there is practical advice. “Don’t fuck on the first date!” “Play hard to get!” “Don’t talk about past relationships!” “Wear something flattering, but not too conservative or revealing!” Hardly ever do these instructions account for diversity in sexual orientation, gender identity, or relationship style, let alone personal preference! Join performer, educator, and professional flirt Andre Shakti as she discusses the self-­imposed “roadblocks” that make flirting difficult and helps you leverage your individual personality style to maximize your flirting success without losing sight of who you are and what you REALLY want!

Andre Shakti is a journalist, educator, performer, activist, and professional slut living in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is devoted to normalizing alternative desires, de-stigmatizing sex workers and their clients, and not taking herself too seriously. Andre wrestles mediocre white men into submission and writes about sex work, queerness and non-monogamy for Cosmopolitan, Rewire, Thrillist, MEL, Vice, Autostraddle, and more. Andre is the reigning “polyamory pundit” at her non-monogamy advice column, “I Am Poly & So Can You!”, which you can visit — and submit questions to! — via IAmPoly.net. Visit her on Twitter @andreshakti, on FB as Andre Shakti, and as a pleasure professional on the new inclusive educational platform O.School.

Limited space available — sign up online!

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May
21

Living With Pelvic Pain

Alyssa Kubitz

Thursday, July 13th — 7:30 p.m. — $15

Many people suffer from chronic pain in the vulvar/vaginal area and may be diagnosed with Vulvodynia and/or Vulvar Vestibulitis. This discomfort, whether during sex or simply while going about your day, may feel extremely frustrating and isolating if you don’t have a community with whom to talk about it. In this class, you will learn about care, treatment, and techniques to help when you are in a flare, plus tools for emotional support. Additionally, you will learn some more non-invasive ways to care for yourself such as diet, EFT Tapping, meditation, and stretches. The class will conclude with a 30 minute yoga session, so be sure to wear comfortable clothes and bring a mat/towel!

Alyssa Kubitz has been a certified yoga instructor for the past 3 years and has been practicing for 10. She is also certified in Reiki II and has 15 years of firsthand experience with pelvic pain.

Limited space available — sign up online!

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May
1

8 Common Masturbation Myths — Debunked!

8 Common Masturbation Myths -- Debunked!

May is National Masturbation Month! In years past we’ve talked about the benefits of masturbation, switching up your routine, and how to get comfortable with masturbation. This year, we wanted to cover masturbation myths.

We all know by now that masturbation isn’t going to give you hairy palms or cause blindness, but there are still myths out there that are harder to shake. Here are 8 of the most common masturbation myths we’ve heard — and why they aren’t true.

1. Masturbation is a substitute for sex with another person. Aspartame is a substitute sweetener for folks who can’t have or don’t want real sugar, and many people out there think of masturbation in the same way as aspartame — a substitute for when someone “can’t get the real deal.”

Masturbation isn’t a temporary stand-in or a step down from “real” sexual activity, though. It is a normal and healthy part of sexuality and sexual expression, and plenty of people who regularly have sex with others still choose to masturbate. Just because it is often a solo act doesn’t mean it isn’t a type of real sex. In fact, masturbation has many of the same benefits partnered sex offers (stress relief, mood boosting, fighting insomnia, feeling good about your body, etc.) but also allows you to take your sex life into your own hands — literally! Masturbation is 100% the real deal and can be just as sexually satisfying as sex with partners — sometimes even more so.

2. Masturbation doesn’t deserve as much attention as your partnered sex life. Many people, especially those socialized as women, are taught that anything we do that centers ourselves is considered selfish. That kind of thinking often leaves us as the last person we take care of in our own lives, which means many people learn how to please partners but have little to no idea what works for their own bodies. Not only can that feel disempowering, but it can also make it harder to communicate with sexual partners who want to help us feel good or reach orgasm. If we devote energy to our solo sex lives and set aside time for self-pleasure, we feel more empowered all around and we also have better partnered sex because we can let other people know what we want or how we prefer to be touched.

3. There is a wrong way to masturbate. While asking around about masturbation myths, one thing that kept coming up was that a lot of people grew up thinking there was only one “correct” way of masturbating. For people with vulvas, they often thought that anything outside of lying on their backs and masturbating with their fingers was “wrong,” and for people with penises, they thought that jerking off with one hand while sitting or standing were the only “normal” ways to touch themselves.

However, people masturbate in all sorts of ways — humping pillows, using sex toys, playing with their butts, masturbating on their stomachs, rubbing everyday objects on their genitals, cutting holes into foam mattresses and going to town — and they’re all normal! The only wrong way to masturbate is if you’re doing it in a way that violates another person’s consent (such as masturbating on a crowded bus). Beyond that, explore, have fun, and if you’re sticking anything in your ass, make sure it has a flared base or loop for easy retrieval!

4. Masturbation with fingers/hands only is “more pure” than with sex toys. Nonsense! When it comes to masturbation, it’s all about discovering what feels good and works for you personally. While many people love using their hands and fingers, billions of people all over the world, past and present, have used sex toys. For as long as humans have been humans, we’ve used objects to give ourselves and others pleasure, and there is nothing unnatural or impure about it. Some people can’t use hands/fingers to touch themselves and have a much easier time using toys, while others may simply prefer the texture, shape, or vibration that toys offer, and tons of people love having the option to choose based on their mood. However you decide to play is all good if it’s working for you.

5. If you use vibrators too much, you won’t be able to orgasm without them anymore. Firstly, using a vibrator can help many people orgasm who have difficulty reaching orgasm otherwise. Some of those people may continue to use a vibrator every time they want to have an orgasm and others are able to train their bodies and get off manually after toys have helped them become more easily orgasmic. Both are fine!

For those who were climaxing on their own without the help of toys and then started using vibrators, most report that they generally like to switch things up and sometimes get off with vibrators and sometimes get off in other ways. They choose what works best for them in the moment, and many people are into having a variety of options. Then again, many people are also into efficiency, and vibrators can be very efficient! So, some people will choose to grab their vibrator nearly every time, but it doesn’t mean they can’t reach orgasm without them anymore. It just means they might be favoring how easily orgasms come to them with vibration.

If you’re nervous that you’ve been relying on your vibrator too much, try taking a break from vibes for a few days and using your hands. It might take a little while to retrain your body to respond to sensations that aren’t vibration, but if you were able to come before without vibration, you should be able to come again without it.

6. If you have a partner, masturbation is cheating. Taking care of yourself and being in touch with your own body is important. Masturbating alone, even if you’re viewing porn, is not cheating. If your partner feels threatened by your masturbation habits, have a conversation about why. Perhaps they are worried that you will not have desire left for them if you masturbate (which is another myth – the great majority of masturbators still like having sex with their partners even when they masturbate often) or perhaps they feel insecure because the porn you watch leaves them wondering if you are desiring someone or something else.

If masturbation is causing issues in your relationship, communicate openly and compassionately with each other about concerns and insecurities and find a way to make sure you’re sharing physical intimacy with each other regularly.

7. Masturbation is just “a means to an end” and should be over with quickly rather than indulging in it. The great thing about masturbation is that you’re in charge, so it can last as long as you want it to last! That may mean getting off in under two minutes with a Womanizer before heading to work, or it may mean a weekend getaway where you spend most of it naked and touching yourself in as many ways as possible. Just like partnered sex, masturbation can be anything from a quickie to a full weekend of romance and savoring sensations.

If you’re a person who is often goal-oriented (i.e orgasm focused) when you masturbate, try switching it up every once in a while by slowing down and taking some extra time to explore your body in new ways and treat it as an act of self-love and self-care. 

8. Masturbation can only be done alone. While most people think of masturbation as something to do alone, it absolutely doesn’t have to be a solo act! Mutual masturbation, where two (or more) people are masturbating together, can be incredibly hot and has tons of benefits. Besides being very sexy to watch/hear, it can be a wonderful way to learn how someone else likes to be touched and a way of showing off your own preferences. Mutual masturbation is also great because it offers an alternative to penetrative play and is a low risk activity in terms of pregnancy and STI transmission. If you’ve never tried it before, consider giving it a chance. You may find that masturbating with or for someone else is one of your new favorite ways to enjoy sex!

Have you heard of any other masturbation myths that we didn’t cover? Feel free to leave them in the comments. Happy Masturbation Month, everyone!

Apr
30

10% Tuesdays in May for TransActive’s In A Bind program

Throughout the month of May, 10% of all purchases made at She Bop on Tuesdays will go to TransActive’s In A Bind program! TransActive is a Portland-based non-profit that provides a wide range of services to transgender and gender nonconforming children, youth, and their families. Their In A Bind program provides chest binders to trans-masculine youth in need. It is the first national chest binder donation/distribution program, with over 1,300 people on the waiting list for a binder.

All proceeds from this fundraiser will be used to purchase binders from our distributor and donate them to TransActive. You are also welcome to visit the shop to donate binders.

So come on down to the shop on any Tuesday in May to support this amazing program. Be sure to follow TransActive on Facebook and Twitter.

Apr
30

BJs with AJ: A Fellatio Workshop

Amory JaneThursday, June 29th — 7:30 pm — $20

HEADS UP! Are you a giver who wants to blow your lover’s mind with your incredible oral sex skills? Are you a receiver who wants to learn how to communicate your fantasies and help your partner have fun and be comfortable while going down? Then come one, come all! This is a blowjob class for everyone!

Amory Jane will talk about anatomy, blowjob positions, teasing, mouth and tongue techniques, what to do with your hands, and how to ask for what you want. She will cover sloppy BJs, deep throating, gagging, and playing with power dynamics. She will also share ideas on making oral sex more stimulating and pleasurable for the giver and dealing with issues such as TMJ or neck pain.

This workshop includes a live demo on a strap-on dildo. Bring a pen and paper if you like to take notes, and a dildo from home if you like to practice as you learn!

Limited space available — sign up online!

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Apr
23

Curvy Sex: Body Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life

Sunday, June 4th — 7:30 pm. — $20

Elle ChaseYou don’t have to be skinny to have the best sex of your life! In this class, inspired by Elle Chase’s new book, Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life, you’ll learn Elle’s favorite tips, tricks, and positions for all curvy body types, including the sex accessories that work best for your body shape and size! Find out which items you might already have at home and how to use them for amazing, enlightened sex, plus get all your curvy sex questions answered by a certified expert! So whether you’ve got a little junk in the trunk, are pleasingly plump, or beautifully buxom, this unique workshop will help you enjoy toe-curling sex! This class is inclusive of all gender expressions and sexual identities.

Elle Chase, ACS is a certified sex educator, body-acceptance activist, and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life. Elle’s work has been featured on the Today Show, Huffington Post, Glamour, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan among others. She is also the founder and director of education for the Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education and the creator of the award-winning websites LadyCheeky.com (nsfw) and SmutForSmarties.com.

Limited space available — sign up online!

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